Happy Birthday to me. š
Super grateful for every form of friendship. Iāll be celebrating all month!!
Truly thanking God for my life and every experience so far!!
Enjoyed writing a special piece on my Substack about
(And yes, happy birthdays are very much accepted in the comments even if you slid in my DMs on the weekend lol show so love below š¤)
This Easter I made myself one promise: just be.
No output. No optimising. Present with my kids.
Anyone who knows me knows how hard that is. I donāt do slow.
But this month the writing was the slowing down. Six essays. Money fights with Suli. Missing my dadās surgery. The mental load nobody names. What it costs to always be the strong one.
Weāre at the end of the break now and honestly, my heart is full.
I know weāre used to videos. But sometimes words are more intimate than any camera. Putting feelings on paper is hard for me. Really hard.
This is my heart. Be gentle with it.
If something lands ā a comment, an emoji, a follow on Substack. I see all of it.
Easter genuinely is my favourite holiday! Feels like a new lease of life, like a new beginning! šø
āI used to believe in the idea that āif someone wanted to, they would.ā And while thereās truth in that, itās incomplete.
Because what Iāve learned through experience of being in a relationship for 18 years (married 10), through growth, through unlearning; is that people can want to love you and still not love you in a way that you can feel.
A lot of women say they want effort but what they actually want is anticipation. Not just help when itās requested. But awareness without needing instruction. And a lot of men (and honestly, people in general) are operating from a completely different definition.Ā“
Read the full article on Substack!
New Hairstyle. New Month. New Post on Substack. And after a month of biting my tongue, Iām falling back in love with the thought of sharing my heart again and being intimate with you all.
āCareer. Kids. Body. Life. But what you donāt see is what it costs. Or whatās being carried quietly, the help behind the scenes, or the days where it just doesnāt work, like the other day when both me and my husband had to be out for separate work commitments but we overlapped it in the diary and had no childcare, so one of us had to sacrifice.ā
Read the full article on Substack. Also paid subscribers have access to my inner most darkest thoughts and strategies to navigate this working mum life.
Linda x
NEW SUBSTACK
In a world where weāre all (rightly) talking about decentering men, protecting our peace, not overextending ourselves, all things I deeply agree with, it also reminded me of something else that I donāt think we say enough:
Your partner is the only person in the world you actually get to choose. So choose wisely. Choose someone who pays attention. Choose someone who notices when youāre not quite yourself, even when you havenāt said a word. Someone who creates softness for you, especially when you donāt know how to create it for yourself. Because honestly, the sexiest thing isnāt always the big gestures. Sometimes itās just someone quietly saying, āI see you.ā
Not only is it International Womenās Month in March, itās 10 years of @girlsirate ! āØš Thatās a whole decade of levelling the playing field for women working in the music industry.
Our latest star is the incredible Linda Ayoola @asklychee , who is global head of music at @weareplatoon .
As well as heading up music at the @applemusic -owned artist services and distro company, Ayoola is a thought leader, a @tedxlondon organiser, a magistrate AND a co-founder of the global initiative to support women in music, She Runs The Boards.
Curated by @carlamarieuk MBE, read Ayoolaās Mentor Me tips in the April issue and on musicweek.com now!
#MentorMe #GirlsIRate #IWD26 #GivetoGain #10yearsofgirlsirate
New Substack to celebrate Motherās Day!
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After days of contractions, after hours of waiting, my body was beginning to give up.
Then the doctors examined me again.
āThis baby isnāt going to come out this way.ā
Something inside me collapsed. Imagine going through days of contractions. Gas and air. An epidural. Hours of believing the end is close, only to be told the baby still isnāt coming.
They said they would need to do an emergency c-section.
I immediately turned to my mother-in-law and said, āCall Suli. Call him right now.ā
Read more on my Substackā¦..Link in Bio
This was a fun Saturday!!!
First time in Oxford in MY life and got spend it at @oxford_uni@oxfordafricaalliance !
Honestly there are really some bright people in this world and enjoyed talking about the creative economy in Africa with my fellow panelists @victorsozaboy and @cheick_sanankoua moderated by @zoe_flood ! Thank you so much such great conversation!!š
Happy International Womenās Day, I always somewhat feel reflective on Sunday ahead of the new week! Itās been a good start to the month and was happy to be amongst wonderful women @iamwomanuk and also our activation at @weareplatoon celebrating DJs
āā NEW SUBSTACK - LINK IN BIO
ā¦ā¦ sometimes the world celebrates women for ādoing it allā, when actually what many women have become very good at is quietly trading things so that other parts of life can grow.
Trading speed for stability, certain opportunities for better timing and most of all dare I say trading parts of your independence for the people you love. And the strange thing is most women carry these trades silently, like itās just part of the deal that no one really explains but everyone eventually understands.
Which is why lately Iāve been thinking a lot about the women before us.
Brown skin girl š¤
Celebrating a good friend of mine @patriciabright , one of the hardest working person I know!!! ā¤ļø
P.s wear your clothes this 2026!
