🚨PSA - CALLING ALL MEN IN PAIN. CALLING ALL DISABLED MEN. CALLING ALL MALE MENTAL HEALTH ADVOCATES 🚨
I’m looking for men in pain. I’m looking for a vulnerable Bros that open to talking about their situation and are not shy with their own struggles.
This is not to say I’m not interested in all the incredible women doing all the great work in disability, pain, mental health and spreading awareness of vulnerabilities, I appreciate all of you and you all inspire me daily.
But, having run pain cafés, working in public health and being a content creator… I’m struggling to find other male influencers who are trying to promote the same thing. I know that pain disproportionally affects women, so obviously we will see more female influencers talking about their pain. Add the fact that men are often less likely to talk about their suffering, this means that it’s more important than ever that we have male voices speaking about persistent pain, disability and poor mental health.
so if you’re reading this and you’re a man who experiences any of the stuff I’ve spoken about, please comment below or drop me a DM and let’s see if we can help support each other on this difficult journey #chronicpain #men #mentalhealth #speakup
So I (@guidedbykai ) recently went on the @sitdownwithuspod to talk about the YouTube channel I started @theguidedbyseries ✅
@zaraborji brought up the topic of dating and it only felt right to mention the @commentsectioncouple page I created with @lucymay_music 💚
Now I know this sounds crazy, but we was actually only dating when we created the account. Now however, ITS OFFICIAL 👨⚖️
After surprising Lucy to a trip to a cabin in the middle of nowhere, I decided to ask her to officially be my girlfriend and she said YES 🙌
This meant even more to me (kai) as I asked her on the anniversary of my accident (08/05/2015) so not only am I with the most incredible women, but this day is now a day of celebration instead of a day of sorrow.
Shoutout both @faith_hiles & @zaraborji for having me on the @sitdownwithuspod and definitely go follow @commentsectioncouple to stay up to date with Us… we have some exciting content planned 💚 #dating #hardlaunch #podcast #viral
I was recently asked by @flippinpain to be on a panel for a Q&A in Wakefield.
The talk was discussing all things persistent pain to a room filled with healthcare professionals. These healthcare professionals varied from people who work in mental health to health practitioners that help manage peoples weight.
I found it really interesting that people in pain, people who are over/under weight and people who struggle with their mental health all have one thing in common… their conditions are comprise of three distinct parts -Biological - Psychological & Sociological factors - which grouped is called biopsychosocial factors.
The beautiful thing about this understanding is it means that you have more methods of managing these conditions and health constructs. For example, with mental health we all know the SSRI and antidepressants can be prescribed, but we also know the side-effects of these medications can sometimes be as bad as the condition itself. So there’s alternatives like talking therapies, art therapies, physical exercise, diet etc that can all help manage a mental health condition. Similarly, for Weight management, We now know that people can go on Ozempic (although we don’t necessarily understand the negative repercussions of this yet 😅) as well as do more traditional weight management methods surrounding diet and exercise.
So why is it when you go to the GP do they only ever traditionally offer you medications or surgeries? Why is biology seen as more important for pain conditions than psychology or sociology?
If you live in pain and you haven’t asked these questions and would like to… check out the @flippinpain website and follow both them and myself @guidedbykai for more ✅ #persistentpain #flippinpain #publicspeaker
It’s the last day of #limblossawarenessmonth and me and @truesdaleamy have to show you how monumentally different we are despite having very similar disabilities ♿️
This month is about understanding what it’s like to have a limb difference, so if you want to show your support, why don’t you drop @guidedbykai & @truesdaleamy a follow and show some love 💚
Shout out Amy for all the help with training 💪 let’s see what more one-arm exercises I can work on 💯 #paralympian #disabledfitness #disabilityawareness
WE JUST GOT MARRIED 💍
yes, after finally plucking up the courage, I asked the beautiful @zaraborji
To be my wife and we tied the knot at @hospitiumweddings 💒
If you haven’t clocked on yet, THIS IS AN APRIL FOOLS JOKE 😂 although don’t be too disheartened, because although myself and Zara arnt married, we have released an podcast together, alongside another beautiful @zebedeetalent model @faith_hiles 🥰
These two have a podcast called @sitdownwithuspod where they discussed all things disability, dating, modelling and more.
On today’s episode, I was invited to talk about my YouTube channel @theguidedbyseries where I’m attempting to do 30 life change challenges before I’m 30, my story and more.
We also discuss this wedding shoot and the incredible accessible wedding venue on the pod, so if that interests you, there’s another reason to go check it out.
Shoutout everyone involved in this incredible day of shooting 📸
Concept & Planning // @dashery_events
Venue Styling &
Flowers // @pinkgingerflowers
Photographer // @jennakathleenphotographer
Braille & Large Print // @dotandtype Stationery |/ @storysofarstationery
Dress |/ @junobridalwear
Suit // @antichhuddersfield
MUA // @amycollinsmua
Hair Stylist // @jf.styling
Celebrant // @your_best_life_celebrant
Cake // @badcherrybakery
Jewellery I/ @harryrockslondon
Accessible Venue // @hospitiumweddings
Models //
@zaraborji and @guidedbykai (via @zebedeetalent )
Confetti // @yourconfetti
Furniture // @your_marquee
And once again shout out @sitdownwithuspod for this great opportunity 💚
#colourfulweddingphotography #accessiblewedding #inclusivewedding #aprilfoolsday #aprilfool
“something wrong with my legs” 🦵
Shout out @truesdaleamy for all the incredible support with my fitness challenge.
If you haven’t checked out the YouTube channel, go click the link in my bio OR simply type ‘the guided by series’ into the YouTube search bar to stay up to date with all I’m doing this year.
I’ve got a very exciting year planned filled with lots of adventure personal growth and particularly daunting challenge. So you ain’t gonna wanna miss this.
More videos dropping very soon, so stay tuned.
As always to follow @theguidedbyseries & @guidedbykai ✅ #fitnesschallange #personalgrowthjourney #fitnessjourney #paralympian
Becoming your best self isn’t about perfection. It’s about progress. It starts with self-acceptance — learning to stop being your own biggest critic and becoming your own safe place instead. You can’t grow in an environment where you constantly tear yourself down.
Discipline matters more than motivation. Motivation fades. Feelings change. But small daily habits? They build the future version of you. Show up even when it’s boring. Show up when it’s uncomfortable. Show up when nobody is clapping.
Protect your energy like it’s sacred. Not every opinion deserves your attention. Not every opportunity deserves your time. Boundaries aren’t selfish — they’re necessary.
And finally, embrace discomfort. The conversations you avoid, the risks you delay, the fears you keep postponing — that’s where your next level is hiding. Growth doesn’t feel safe. It feels stretching.
This is your reminder: you’re allowed to grow at your own pace. You’re allowed to forgive yourself. You’re allowed to evolve.
Which one do you need to work on most right now? 👇🏽
If you’d like to follow my journey of self-discovery, growth and personal development, then subscribe to my YouTube @theguidedbyseries 📺
Support appreciated, and I’m always eager to learn and collaborate! So if this interests you get him a DM’s 📈
#SelfGrowth #MindsetShift #BeYourBest #PersonalDevelopment Discipline SelfAcceptance LevelUp HealingJourney
Gen Z are 20x more likely to be abstinent from alcohol… and honestly, that says a lot.
For ‘The Guided By Series: 30 by 30 Challenge’ im choosing clarity over chaos and stepping away from alcohol.
No judgment. Just growth 📈
#GuidedByKai #TheGuidedBySeries #30by30 #GenZ #SoberCurious #QuitAlcohol #MindsetShift #SelfGrowth #LifeUpdate
Today’s @treksonline 23rd Birthday (so comment “happy birthday 🎉”) to celebrate his birthday please go show some love to his latest release ‘Grown’ ✅
Treks works with renowned artists like @aitch , and it would be great to see him shine as bright as the artists he supports and works with ✨
It cost nothing to show your support, it’s completely free to stream his music, and a follow means very little to you, but can mean a great deal to this young artist. So please go show some love and let’s make this guys dream a reality.
A little story about @treksonline 💬:
last year when I was suffering from a really bad stint of bad mental health, trek’s surprised me with tickets to see @feliciathegoat alongside his @thisisnq work family. It was something that really helped me at a time when I really needed it, and now it’s my time to pay him back for all the love. So if you support me, show my family that same love 💚
Shares, likes, comments appreciated… let’s see what social media can do fr #supportcreatives #aitch #0161 #ukrap
