Words can’t adequately express how proud we are of this kid. He’s had to battle through his own head trash this season to regain confidence in what he can do on the volleyball court and it’s fun to watch him confident, having fun, and delivering results again. He’s now ranked 7th in CIF San Diego for service aces and got to play front row for the first time in quite a while, and he made the most of it with 15 kills. Looking forward to continuing to watch him grow and thrive with @mchsboysvb and @seaside_vbc ! 4/16/2026 MC vs. Ramona.
If you’re wondering where he gets his hops from, we have no idea. Mine is 20”, Carolyn’s is 14”, and last we checked, his is 38”. We bounce; he leaps!
#volleyball #hsvolleyball @sdprepinsider
Happy 43rd birthday to my dearest Carolyn, the driving force behind our family!! You are gentle, patient, kind, do not envy, do not boast, are not proud, do not dishonor others, are not self-seeking, are not easily-angered, keep no record of wrongs, do not delight in evil but rejoice with the truth, always protect, always trust, always hope, and always persevere. You are an incredible gift to us and a tangible example of God’s love, and I’m so grateful I get to see how you impact anyone you meet so positively and meaningfully. We love you, my dear, and we celebrate the incredible person you are today!!!
Grief is such an interesting process. I’ve had several friends whose parents have passed away recently and as I grieve for them and their loss, I find that my own grief of my dad’s passing is also renewed. I’m only a few years into this after his passing in 2020, but I’m learning it comes in waves and in ways I never expect it to, that it never truly goes away, but that it also doesn’t need to be shied away from as it helps me experience and be grateful for this life in a deeper and much more visceral way.
Most recently, after getting a nagging cough for the past few weeks, I’ve been experiencing sciatic pain on my right side and shooting down my right leg. It occurred to me as I was walking around HMart that this was my dad’s daily experience from when I was 2, as he started having leg pain from then that never resolved. He rarely complained about it and the most I’d ever hear from him when it was particularly bad was, “It doesn’t feel good.” I miss him every day, but having this specific ache made me miss him more than usual and also made me feel connected to him in a deeper way almost 5 years after his passing. Interestingly enough, I only feel the sciatic pain when standing or walking, but not at all when riding. If you know me, you know I ride often, and my rides are usually spent praying for friends and family and reflecting on life, so I’m thankful I haven’t been distracted by it while on the bike. I’m so grateful for this gift that God unexpectedly gave me to connect with my dad while also being able to see how God hasn’t allowed it to prevent me from doing one of the things I enjoy the most. Funny how grief and suffering can actually be such a profound gift sometimes. #Grief @allthereis
When you’re in the midst of it, being a volleyball parent can feel like trying to keep a ton of plates spinning on sticks from crashing to the ground. Ferrying kids from one practice to another, organizing food and snacks, encouraging them to be the best teammate on and off the court, trying to help parents connect with one another, supporting the coaches…it’s a lot. But as they say, the juice is easily worth the squeeze when you’re able to step back and watch your kids thriving and enjoying the process. Grateful to have a front-row seat to all of this. #volleyball
Happy Happy 15th Birthday, Sweet Ellie!!!
It’s wild how quickly time flies when you’re having fun. 15 years ago, God rocketed Ellie into our lives and she hasn’t stopped since. She truly seizes life by the horns and lives it to the fullest. She loves people deeply, attacks any challenge with tenacity, protects her friends and family fiercely, and always looks to make sure those around her cared for. We’re so thankful to watch this young lady grow up over this past decade and a half and we know that God has incredible things in store for her ahead!
This is 48.
What started as a fairly normal day by most standards turned into getting to puppysit the most adorable pup ever, followed by a surprise visit from my brother (and Shannon!), coffee with my Mom, watching Carolyn play volleyball, and of course, topping things off with all-you-can-eat hot pot.
Maybe it’s age, but I realized over the course of the day that there isn’t really any “thing” I want, but only the richness and love found in great relationships with friends and family. God has given me so much more of that than a silly middle-aging fella like me could possibly deserve, and I’m grateful every day for it. I hope the same for all of you, and if you’re reading this, thank you for making my life all the richer!
2025’s Feng-Christmas-carolfest is in the books! 38 people answered our video requests and were serenaded for 28 seconds of “Joy to the World”! From 6-9pm with short break in between, we got to sing, laugh, and celebrate Christmas with dear friends and family around the world. What a gift for us to enjoy! Hope everyone had an amazing Christmas!!!
5 years since you went to heaven and it still feels like yesterday. Grief is a constant companion, but so is the gratitude of having been your son. 5 years is a lot of time to reflect on the most extraordinary man I’ve ever met, and the older I get, the more I appreciate how extraordinary you were. Faithful, humble, unbelievably kind, impossibly patient, always thirsting for knowledge, and always thinking the very best for those around you. Your choice to move here to San Diego so many years ago continues to bless us deeply, and I know you’d be happy every day watching your grandkids grow up in the sunshine and warmth of our beloved Rancho Peñasquitos. You are deeply missed but always remembered, and I’m still endeavoring to be the father you were every single day. Love you, Bah.
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
A million thanks are not enough to express our gratitude for your support and encouragement through @carolynsfeng ’s battle against thyroid cancer these past few years. Still marching through the woods at the moment but we’re now able to see the forest through the trees. Carolyn is a warrior in every sense of the word and we so appreciate the love you’ve extended to our family. This is just part of the story God is writing for us, and we’re grateful to have you alongside us for the journey. #thyroidcancer #cancerwontwin #thyca
