The Q (Quintessence)

Knowledge-mastery vs self-mastery conversation with @aljorperreras during a free webinar for leaders and entrepreneurs we held for @theqprogram #theqprogram #quintessence #transformation

Minsan, kapag mas nakakatakot, mas worth it ipursue. Baka kasi yun na yung hinahanap mo na para sayo talaga. Lean in to the fear! Wag mong takasan. Sometimes, growth and breakthroughs are on the other side of fear. Ang kailangan mo lang gawin ay to TAKE ACTION. Do it scared. G?

"Gusto kong mag-CHANGE ng CAREER, pero NANGHIHINAYANG ako sa 4 years na inaral ko." May nagtanong nito nung nag-webinar ako about IKIGAI. Marami yata yung nasa ganitong sitwasyon no? Yung "ikigai" daw kasi nila ay nalalayo sa kursong tinapos nila. Pero natatakot sila kasi "sayang" naman yung 4-5 years nila nung college. Here's my answer: 👉 Wag tayong magpadala sa SUNK-COST FALLACY. 💡 What is "sunk-cost fallacy?" It is when we make decisions para sa FUTURE based on COSTS we have incurred in the PAST, EVEN IF hindi na logical yung decision. Kunyari, bumili ka ng 500-peso ticket sa movie. Pero nung pinapanood mo na half-way, narealize mo na pangit pala yung movie. 🤔 What would you do? If magpapadala ka sa "sunk-cost fallacy," magsstay ka dun sa sinehan kasi "nanghihinayang" ka sa nabayad mo na, even if miserable ka na sa panonood.. And what happens is you'll end up WASTING MORE OF YOUR TIME.. BUT if you think about it - whatever decision naman yung gawin mo, naibayad mo na yung 500 pesos eh! Hindi ba mas logical na to let it go? Kasi kahit magstay ka, hindi naman "sulit" sayo kasi pangit na nga yung experience mo. Nawalan ka pa lalo ng chance to try a better experience. -- 📌 So, same sa CAREER. ANONG MAS "SAYANG?" 👉 Yung 4 years mo na "nasayang" sa PAST na wala na tayong magagawa? 👉 O yung magiging 30-50 years sa FUTURE na miserable ka sa career na di mo gusto? ✨ If you made a mistake in the past, don't let your future self continue suffering for it.. ✨ Choose wisely! Choose based on the present conditions. Saan ka na ba masaya ngayon? Yun ang piliin mo. ❤️ ---- ℹ️ In photo with me is Aljor Perreras, our resource partner for Quintessence - The Q Program. This was during our Zoom for the free Q Introductory Session. FUN FACT: Aljor has tried many different industries in his life - from medicine to fashion to film, until he found his true calling which is guiding people in their transformation. ✨ Kaya when I met him, I was so amazed and inspired by his story - na OK LANG TALAGA TO PURSUE AND TRY DIFFERENT PATHS. ❤️ Usap tayo sa Adulting Tambayan community and attend our free Q session! Link in bio.

So this program can help YOU but technically, it’s NOT a “self-development” program 🤔

Hindi magtatagal yan kung hindi matibay ang pundasyon. 💁🏻‍♀️: “What if patayuan natin ng 3rd floor ‘yung bahay?” 🙅🏻‍♀️: “Hindi kakayanin. Pang-2 floors lang ‘yung pundasyon.” I had this conversation with my mom years back.. Nag-iisip kasi ako ng ways to improve our housing situation hahaha. Di ako expert sa construction (I’m NOT that kind of engineer - ELECTRONICS po ako! 😂) so medyo noob ako sa pagsuggest nyan. 😅 Pero dahil sa conversation na ‘yan, narealize ko na oo nga ’no - kapag gusto natin ng expansion, sobrang nagmamatter pala talaga ‘yung MATIBAY NA FOUNDATION. And I guess, nag-aapply ’to sa maraming bagay.. Whether we’re talking about 📌 relationships 📌 businesses 📌 personal growth 📌 financial freedom If shaky yung foundations mo, malalagay ka sa alanganin when you try to grow and scale up. 👉🏻 Sa RELATIONSHIPS - kung hindi kayo magbibuild ng strong foundation na based sa FRIENDSHIP, maliit ‘yung chance na magtatagal kayo. 👉🏻 Sa BUSINESSES - if you grow your sales too fast without getting your SYSTEMS in place first, you run the risk of not being able to fulfill your obligations to stakeholders. 👉🏻 Sa PERSONAL GROWTH - kahit ilang skills trainings ang attendan mo na pagkamahal-mahal, if you don’t work on your MINDSET and CHARACTER first, masstuck ka lang rin eventually. 👉🏻 Sa FINANCIAL FREEDOM - if you invest right away without understanding the basics of MONEY MANAGEMENT and financial PROTECTION, kahit ma-grow mo to millions ‘yung investments mo, pwede ‘yan mawala sa isang iglap. Kaya bago mo isipin how you can earn millions, isipin mo muna how you can strengthen your foundations and avoid getting broke in the first place. Eto kasi ‘yung kadalasan nagiging problema - ambilis mag-grow ng money pero dahil hindi strong ang foundations, the moment disaster hits wala na lahat. Whatever it is - build a strong foundation!! --- When it comes to personal dev, I think pinaka-importante is getting talaga to our CORE BEING.. Instead of add lang tayo ng add ng new skills.. Important ung foundation natin as people.. Kaya nagresonate nang sobra sakin yung @quintessence.theprogram ehh.. It's for building a STRONG FOUNDATION to last.

“NEW YEAR, NEW ME.” ❌ Every new year, eto 'yung linyahan no?? We always strive to be a "better" version of ourselves! Laging iniisip na "baguhin" ang sarili. “By 2023, dapat successful na ko.” “Next year, I’ll be better.” Wala namang masama, dapat nga diba we’re always growing and improving! But here’s the thing — while we’re always yearning for the “ideal” version of ourselves, nakakalimutan natin to accept who we are right now. 🤔 ‘Yung tipong kapag alam na natin yung gagawin, pero di natin naiimplement “perfectly”, we judge ourselves!! 🙅🏻‍♀️ “Dapat alam mo na yan eh! Bakit ba di mo pa ginagawa?” 🙅🏻‍♀️ “You should have known better.” Ganito usually yung self-talk natin, ‘no? Subconsciously, ineexpect natin na maging “perfect” tayo. At the same time, pati yung mga taong nakapalibot satin, ineexpect rin natin sila to be the “perfect” versions of themselves based on *our* ideals. 👉🏻 But what if we change our perspective a bit? What if we understand that at this very moment: ✨ WE ARE ALL DOING OUR BEST. ✨ Kasi we will NEVER be perfect. No one will ever be perfect. Even if I talk a lot about growth, compassion, empathy - I am a human being and I will NEVER be able to follow these values 100% of the time. 👉🏻 And THAT’S OK. Kasi nga, tao tayo, eh. So instead of feeling bad kapag hindi namimeet yung expectations.. 💡 What if we just learned to accept people for who they are? 💡 What if we just accept OURSELVES for who we are right now? Less grudges. Less judgments - sa iba at sa sarili. And if we made mistakes - the best thing we can do is to forgive ourselves for that. ✨ So instead of just wanting to be “better” this 2023.. Maybe we can start by just accepting who we are - flaws and all. 🥰 Yes, we can always strive to be better - but it should come from a place of love and compassion, not from judgment nor fear. Have COMPASSION - we are doing the best we can at the moment.. WE ALL ARE. ❤️