π This is a love letter to Motherhood: to the women who chose it and the women who had to, ft. my blood mom.
While women are highlighted these days more for professional successes and achieving independence, I wanted to take this opportunity gifted by
@photovogue to highlight mothers, who, like mine, have the majority of their life's work represented by that their children survived---many times at the sacrifice of their mother's own youthful life.
Nobody talks about how mothers lose 18+ years, per child, of the freedom to chase dreams, travel, go out, build hobbies that aren't based in the home. To do that in the prime years of your youth? That's your entire life--a sacrifice I honor here.
When I ask my mom about her hobbies, who she is, what she does for fun, or who is she friends with, she doesn't have an abundant answer. I never understood until realizing that the prime years to form those were given to my sister & I. It's an ultimate sacrifice impossible to pay back that children & society seldom gives enough credit to.
She grew up eating plain rice & fish sauce as a primary meal, because her family lost everything in a big fire. She also faced the Vietnam war and abuse & infidelity,
but chose courage & resilience and didn't abandon me or my sister, raising us with a single income: 3 mouths, 1 paycheck--at the cost of her own luxuries and nutrition, often barely weighing 90 lbs.
If you look at the 5th photo, you'll see the change from when I was born until now: all her youth.
She also seldom smiles, which is why these photos are special, because after us, she found purpose again in mothering her dog: Nugget, who returns maximum gratitude: the one gift a parent wants--that their children make it and acknowledge them.
Every morning before 5am work, she walks him with a cane in one hand, because there are coyotes and one was inches away from snatching him one time.
It took 4 days to figure out how to write a "love letter" with a photograph, not just show Love.
It was also important to me to show her age & show the life she's gone through. If you hold the title of Mother, these photos are for you.
Thank you
@photovogue for this #PVMondayLoveLetters