I am a narrative researcher, author, and cultural facilitator exploring intimacy, trauma, relational and cultural dynamics.
My work lives across books that function as narrative case studies seen through a Black feminist lens.
Through university lectures and workshops, moderated talkbacks and panel discussions, live and digital cultural conversations, I don’t approach this work as theory alone.
I use storytelling to examine how people learn:
to abandon themselves
to navigate power in relationships
and to negotiate belonging.
This work is rooted in lived experience and translated into narrative frameworks that make the invisible visible.
This is narrative work designed to shift perspective.
Follow for frameworks, conversations, and live engagements.
The Self-Abandonment Loop is a pattern many people recognize once they have the language for it.
Awareness is present. The need is clear. But something interrupts the expression of it:
Fear.
Silence.
Reinforcement.
Over time, this becomes a learned response. Not because something is wrong with you, but because something taught you that expressing your needs carried risk.
Through my work across books, lectures, and facilitated conversations, I use this framework to examine:
how needs are suppressed
how relational patterns are formed how identity is shaped through experience. This is not just a concept,
It is a pattern that shows up in real time, in relationships, in decision-making, and in the body.
The question is not whether it exists.
It is whether you recognize it when it happens.
The Adventures of a Recovering Love Addict is not just a book series.
It is a narrative exploration of intimacy, trauma, and relational behavior.
Across three volumes, the work examines:
complex PTSD
Emotional conditioning
Self-abandonment
and relational loops:
desire, validation, and identity the unspoken dynamics shaping how we connect.
Through the character of Cali Church, these stories function as case studies revealing patterns that are often experienced but rarely named.
This work extends beyond the page.
It is used across:
University lectures
Talkbacks and moderated discussions
Cultural and educational spaces.
This is where storytelling becomes analysis.
Available now. (Link in bio)
It looked playful, but sometimes uncertainty doesn’t look like fear.
Sometimes it looks like
smiling through what you’re still trying to understand.
#narrativework #emotionalintelligence #relationshippatterns #selfawareness
Minimizing discomfort is a learned survival response.
You didn’t miss the red flag.
You negotiated with it.
#RedFlags #NarrativeWork #EmotionalIntelligence
#SelfAwareness #relationshippatterns
He didn’t lie.
But he also didn’t tell the truth.
And that space in between? That’s where misalignment lives.
Clarity should not require checking their phone.
#NarrativeWork #RelationshipClarity #EmotionalIntelligence
#SelfAwareness #AlignmentOverEverything
Your feelings matter.
And when Black men express them, it can make people uncomfortable.
Not because it’s wrong—but because we’ve been conditioned not to see it.
But emotional suppression is not strength.
And growth requires space.
This reflection came from a conversation I had with Ashton James (Youngblood), directed by Hubert Davis.
Part of a talkback for National Canadian Film Day, at the Toronto Pan Afrikan Film Festival, in collaboration with Black Lens Society.
A moment that became something deeper.
#BlackMenHealing #BlackLensSociety #NationalCanadianFilmDay TorontoPanAfrikanFilmFestival #BlackMasculinity #CulturaConversations
I’m not new to this. At 26, I didn’t have the language for it yet.But I knew what I was seeing.
Young people trying to understand themselveswithout the tools to name what they were carrying.
So we built spaces.
Through Blueprint 4 Life, we used Hip Hop, movement, and conversation to help students connect to something deeper within themselves.
I didn’t know then that I was building the foundation for what I now call:
Narrative.Identity.Emotional truth as strategy.
What I do today—facilitating conversations, designing experiences, shaping cultural dialogue—
…started in rooms like this.
This is what it looks like when your work is not a pivot. It’s a continuation.
Let your living be your healing.
#FlashbackFriday #CulturalConversations #LeadershipThroughStory #HipHopEducation #Blueprint4Life
I chose myself.
Not all at once.�Little by little.
And somewhere along the way,�it started to feel like freedom.��#NarrativeWork�#ChooseYourself�#SelfTrust
Not every moment requires a reaction.
Some require discipline.
In my 2019 conversation with Damon Stoudamire, we talked about what it takes to handle moments of disrespect.
Not just as an athlete.
But as a Black man navigating different environments.
You can train all you want.
But real life will test whether that training holds.
Kyle Lowry walked away from being shoved by Mark Steven’s (Game3, NBA Finals).
Not because it didn’t matter.
But because he understood the weight of reacting.
Thank you for setting up this interview @fkbmedia 🙏🏽
Let’s Go RAPTORS!!!
#raptors #nba #discipline #identity #selfcontrol
Discernment is a skill.
Not everything that feels intense is intuition. Sometimes it’s trauma speaking loudly.
Trauma reacts. Intuition guides.
One is rooted in fear. The other in clarity.
The work is learning the difference.
Because if you don’t you will trust what feels familiar, instead of what is actually safe.
The story you tell yourself matters more than you think.
I asked Stacey McKenzie who she was before she became a model.
And what stood out was this, she didn’t discover it later.
She decided early.
Even when people questioned her, she didn’t argue.
She just said… watch and see.
That’s not just confidence.
That’s narrative authority.
The story you tell yourself will shape what you believe is possible.
The question is, what story are you telling right now?
Shout out to @businesstakeoutmedia and @bombshellimpact for my platform
#selfconcept #identity #mindset #blackwomen #narrative
