Tim Dajan | Emotional Release Facilitator

And here‘s one more thing ⬇️ It’s one thing to talk about your story. 👉🏼But another to talk from the EMOTION of your story. I invite you to feel your pain and let it resonate with those who are trustworthy enough to listen. 🙏🏼Birth life out of your story. 🙏🏼Create connection. It’s not just a sequence of events - it’s a part of your soul expressing itself, and with you sharing yourself vulnerable, you give yourself a chance to share it. And then, once you share it, you may feel that it was a gift for those who listened. 🫴🏼They feel closer to you, and you closer to them.

Emotional Release Work is the key 👇🏼 First things first. You’re not releasing your emotions but your resistance to them. Your inner critic is charged with anger. That anger belongs outside. But it went inside. Healing the inner critic means releasing the resistance to that anger and learning to channel it in the right direction. Comment PHANTOM to learn how

We‘re NOT healing our emotions. We are healing the relationship we have towards them. That means: If you respond to an emotion AS IF it was something that needs to be regulated away rather than related to, your nervous system perceives danger. But what if your anger is nothing dangerous, but a somatic expression of your potential that got repressed into the shadows? What if it shows you what you want, and what you can’t tolerate? If you’re not in touch with that, there’s a chance you lose touch with what it’s trying to show. And that is true for all emotions, also the unpleasant ones. Follow me for more somatic shadow work and nervous system healing. Take care, Tim

👇🏼 Healing your trauma means feeling your anger 👇🏼 After helping over 500 people transform their anger into power, I know that one thing is for sure. Like no discussion: You need to integrate your anger if you want to heal. Let me explain why anger is so transformative. First of all: 1️⃣ Trauma is created in relationship 2️⃣ Is sustained in relationship 2️⃣ And heals in relationship And this is the exact reason you need to feel your anger in order to heal: Anger is showing you when: 👉🏼 Boundaries are crossed 👉🏼 Relationships get toxic 👉🏼 You‘re being hurt In short: It shows you when it‘s enough. And then something sacred can happen: Anger helps you staying connected with yourself when injustice happens. This is why we teach it all of our emotional release trainings. Anger is an uprising of healthy defenses that preserve: 🔥 Your self-worth 🔥 Your innocence 🔥 Your inner children Comment ANGRY AF for a practice that helps you learn to alchemise your anger into raw power. With love, Ashley

Trauma healing 🤝 shadow work All shadow work is trauma work. Why? Because shame is the main consequence of trauma. Shame is the belief that we‘re not good enough, the barrier that represses unwanted emotions, thoughts and behaviours into our shadows. These 3 books are all you need to understand everything about shadow work, so save this post for your trauma healing journey. 1. Conny Zweig - Meeting The Shadow The quintessential book on the shadow. Dozens of essays from the best psychologists, philosophers and spiritual teachers on the shadow. A must read for everyone interested in shadow work. 2. Robert Johnson - Inner Work A practical guide to Jungian shadow work. After reading this book you‘ll be able to understand all your dreams, and how to build a strong relationship with your unconscious through active imagination. It has changed my life, top 5 book for me. 3. Donald Kalsched - Trauma and The Soul Kalsched bridges the gap between Jungian analysis and trauma healing. It is a monumental work, incredibly helpful and doing a fantastic job in mapping out the inner world of trauma and its archetypal dimensions. Follow me for on somatic shadow work and trauma healing. Take care, Tim

Most people are not willing to go this deep 👇 I’m not bashing breathwork - I’m telling you that there is more depth than the purely somatic level. Here is the three step method we teach inside the @emotionalrelease.academy 1️⃣ Equalising Before you do anything with the emotion, you give the sensation permission to stay in your body. You ask one honest question of whatever is alive there right now: can this be here exactly as it is, just for one breath? If the answer is no, you ask if you can allow the part of you that says no. You keep peeling layers until you reach a feeling you can stay with, and then you move back inwards. The charge tends to soften on its own once you stop pushing against it. 2️⃣ Conversion Once the resistance softens, you translate the raw sensation into a symbol so the conscious mind has something to work with. You ask your body: if this emotion had a form, how would it look? Let the image arrive on its own from inside the body. People often see a door, a wave, a forest, a closed fist, a heavy stone. You then ask simple questions of the image, like what colour it has, where it sits in your body, what it wants from you, and what it is made of. The symbol gives the emotion a container so you can move with it at a pace your nervous system can handle. 3️⃣ Phantom Dialogue Now you bring the person or part of you that carries the charge into the room. You imagine them sitting across from you, and you decide how close they sit. You say out loud, in full sentences, the things that never got said. Speak the anger, the grief, the request, the boundary. Notice how your body responds while you speak, where it tightens, where it relaxes. The point of this work is to finish the conversation inside your head, so you stop replaying it for the next ten years. Comment PHANTOM for a free cheat sheet PDF that helps you move through this process wherever you are. Take care, Tim

And here‘s the most important thing 👇🏼 The snake bites its tail not just with the inner critic. We care judging our judgements. Living in cages made of „freedom“. And stay broken through thinking we need to heal. Comment SHADOW WORK for a practice that helps you dismantle this pattern.

Your inner critic = stress until you do this: Notice how you relate to your inner critic. If it is understanding and open, or at least curious, you’re relating from the healthy adult. If you’re arguing with it, or blaming yourself, feel guilt or angry that it’s here - that part needs your attention. Imagine it like an onion. The inner critic is in the middle, and there is another layer of criticism around it. Comment SHADOW WORK for a free PDF that helps you do shadow work with the inner critic.

Nobody mentions this 👇🏼 Spiritual language can become the most convenient way to never be truly in connection. Spirituality can create another persona, and instead of transcending the ego, the ego catches the spiritual behaviours and clings onto them. Follow me for more shadow work and mature spirituality.

Nobody talks about these 👇🏼 In the midst of new age quackery, capitalist-coloured spirituality and bland mindfulness literature, it’s difficult to find books & authors that truly go deep. Spirituality is no love and light business. It means the willingness to meet the depth of human suffering - and transform it into light. Here are 3 books you need to save for later: 1. Jung’s Map of the Soul - Murray Stein The best book on jungian psychology - a map of the human psyche and spirit. I had multiple spiritual experiences reading this book. It’s one of the books I know I’ll re-read multiple times in my life. 2. Psychosynthesis: A Psychology of Spirit - John Forman / Ann Gila It’s stunning how much knowledge about both psychodynamics and transpersonal experiences can be packed in such a short book. I basically highlighted every page of this book - a profound introduction to Psychosynthesis, one of the first transpersonal therapeutic modalities in the Freudian era. 3. Ken Wilber - A Brief History of Everything Sometimes I go about my day, and can’t help but feel grateful for certain thinkers. The amount of directly applicable frameworks this book contains is stunning - it changed the way I view the world, and I am beyond happy to have found Ken Wilber’s work. He basically says that all philosophies, psychological modalities, spiritual disciplines and sciences contain one aspect of the truth. He combined all of them into one, brilliant and life altering map that is presented in this book. Don’t fall into the book hoarding trap. It’s better to buy one book and finish it, than to buy 100 books and never finish one. A full bookshelf might look nice, but what’s even nicer is to have all of that wonderful knowledge rooted in your soul. Comment “COURSE” to receive my free course on transpersonal psychology and somatic shadow work. Follow this page for more. Take care, Tim PS.: I wouldn’t know about these books without my mentor and teacher @thorntontheory . He’s the OG. Go follow his work!

It‘s not about healing your emotions. It‘s about: 1. Finding the part that wants to heal them. 2. Feel its resistance to your emotions. 3. Heal the resistance and unburden the part. 4. Re-build the relationship to the emotion. Your emotions are never the problem. It‘s the relationship you have towards the emotion that needs to be healed, NOT the emotion itself. Take care, Tim

It‘s not that simple 👇🏼 What if being in your head is the last resort of a soul that never learned that the body is safe? What if simply saying „You‘re in your head - get out of there.“ is like evacuating a bunker while the city is under attack? What if it’s okay to be in your head, and it’s about building anheathy relationship with your ego instead of killing it? Healing transcends the mind, yes. But it doesn’t stop there. It INCLUDES the mind in the new found safety of a regulated nervous system, too. Notice the energy behind statements such as „I‘m so in my head.“ - it’s shame. It’s a contraction around the contraction. The way out of this is not healing your thoughts, but healing your relationship with your thoughts. Comment PHANTOM for a free cheatsheet of an Emotional Release technique that teaches you how to build that relationship. Take care, Tim