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Dr. Alex Iantaffi

@xtaffi

Systemic Thinking for Liberation Author x 7 Family Therapist Public Speaker Host @genderstories Embodiment ✨Pleasure✨ Spirituality✨Connection✨
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Today the @transrightsreadathon begins!!! Please participate, read books by trans+ authors, and donate to @pointofprideorg and @translawcenter and @transjusticefp and local community groups like @tigerrsmpls ! You have the rest of March so get reading! And if you’re looking for some nonfiction books! I’ve got you covered on a few subjects 😊 And yes, this is shameless self-promotion because, honestly, for most of us trans authors, that’s the only promotion we’re going to get! Anyway, the world keeps being a transphobic dumpster fire and I still have to pay my bills, so please buy my books, or borrow them from your local library, or recommend them to your colleagues, families, and friends! Thank you! #TransAuthor #TransRightsReadathon #trr2026
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1 month ago
Hello! There are quite a new followers so I thought I’d take a moment to re-introduce myself on this a-tad-too-warm Friday evening! I am a trans masculine, nonbinary, bisexual, queer, polyam, disabled and neurodivergent award-winning author, scholar, speaker, educator, clinical supervisor, sex therapist, gender specialist, somatic experiencing practitioner, and family therapist. I’m currently in my early 50s and I was a University-based scholar for 20 years but, over the past nine years, I have been pursuing my work outside of academia. I also love consulting with both individuals and organizations. As part of my commitment to engage with you more, you can expect me to talk about the following topics in the next few months: ㅤ - Relationships - Spirituality - Parenting - Gender - Sexuality - Disability - Self care and community care - Mental Health - Trauma ㅤ I have an email newsletter you can sign up for in my bio & I always welcome constructive feedback! Thank you for following me & don’t hesitate to comment & let me know why you follow me or what content you’d like to see more of on my page! CONTINUED IN COMMENTS (because I wrote too much 🙃) Photo: @wolfskull_creative #TransAuthor #TransCEO #TransSpeaker #TransPodcaster #TransTherapist #TransSexTherapist #MFTLife #TransMFT #TransSomaticPractitioner #BuildingCommunity #Connecting #Introductions [ID: a photo of me, a light-skinned, nonbinary, trans masculine person in their 50s, smiling while holding their glasses in their hands. I’m sitting on concrete steps wearing sparkling, trans flag colored @converse shoes, a casual, blue linen suit with a t-shirt by @eliconleymusic that says I love trans folks with all my being.]
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1 year ago
I love my smart, loving, caring daughter @m00lissa so much! She’s the moon indeed! And I’ll never tire to sing to her or hold her when she needs, or just wants me to. I feel so grateful to be her parent, to have dreamed of her, to have brought her into the world, to have carried her, and to have her in my life, everyday. #ProudParent #ItalianParent #QueerParent #BestDaughterInTheWorld
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Another short extract from last week’s episode of Warm Take Wednesdays with Dr Alex. This one was on how “sanism is everywhere”, and why it often harms those of us who are already marginalized. I also talked about Mad Pride as well as the anti-psychiatry movement, a topic close to my heart since childhood. Full episode is available on my YouTube channel (link in bio), or wherever you listen to podcasts! If you watch / listen to it, please let me know what you think! Next week’s topic: our mental health is getting worse (and it’s not our fault)! Want to suggest a topic? Contact me via my website or DM me! Thank you! Finally, if you are listening to this podcast, Warm Take Wednesdays, and enjoying it, please consider posting a review on whichever platform you listen to podcasts on. Thank you! #WarmTakeWednesdaysWithDrAlex #SystemicThinking #SystemicEducator #Sanism #MentalHealthAwarenessMonth
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This comes up regularly in clinical supervision so I thought I would share some thoughts about it here! Also, remember to sign up for my first, free therapy learning club session on May 29th (see last slide for more info and link in bio to register). Thanks! Image description in comments. #SystemicTherapy #SystemicThinking #TherapyEducation #MFTLife #SystemicEducator
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3 days ago
This is what happens when you have a Gen Z kid who is your social media manager 😊 Thank you to @m00lissa for making this sweet reel of Caramello, the puppy we rescued last Fall when he was 4 months old, and I. I couldn’t have asked for a sweeter puppy! 💜 #RescuePets #PuppyLove #AnimalCompanions
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5 days ago
A few Saturday thoughts on Systemic Therapy and a new free, monthly offering for therapists who want to keep growing & learning from systemic perspectives. Coaches, educators, allied healthcare providers, and space-holders (e.g., spiritual companions, chaplains, etc) are also welcome. If you would like to register for my new, monthly, free therapy learning club. Link is in bio, as usual. Thanks! #SystemicTherapy #SystemicThinking #TherapyEducation #MFTLife #SystemicEducator Image description in comments
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7 days ago
What is a relationship ecosystem? Join us and find out more by signing up for our asynchronous course “mapping your relationship ecosystems” Pay once and get lifetime access to the course! Sign up at the link in bio #onlinecourses #relationships #mentalhealth #personalgrowth
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Revisiting some thoughts from a past newsletter that still feel relevant & indeed quite alive today. What is helping you cope nowadays?
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9 days ago
I recorded another live episode of Warm Take Wednesdays with Dr Alex today. Since May is Mental Health Awareness month, I’m focusing this month’s episodes on this subject. Today I talked about sanism, the anti-psychiatry movement, Mad Pride, and why it’s important to challenge ideas of “normality” within mental health (as well as everywhere of course). If you’d like to give the episode a listen, it’s available on my YouTube channel right now (link in bio as usual) and it will be available wherever you listen to podcasts soon. Thanks! Are there any topics you’d like me to tackle next? I’m open to feedback & suggestions! #Sanism #MentalHealthAwarenessMonth #ChallengeNormality #WarmTakeWednesdaysWithDrAlex #MadPride
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10 days ago
Mapping your relationship ecosystems is a course made by @loveuncommon and @xtaffi all about exploring, understanding, and being intentional in relationships. This is an in demand asynchronous course, pay once for lifetime access to all the content! Find the course on my website (link in bio) Interested in other content by us? Follow or check out our websites #onlinecourses #relationships #mentalhealth #selfdiscovery
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May 5th is the National Day of Awareness for Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Relatives. It’s a day of remembrance but also of action and accountability, because colonial gendered violence is not only ongoing but also erased, minimized, or ignored. Indigenous girls, women, and two-spirit people are murdered at 10x the national average. Homicide is roughly the third leading cause of death among Indigenous girls and women between 10 and 24 years old. 10,248 missing Indigenous persons reports were filed with the FBI in 2024. There were probably many more missing cases and murders that were not accounted for. It’s hard to know exactly how many lives are lost to murder & systemic violence, because there is no reliable nationwide count. This is due to a number of factors, including racial misclassification of MMIWR cases, and general case underreporting. In 2016, out of 5,712 reports of missing Indigenous women and girls, only 116 were put into the national information clearinghouse and resource center for missing, unidentified, and unclaimed person cases. 95% of cases identified by the Urban Indian Health Institute have not been covered by mainstream media. Even in the few cases when media covers these murders, they often portray victims in a negative light by mentioning drugs or alcohol use, the victim’s criminal history, if she had one, and sex work, if this was involved. They give false information, misgender the victim when trans, nonbinary, and/or two-spirit, and even make excuses for the perpetrators by using victim-blaming language. The 10 states with the highest rates of American Indian/Alaska Native missing persons cases in 2025, in the so-called United States, were AK, AZ, OK, WA, NM, CA, MT, NC, SD, and TX. This is a national (and international) crisis but it’s not treated as such, which it’s one of the reasons this day exists. If this is new information for you, and you want to find out more, the National Indigenous Women’s Resource Centre can be a good place to start. You can also check out local events in your area for the National Week of Action for MMIWR. Info @niwrc #MMIWR #NoMoreStolenSisters #WhyWeWearRed
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