I may not work as a stylist anymore, but in many ways, the work is still about:
How we see ourselves.
How we express ourselves.
What feels authentic versus performative.
What actually fits our lives, bodies, desires, and nervous systems.
A lot of people come to coaching thinking they need techniques.
Often, they need permission, clarity, safety, honesty, and a space to reconnect with themselves.
Link in bio for coaching inquiries.
Thank you @heritagefloss_hf , @dolcevita for the shoes, @porto__studio for the bag.
This work is deeply personal to me. My own experiences with aging, long-term partnership, stress, body image, reinvention, intimacy, and self-understanding changed the course of my life and ultimately led me here. I know how isolating these experiences can feel. I also know how transformative it can be to finally talk about them openly, without shame or judgment. That is why this work feels less like a job and more like a calling. Thank you @heritagefloss_hf & @miista for the clothes & shoes
Many people carry shame, confusion, fear, grief, insecurity, frustration or loneliness around intimacy and relationships silently and privately. I’m here to offer a safe, compassionate, judgment-free space to explore these conversations openly and at your own pace.
If any of these are concerns you’ve been holding onto, you don’t have to keep carrying them alone. You can text or call me to see if I can be of service. No pressure. Just a quick conversation free of charge.
@miista invited me to be interviewed by the great @billiejdporter when they visited Los Angeles last month. I loved our conversation about the city, reinvention, self-expression, experimentation, being multi-hyphenate, and embracing imperfection (shoutout to my sock lines).
One of the most LA things about the whole experience? I spent the days before working poolside with a media coach, the day of doing breathwork to stay calm, and the minutes before… in a minor road rage incident (he started it) while circling the block for parking. Doesn’t get more LA than that. 🎥 @chijekang
Sharing, sipping, and so much shopping. Thank you to everyone who joined and contributed to this beautiful evening at @silklaundry.losangeles on Saturday. Watching you mingle, connect, and drop into conversation with each other was a dream. I’m so glad I got to connect with so many of you one-on-one or in small groups and talk about things like the impact of childhood messaging, how refreshing it is that women’s health and desire are being discussed more openly, the empowerment of choosing to abstain, planning chef’s kiss vacation sex, rethinking “low libido,” and finding new ways into embodiment for those who find breathwork impossibly boring. If you make it to the last slide, you’ll see the intention of the night: presence, pleasure, and connection over performance. And we did it. (And I didn’t have to speak in front of an audience.) photos by @ajadewolfmoura
I feel a little allergic to the grid, but can muster up a carousel of fit pics to post on the main feed every 4 to 6 weeks or so. Getting distance on, if not nostalgia for, the days of daily posts, high engagement, and an algorithm-less frontier for new channels of creativity, expression, and connection, IRL and online, reminds me of the B side, which is pressure to perform, conform, perfect, compare (and despair)that sneaks up and stifles the joy right out of you. It’s felt more peaceful to shift my energy and focus to other sources of fulfillment - Substack, a career pivot, slowing down, play, and friendships. I actually don’t know where I’m going with this, haha, I just wanted to share what I’ve been wearing lately (or thinking about wearing - thanks to the friends who put up with my texts asking which of the 21 outfit options I should wear to a thing) for old times’ sake. I miss connecting with you like that. And came to say I’m really excited to connect with you in real life tonight if you can make it. The theme of this event, in a way, was sparked by “performance anxiety” and opens a space for presence and connection, which is really what it’s all about.
