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Ask nicely, they say. What if I ask directly? Still with respect, yet straight to the point.
When we approach life - a job interview, a negotiation, an argument with your partner - being clear about what we feel and what we need, we do justice to ourselves.
People-pleasing on the other hand, it's a shortcut to not voicing your opinion and what you truly want/need.
People-pleasing, sugarcoating, they have a price. It's living the life others want you to have, instead of building the one you want to live.
If you'd like to explore how to build it, coaching can help. Reach out if you're curios to know how.
Someone has to say it, so here it is: rest is the fuel of productivity, not a threat to it.
We often see work and rest as polar opposites. That's where the guilt about taking time off generates. One is productive, the other is not. I must earn my right to rest.
Let's unpack and try to reframe this.
What if work proves our ability to do things, and rest proves our ability to take care of ourselves?
Let it sink in and let me know how you feel about it...
It might seem a paradox, but if we treat work like a monster, we will inevitably be the victims.
What's a more neutral way to look at work so that it doesn't intimidates us as much?
#burnout #coaching #officelife
The guilt-free power nap, the weekend without emails, the holidays with an Out Of Office you will actually respect.
We call them breaks, but it feels limiting.
Resting - a full night's sleep for starters - are our fuel. Integrating rest is what keeps us running (or simply walking, marathons aren't for everybody).
PS: if you have a love/hate relationship with rest, coaching might be of help. And if you're ready to change how guilty you feel next time you take a break, send me a message.
Yes, there are exceptions (see PS below), but multitasking only gives us the illusion of achieving more in less time.
In reality focusing on one thing at a time, aka 'sequencing', allows our brains to work better - and faster.
PS: to all the doctors and parents of children under the age of 2 out there, we know your job sometimes requires multitasking. Should I make a post about this too?
I feel this is another myth in need of busting. Doing (too) many things gets rewarded automatically, while focusing is often downgraded to 'boring'.
What we can achieve in a day - or in a lifetime - is the trade-off between quantity and connection. In other words, I will sprint through my to-do list if by the end of the day I have the chance to spend a few hours truly connected (no work emails, no phone) with the person or people I love.
We often brag about the things we did or achieved, can we normalize being proud of the relationships we've built? Of the connections we nourished and did not let go of?
if you've found yourself wondering 'what about me?' at least once in the past week, this post is for you.
Being someone others rely on means being open hearted and generous. I don't have any statistics, but in my experience those who so openly give, have a hard time asking for the same kind of support from others. Mainly because it comes so natural to them, they feel asking for it it's not organic, 'it should come naturally'.
Except we're all different. Different sensibility, different love language, different brain chemistry. Yet we're all equal in needing affection and care.
I'm going to leave a simple question here, what if the people around us are just waiting for the chance to return the support/care/help?
Sugarcoating and kindness arenโt the same.
Kindness means saying what we truly mean while still holding care for the other person. Sugarcoating, on the other hand, is what we do when weโre afraid of being too much, not enough, or simply not liked. We distort the truth with pleasantries.
Iโd rather be kind than sweet. Because a coffee with four spoons of sugar doesn't taste like coffee anymore.
Everyone seems to talk about boundaries as the Holy Grail. Set boundaries with your family, at work, with your ex, with strangers, and even with yourself, so you can protect your well-being.
I get anxious simply looking at the list of boundaries I just wrote. In my opinion there's something with the word 'boundaries' that implies building a wall to keep something out which does not resonate with how I actually protect my well-being.
I'd rather be honest with myself, and ask 'what do I truly need to be at peace?' 'how can I cultivate self-respect?' and then advocate for my needs.
This includes communicating my needs to others, it's hard sometimes, but it's the healthiest option on the menu.
Saying what it feels right and being comfortable are not the same thing.
They can be, but if you're reading this it's because you know how being true to yourself sometimes feels like you have no skin to protect you.
What if I told you that sitting with the discomfort is part of how we grow?
Focus is an essential component of productivity, yet its value is often underestimated or confused with the ability to 'get things done'.
Let me explain, focus means acknowledging how important something is, how precious the time and energy we spend are. It's a two-way street to respecting ourselves and the task at hand.
When we focus we show up as our best selves, regardless of the outcome.
