Sascha Alexander

Guest star from my breastfeeding baby on this one! Thoughts ?

Fourth trimester learnings: - You won't be the mom you want to be–you'll be the mom your kid needs you to be.  - Having babies is impossible without community.  - Newborns make sounds that are....almost hilariously distressing. When you (regularly) think they aren't okay, they usually are. - It gets better. Sometimes within hours. Always within days. - Get the right flange size for your breast pump. Do it.  - Making your home resemble a womb makes this go waaaaaay better for everyone.  - Never leave your house without a pacifier or white noise. - Do less in a day, if not for you, then for your baby, for whom the world is still so loud and so big.  - Feeding parents is crucial non-negotiable community labor! When you send a new parent a meal, you are saving a life! - Listen to that pediatrician.  - Booties make everything better. - The responsibility is shocking. What you have to lose is terrifying. But they will start smiling at you and that will change everything.  Happy 3-month birthday, Isla, you DELICIOUS CHUNKY DREAM. What an incredible, JOYOUS, LEARNING-FILLED adventure we have already walked together.

✨ Isla Gibson Alexander-Danylevich joined our family and the world a month ago, January 14th, 2026 at 4:40am. She is already, by far, my greatest accomplishment. ✨ We are forever indebted to all the moms and doctors and friends who helped us bring her here and care for her through her breathtakingly vulnerable and tender first few weeks. We love you. And Isla, our sweet Valentine, you are cherished, beyond, beyond, beyond.

As we stand on the edge, the sweetest portraits of the life that came before. @krista.ashley

The final episode of Season 1 of "This Might Help" is live! Episode 8: Sam is starting a podcast and is curious about it monetizing it, but historically making money has felt “icky" to her as a person who has always had enough resources. Can we clear this up inside of her so she has more choice around whether the right move is to monetize the pod, or not? Your takeaways: - It’s easy to want to fix inequality we rightfully see in the world through self-sacrifice or self-denial. But usually, denying our own privilege doesn't help others in the way we hope it will--even if it assuages guilt in the moment. Utilizing or leveraging privilege to help level the playing field is more recommended. A good Google search on this will share tons of ways you can make this happen! - Everyone alive is equally deserving of resources and money, including you. - One way to find freedom is to explore the difference between responsibility and over-responsibility. Who is actually responsible for inequality in the world? - From there--how can we be a part of the solution without denying ourselves permission to experience impact and prosperity? - Sometimes we have judgments about money, like having a lot of money would make us greedy, boring, dull, or unlikeable. Addressing these judgments and reframing them is a game-changer. - Greater success on our end can actually INCREASE our ability to make change in the world. How might this be the case for you? - We don’t have to know ahead of time if something should be monetized in order to begin. We can simply start. And continue to ask Life “how can I serve here?” Listen and learn along on Apple Podcasts or Spotify or at the link in my bio.

Before we get too far from the baby shower, here are some favorites of the sweetest day. Thank you to @kaitschuster for all the film snaps and to @mirifriend for the games and programming that were *chefs kiss* perfecto. To my Mom, Linda, for her care and creativity including making a homemade sherbet punch and of course to my friends who are always down to play competitive games where you scream out answers in a team-setting--aka my ideal vibe. @emilyhdasilva somehow don't have pictures of your extraordinary cake but it's forever in my heart with that passionfruit curd!

Money anxiety can plague soooo many of us during the holiday season. If you're struggling today, this episode may be for you. Episode 7 of "This Might Help" is live! Episode 7: Alex makes a lot of money–but still struggles with money fear and scarcity, daily. How can he help himself live in more trust and enjoyment of what he works for? Your takeaways: - Money anxiety can rob us of so much presence, peace, and freedom in our lives. - If money anxiety is NOT linked to actual life circumstances, money anxiety generally doesn’t get better no matter how much money we make. - If we don’t address the deeper insecurity around money, the goalposts can simply move. We find that no amount is enough to truly feel secure. - Persistent money anxiety sometimes points to deeper, more unconscious feelings of not enoughness, or lack of safety in the world. If this sounds like you, where might these unconscious feelings be coming from? - If you're feeling anxious right now, what are you assuming about your financial situation in the present or the future--that may not even be true? - Life contains uncertainty. Focusing on your financial reality just for today is a powerful way to fight against the urge to control or be psychic about what the future will bring. - Hiring a financial planner can be a powerful external world move to help us offload money anxiety. Creating a plan is a way of “coping ahead” for the uncertainty that life can bring. - Pendulation is a somatic tool where we move from thoughts or sensations of distress to pleasant thoughts, images, or sensations to help our body detach from painful narratives. - Money is not just for survival. It is also for fun, self-expression, and life enrichment. We are allowed to live beyond survival! Listen along on Spotify or Apple Podcasts or at the link in my bio.

Had a great time at the Fifth Season holiday party.

Episode 6 of "This Might Help" is live! Episode 6: Quinn is struggling to stay regulated when life doesn’t match her expectations--and especially when she feels different than those around her. How can she learn to let go of the fantasy of sameness, so she can live with more satisfaction in the world? Your takeaways: - Focusing on the dividing lines between us and others is often a coping strategy. If you are focusing a lot on difference–how might that be protecting you? How was that useful at some point in the past? Is there a way in which it's still useful now? - We often project parental roles onto authority figures in our lives and then can experience disappointment, pain, or self-criticism when we don’t receive the perfect attunement we are unconsciously hoping for from them. - Feeling the grief of unmet childhood needs is a huge way to move through painful projection and come back to yourself. - Idealization can be a coping strategy. It allows us to chase the fantasy of perfect attunement and validation from others. But ultimately idealization hurts us more than it helps us–because perfect attunement is not available in any human relationship. - Real difference in relationships, although it can feel challenging, is actually additive. Others’ life experiences and perspectives enhance our own understanding of the world and can open doors to ideas, opportunities, and experiences we never have opened on our own. - If you are clinging tightly to past trauma as a part of your identity, getting curious about why it’s still holding on so tightly is extremely helpful. If you are past the point where owning the victimization is still helpful–what might it need from you to let go? - When we strengthen the validating inner parent within, we tend to feel less threatened by differences we notice “out there.” - Saying “someone doesn’t get me” is a fast way out of the discomfort of relating. We don’t have to try to get value out of a program or a relationship if we can find dividing lines. But then we don’t grow or benefit from the opportunity in front of us. Listen along at the link in my bio or on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

✨35 weeks✨ There is so much to say about pregnancy. But one of the things I didn't expect was for pregnancy to be one of the GRITTIEST things I've ever done. Most days I couldn't do my hair or put on make-up. I definitely couldn't keep up with the fast-paced entrepreneurship I was accustomed to, or access the boss-bitch energy I used to think defined me. Most of my pregnancy, my days were spent trying to adjust hour-to-hour to a changing landscape of what I was capable of--while clinging desperately to my baby-tracking app or alternatively, my husband; hoping non-stop learning and/or reassurance would save me from the non-stop anxiety that would be there as soon as I got truly quiet. And of course, the magic was there, too. My baby shower (pictured here). Her first heartbeat! The kicks and movements! The kindness of strangers. The amount of people who stop to tell you their stories. The amount of people who are rooting for you. Checking on you. Celebrating you. Being a part of a profound biological experience that really defies words. And feeling more cradled in community than maybe any other time in the past. These are the things I'll always remember. I'm so proud of getting here. SO proud of my baby who has fought so hard to join the world. And so proud of myself for leaning into the humility and interdependence required for me to pass through this hallway and be here. Just weeks until I meet her. 📷 By @kaitschuster

Episode 5 of “This Might Help” is live! Episode 5: Emma is a successful screenwriter in many ways–but the financial piece has so far eluded her. What needs to shift for her to be able to earn in her chosen field? Your takeaways: - Money is not the only metric of success available to us. Are you taking in all the ways you are succeeding–outside of monetization? Under capitalism, it can be tempting to flatten everything into a money game. Resist! - There is nothing wrong with supporting yourself financially outside of your art. Often this is THE way that we are able to succeed artistically, by not asking it to provide for us fully. - If you want to understand the results you’re creating, look on the internal and external levels. What actions are you taking on the external (i.e. in the outside world)? And on the internal: what beliefs, feelings, old patterns are operating? Are any of these in the way? - We often aren’t putting out as much energy into our network as we think we are in terms of asking for work and opportunities. Be honest with yourself: how much are you asking? - Follow-up and care for our network is a part of our jobs. The more we can make this good news, the more opportunity we are going to have. - We don’t burden people when we ask them for support and help. If that story is living inside of you–take a look at why it might have been installed, and if it’s still helping you to keep it around. - It is so much more uncomfortable to succeed, than to stay within our comfort zone and not live into our potential. Discomfort is a good sign that you are stretching towards the thing you want. - Creating an Ideal Scene is a great way to breathe life into a goal that you are working towards manifesting. - Exploring your family legacy and history around money can be a great way to identify some of the thoughts and beliefs you may have inherited. - Imagine earning the amount of money you want to earn–do any negative feelings arise with that imaginary exercise? If so, those thoughts and feelings are worth exploring. Listen and learn along on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or at the link in the bio.

Episode 4 of “This Might Help” is live! Episode 4: Diana has a history of being motivated in her career by experiencing chaos at home. Now that home life is on lock–can still show up in her professional world with integrity? Your takeaways: - Facing some amount of inner resistance or avoidance in our lives is perfectly normal. Resistance is at its peak at the beginning of a task or right before the finish. - When a task is close to your soul’s curriculum or ultimate purpose, Resistance is at its absolute highest. Read The War of Art for more. - Resistance can show up as: forgetfulness, avoidance, fogging out, getting “bored,” deciding something “isn’t our thing anymore,” impatience, or paralysis. - Experiencing extreme or consistent Resistance in one area often has roots in the past. - Life doesn’t require 100% effort from us in every area in order for us to be successful. - Safety and comfort are different things. How can we learn to experience discomfort without assuming a lack of safety? - The Enneagram is a personality test that assigns each person a number from 1-9. For Enneagram Type 4s, learning that their feelings don’t have to rule their life can be a huge breakthrough. Listen and learn along on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or at the link in the bio.