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I was at my daughterâs gymnastics class yesterday (sheâs 8) and I was the only dad not on his phone.
In the one-hour class my daughter looked up 12 times. TWELVE. TIMES.
Because I watched the whole class, I can say with absolute certainty that every single kid looked up. Not one of them got a wave of acknowledgement back.
Dads, this isnât to shame you but to remind you of what youâre missing out on. The times they look up and see you paying attention is CONNECTION. Youâre building their trust in you and youâre deepening your connection with your kid.
Donât beat yourself up over the past, but just try changing it up for the next class. Put the phone down and watch your kid learn, be active, and be joyful.
The mental leap Nice Guys need to make: being nice eliminates them from ever being sexist. I donât believe that is the case. I know this because Iâm a nice guy, but now I know I need to continue to acknowledge, confront, and then change my biases against women.
Thank you to @nathancjun for the inspiration!
#sexism #feminism #masculinity #genderequality #patriarchy
This is one of many ways patriarchy continues. Itâs the underlying idea that somehow boys âwhineâ less. But boys donât âwhineâ less. They are taught to shut down their feelings and emotions exactly when they should be learning how to work through their emotions.
Thatâs without saying what this attitude is telling his daughters. That expressing their emotions are a bad thing. They will learn to shield their feelings. That itâs not safe to share their feelings because they will be labeled whiners.
And yes, it is this deep. Underlying feelings are what drive our words and actions. This dad is no different.
Men only attain the âgood guyâ status with the existence of bad guys. And so without the existence of bad guys weâd be normal guys, which is better and safer for everyone. Which means, as âgood guys,â we should be taking action toward making a society that sees us not as good, but as normal.
To lessen the number of bad guys, the âgood guysâ need to confront bad guys as well as correct our own behaviors that are also contributing to our patriarchal structure.
We got this, boys đ¤đ¤
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