I hate the word "retired!" It means "ceased to work," and I'm busier than ever! I'm loving this time as I pour into our new ministry, study for my doctorate, and try to be the best husband God has called me to be. Retirement isn't mentioned at all in the Bible! When the Levites could no longer do physically demanding tasks, they still worked! Having said that, I am playing a little more golf than I used to...
Nothing about your life is unseen by God, including the desires you carry.
If marriage is one of those desires, trust His timing and trust His plan.
This season is not a mistake. It is preparation. Instead of dwelling on what has not happened, step into what God is shaping in you now. Know Him more deeply. Grow in character. Serve others well.
Do not measure your life by someone else’s timeline. God is far more concerned with who you are becoming than how quickly you arrive.
The intimacy you seek in a relationship will never exceed the intimacy available to you with the Lord. You are not forgotten. You are not overlooked. You are not alone. He is with you.
“Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.”
Psalm 27:14
1 Samuel 16:7
Psalm 139:1
In this social media life, comparison has constant access to you. Every minute. Every day. And let’s be honest… you’re looking.
So who are you following?
Do those accounts leave you hopeful?
Or do they quietly feed envy and anxiety?
Be honest with yourself.
And then act accordingly.
Delete what needs to go.
Check your heart when you think about your “requirements” for a spouse.
Are they physical or superficial traits that could fade, or character traits that will last a lifetime?
People may look at outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7).
God always invites us to look deeper. He wants to form our hearts and prepare us for a godly spouse, one He has chosen for us. A relationship marked by faithfulness to Him and a shared sense of Kingdom purpose.
Most people think following God is just reading the Bible.
But it shows up in your work, your integrity, and how you treat others.
Especially the people who are hardest to love.
We live in a world that often trains us to notice what’s wrong first. But what if we chose to look for the good in one another instead?
A kind word, a sincere compliment, a moment of encouragement can stay with someone far longer than we realize.
Who can you build up today?
Please, don't define a person by their worst moment. I know this is a very anti-culture thing to say in a time where much of what we are learning about people is sickening.
But if we believe Redemption is real for ourselves, and we have forgiven ourselves a time or two, and asked God to forgive us, why wouldn't we extend that same grace to our brother or sister? And if we can't have grace for another, do we really believe in what Jesus did for us on the cross?
It is a tough question, a theological conundrum, but I challenge you to reflect on the life journey of the Apostle Paul, and read what Jesus says in his Parables.
Our goal here on planet earth, in all of its complex mysteries, is first to enter into a relationship with God so that He may move our hearts into alignment with His.
Not every path leads where it promises.
Some take longer to reveal where they’re actually going.
Which is why it matters to ask,
not just where am I headed,
but what is shaping me along the way?
