Albiona Rakipi | Parenting Coach

Parents ask me this question all the time. They want to know if the hug is reinforcing the tantrum. Let’s reframe what a tantrum is so you can better understand what your child needs. #parenting #emotionalregulation #tantrum #tantrums #motherhood #reparenting #parentingtips #toddlermom #selfregulation

Getting kids to listen is exhausting and hard. Try these 3 strategies in your home to help your kids listen the first time you ask. #kidslisten #tantrum #parentingchallenges #momsofpreschoolers #selfregulation #overwhelmedmom

Most parents believe they have to calm their child down when tantrum hits. Instead consider what the tantrum is there for, to teach your child self regulation skills. As hard as it is resist the knee jerk reaction to jump in and calm them down. #tantrums #toddlermom #preschoolparents #parentingtoddlers #emotionregulation #selfregulation #grit #consciousparenting

Most parents don’t talk about what happens after they react.⁠ ⁠ 👉️ The guilt.⁠ 👉️ The overthinking.⁠ 👉️ The feeling that you should have handled it differently.⁠ ⁠ But that moment doesn’t define your parenting. What you do after does.⁠ ⁠ Coming back, taking ownership, and reconnecting with your child is what actually builds trust over time. Not perfection.⁠ ⁠ This is how your child learns that relationships are safe, even when things aren’t handled perfectly. And it’s also how you start to break the cycle of reacting and staying stuck in it.⁠ ⁠ If you want help knowing what to say in those moments and how to repair without overthinking it…⁠ ⁠ Comment REPAIR and I’ll send you my free scripts to get started.

Most people come to me because they want help supporting their child’s emotions. And while there are absolutely tools that help… I always come back to the same thing: It starts with you. ✨ Our children borrow from our nervous systems. Which means the more supported, nourished, and regulated we are, the more capacity we have to respond instead of react. That’s why building your own toolbox matters. For me, that looks like slowing down, supporting my nervous system, prioritizing rest where I can, and making sure my body is getting what it needs too. I’ve been taking First Day Women’s Multivitamin @firstday as one of those supports because it’s simple, intentional, and easy to stay consistent with in the middle of real life. 🌿 We ask so much of ourselves as women, mothers, and caregivers. Support matters too. If you’ve been looking for a women’s multivitamin, this is the one I highly recommend. 🤍 #womensmultivitamin #mother #burntout #overwhelmedmom #multivitamins

Most parents aren’t trying to punish their kids. They’re trying to get through a hard moment. But when you’re overwhelmed, triggered, or unsure what to do, it’s easy to respond in a way that feels reactive instead of intentional.⁠ ⁠ And that’s where the disconnect happens.⁠ ⁠ Not because you’re doing something wrong. But because no one taught you how to stay regulated while holding a boundary.⁠ ⁠ This is the work.⁠ ⁠ Learning how to respond in a way that actually teaches your child something, without losing yourself in the process.⁠ ⁠ If you want to feel more calm, clear, and consistent in those moments, this is exactly what we focus on inside my 1:1 coaching program.⁠ ⁠ Get started through the link in my bio and book your FREE discovery call.

Yes… use the trick if you need to get out the door. It’s not that deep.⁠ ⁠ But let’s be clear about what’s actually working here...⁠ ⁠ It’s not the distraction. It’s your state.⁠ ⁠ In that moment, you were calm, grounded, and regulated, and your child responded to that.⁠ ⁠ Because kids don’t just respond to what we say, they respond to how we show up. That’s the part that creates lasting change.⁠ ⁠ If you want to feel more calm, clear, and in control in those moments, this is exactly the work we do inside my programs.⁠ ⁠ 👉 Get started through the link in my bio⁠ Download my free scripts or book a free discovery call to learn more!

No one prepares you for the emotional, physical, and psychological transformation that happens when you become a mother. On this week’s episode of The Parenting Reframe, I sat down with Dr. Nicole Pensak @drnikkipensak to talk about her new book, Rattled, and one part of our conversation that stayed with me was the idea of matrescence — the profound transition into motherhood. Not just becoming responsible for a child.�But becoming an entirely new version of yourself. We talked about:�• why motherhood can feel so destabilizing�• identity shifts after having children�• anxiety, overwhelm, and nervous system overload�• the pressure to “hold it all together”�• grieving who you were while learning who you’re becoming�• why so many mothers feel isolated in this season So many women think something is wrong with them when motherhood feels harder, heavier, or more emotionally consuming than they expected. But often, it’s not failure. It’s transformation. This conversation felt deeply validating and incredibly important. 🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts�📚 Rattled is available now in hardcover and audiobook #ParentingReframe #Matrescence #NicolePensak #Rattled #Motherhood

In this week’s solo episode, I break down why kids don’t listen the first time you ask. I walk you through patterned learning and what that means, how to release the story and bring neutrality to the challenge and how to make simple changes that gain cooperation without the struggle. Link in bio to listen 🎧 #parenting #parentingpodcast #parentingpodcasts #kidslisten #reparenting

Do you have a weight of the world kid? Watch this video to learn more about who these incredible kids are and how to meet their needs.

This is the one piece of advice that I give parents on repeat when they’re trying to help their child who is emotionally disregulated. It takes time and patience, but it’s exactly what we work on in coaching. Link in bio to book a free call to learn more. #emotionalregulation #parenting #selfregulation #tantrum #strongwilledchild

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