If you’re new here, hi. 👋🏻
If you’ve been around since the demo days, the paint spiral, or the first millwork sketches, thank you for hanging around.
What started as me sharing our renovation with friends grew into this space and this community (and a book!) I still can’t quite believe it.
Swipe through for some BTS about the person behind TOH (I don’t share my face often, but I promise I’m here!)
The most important thing to me on this platform is that I only share what I genuinely love or own. Early on I made a promise to be transparent and to share what I’m learning in real time.
In fashion and beauty, everything is shared. In design, there can sometimes be iron gates. Some of that protects proprietary work, and I respect that completely. Designers make a living from their expertise. But this page has always been about my personal journey and what I’ve learned along the way.
I’m always learning. Always sharing.
Really grateful you’re here. 🤍
Happy Mother’s Day to my favorite Mom’s @nmeyers@halliemeyersshyer
One of the great revelations of becoming a mother is realizing your own mother never stopped being one. My mom has been such a steady force in my life. She’s the person I still call to talk something through, the person whose opinion I trust implicitly, the person who makes hard things feel more manageable just by being there. Long before she wrote the foreword to my book, she was part of the story itself. So much of what I understand about warmth, beauty, family, storytelling, and creating a home came from her first.
And my mother-in-law changed the course of our family’s life through her extraordinary generosity. So much of what exists here, the memories, the traditions, traces back to that gift. I think motherhood often looks like that—profound acts of love that permanently alter someone else’s future.
I’ve also loved watching my sister become a mother. She’s always been the little one in our family, so it’s especially sweet watching the little one have a little one. Motherhood came so naturally to her, and I’ve loved getting to be one step ahead, helping her the way older sisters do.
I also know this day can hold grief alongside gratitude. Since losing my dad, I’ve thought so much about how the people who raise us never really leave us. I can still access him so easily. I know what he would say in certain situations. I know what would make him laugh. I know the look he would give me across a room. A parent’s voice becomes part of your own inner voice forever. What a gift.
Motherhood is the best and most meaningful part of my life and I love my kids more than anything. And today I hope they leave me alone for large portions of the day, make absolutely no messes, and write me deeply moving cards about how much they love me. 🤍
One of the things I really wanted for this book was to partner with a local bookstore for signed copies, and @booksoup felt especially meaningful. It’s been part of LA for decades and part of my life since I was a kid.
Local bookstores matter so much. They create community, discovery, conversation, and they deserve our support now more than ever.
You can now preorder signed copies through the link in my bio, and I can personalize them too, which makes them such a special gift. 🤍
The best Mother’s Day gifts are the homemade cards and crafts I get from my kids, but my husband always asks for some ideas as well so here’s what I’m sending him! Swipe through for my top picks, and comment “SHOP” and I’ll DM you the full list.
Every time I share a page from my book, your messages remind me why I documented all of it in the first place.
Still pinching myself that this room — and this whole journey — will soon be a book you can actually hold in your hands.
If you haven’t grabbed your copy yet, presale link in bio. 🤍
Photography: @rogerdaviesphotography
Styling: @anitasarsidi
Publisher: @chroniclebooks
Spring is happening at This Oak House. I made a playlist for your dinner parties, weekend puttering, or just hanging at home. Comment SPRING and I’ll DM it to you.
House Favorites: Lighting
My go-to sources for sconces, pendants, lamps etc.
These are the brands I come back to again and again, the ones that get it right and last. Scroll to the end for the full list. Save it or send to a friend. Let me know what category you want next!
Spring at This Oak House might be my favorite time of year. Dining outside, pool days and the garden coming back to life.
A tablescape from the dining room chapter of my book, out this September. Preorder link in bio. ✨
