WhyWithCai

My installation wouldn’t be complete without @nomadic.fiori and their incredible work 🥹 Thank you times a million for putting together the most beautiful flower installations, and bringing my vision of ‘Letters to Your Ex’ to life! I am truly still in awe of how beautiful everything turned out to be. WOW. 📹Video credits: @calvin.campos , @ninoshkatravels , @uncharasmatic , @briwritespoetry 📷Photo credits: @calvin.campos 📍Location: @waterworksto 🖼️Installation for: @nuitblancheto

I turned 5 years old on March 27th, 2025. 5 years of living as my true authentic self. 5 years on T. What a privilege it is to be able to be on T 🥺 I don’t talk about this part of me on here because that’s not what WhyWithCai is about, and also because it’s scary for me to share something that the world seems to have so many negative opinions on. But I’m stepping out of my comfort zone and sharing these photos of the day I got to celebrate CAI because I want to share my joy with you all! I want to share a glimpse of an important milestone in my personal life :) I have the privilege of choosing when to share this part of me, but so many of us don’t. So here’s your reminder that trans people are regular human beings trying to live life just like everyone else! I’d like to think that WhyWithCai is proof of that too. On another note, you may or may not have noticed the little soft (medium?) launch in the 3rd and 4th photos 🫣 But don’t worry, that doesn’t change my content! She’s so cute though, isn’t she? 🤩 Thank you to the incredible @calvin.campos / @calcamposmedia for these phenomenal photos ❤️

YOU CAN FINALLY ORDER MY BOOK!! AHH!! “Letters to Your Ex” is officially out!!

👉 whywithcai.com (link in bio)

🎨 Graphic designed by the incredible @madebysoraya who brought my vision of the book cover and some inside pages to life!

“Letters to Your Ex” is a book compiled of 139 letters that people from 41 different countries have written to their exes. It is full of love, grief, pain, acceptance, and inspiring stories crafted to help you feel less alone in the world.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Thank you to all 20,307 of you who submitted a letter 7 months ago. Thank you to all 180,000+ of you who continue to follow my journey on WhyWithCai. And thank you for being patient with me while I worked incredibly hard to create this book.

This book is for you. For me. For us ❤️

(Get your copy as soon as possible because there’s a limited supply) Wow. This is so surreal 🥺

what if I never move on?

what a beautiful thing it is to find love unexpectedly.

you CAN find love again. you CAN find happiness again. and you CAN live life without them again. there IS life after heartbreak, as painful as it is at first. I’m proud of you for being here today, and I hope you remind yourself to just keep going.

stop telling yourself they’re the one, when they’re so clearly not interested in you. one-sided love is not worth your time.

do you cut off contact after a breakup? or do you keep them in your life?

it’s the last piece of you that I still have with me.

I used to dread getting out of bed. I used to spend my waking hours looking forward to going back to sleep at night, because getting up meant facing the heartbreak, the loneliness, and the belief that I’m unlovable. Fast forward to today, waking up is exciting! I look forward to getting my day started! On May 25th - 29th, I’ll be joining the @camhfoundation Sunrise Challenge, waking up with the sun for 5 days to support mental health. If you’ve ever struggled to face a morning, this is for you. Join my team and/or donate through the link in my bio. #CAMHSunriseChallenge

life 4 years ago looked very different. it was sad. lonely. and honestly, I was embarrassed of it. I was cheated on and heartbroken, didn’t have any genuine friends, worked at Starbucks, and didn’t know where my life was headed. I was hopeful that I’ll figure things out, but I had no idea how. fast forward to today, I did figure things out. And though there’s still so much more I want to figure out in life, I’m proud of how far I made it 🥹 it’s all about perspective, right?

is the person in front of you right now enough? if the answer is “no”, and you’re sticking around hoping that they’ll change, that’s not fair to you nor them nor your relationship. you’ve got to love the person they are right now, not the person you want them to be. and if they’re not the person you want them to be right now, then perhaps they’re not the right person for you.