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as alfredo bonanno, who just died, warned us, seeking vengeance is ultimately a play for power, even if it seems to set right the current everyday violence. a set of jewish people institutionalized vengeance in the most violent of formations, a settler state, and consolidating power, dared to replace the varied beauty of diasporic jewish culture, spirituality, practices, and beliefs, with a model of ethnostate that uses the christian supremacist play book of the united states. shame on us jews for letting that theft occur, but now, if we want to recover any ethical and aesthetic meaning to jewishness, we must keep solidarity with palestinian liberation. l’chaim intifada! long live insurrection! those who fear these words grasp waning power with their ghoulish hands. they only fear because they know they will lose their supremacy. but jewish liberation is not in the state of israel, it is in the liberation of the land and the people from that state and every state. i am a traitor to all power!
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✹ The Flame of Justice with @brotheromid on A Sufi Heart
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✹ Art, Care & Disobedience with Laura van Grinsven and Miriam van Rijsingen on @les.shapeshifters
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Today, I tackle a letter with an old friend, Amar, who some of you may know from his work on The Final Straw Radio. He is one of the reasons I am making this show, as The Final Straw invited me in to start recording conversations. In past Final Straw episodes, Amar and I have tackled different internal and external struggles with people addressing conflict or proposing new paths for social relations. Amar’s curiousness and openness has always been personally helpful to me when trying to chew over difficult feelings and ideas. He has a capacious understanding and gives so much grace to the experience of problems we run into while we are trying to do good.
Now, this letter has actually been sitting in my inbox for a while, and I feel bad that I let it go for so long. I can make excuses, like last year involving a bunch of personal stuff that took up most of my attention, and then the need to finish my new book. But I’ll also admit that at first I wasn’t sure how to tackle the issues the letter writer raised in a way that honored all of the feelings. There were many factors going on in a time of great crisis and I wanted to try to hold them all together. I kept batting around ways to approach it, until finally I realized Amar would be the perfect person to bring into the conversation. And as you will see, I was not wrong!
In our conversation, we tackle the breakup of a long monogamous relationship and the debut of a new polyamorous life, an international romance beset by war and geopolitics, and the sudden letdown of planned encounter canceled at the last minute. There are so many big feelings here that the letter brings up and each one could be the focus on its own conversation. Bringing them all together surely tangled up the writer who was trying to sort out a new phase of life and a new way of relating to lovers
@plutopress is having a may day half off sale, if you want to buy my book, or the translation i did of a people's history of psychoanalysis, or @cindymilstein 's constellations of care, among others!
New episode with @sklimnagem ! Catch them on book tour: 4/10 @wcfbook 5/10 @charisbooksandmore with @mbsycamore for @samuelace meet me there and 6/11 for the @t4t.readings@themodel_allston
Today I talk with the great writer and friend Megan Milks about their new essay collection Mega Milk, published this year by @feministpress . I just have to say that Mega Milk by Megan Milks is maybe the best title/author combo that will ever exist. But beyond that amazingness, Megan’s book contains many paths of exploration through milk both literal and metaphorical toward questions of names, transition, family history and dynamics, nourishment, connection, and human relationships with animals, agriculture, business, and land. The book is vulnerable, freaky, kinky, funny, and informative, all at once.
🐦⬛NEW Advice Column up!🐦⬛
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A reader wrote in with this:
“Why is talking about how we share money or even talk about class in a straightforward way so bloody hard? I’d love some advice on how to approach this issue.”
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Our ghost columnist, Stone Telling” gave some damn good advice! Link in bio! ✨🐦⬛💰🐦⬛✨
New episode!!! A conversation I recorded with Elia Ayoub to discuss and analyze the US-Israeli war on Iran. We recorded on Tuesday March 10, and events keep changing, but this conversation will still be relevant insofar as we look at the geopolitical causes and consequences. After Elia lays down the groundwork of the current situation, we discuss the complex politics among states, non-state groups, and civilians. One issue I've run into since the attacks on Iran first began is some people’s utter confusion in how to place the state of Iran and its government in relation to anti-imperial struggle. It turns out you can be anti-Zionist and not pro-Ayatollah! Elia helps understand the authoritarian role of the Ayatollah, from the 1979 revolution onward, while also bringing similarly complex analysis to Lebanon and Hezbollah. Both Iran and Hezbollah have countered Israel with military force; and they have both done their own share of murder of populations and interventions on behalf of authoritarian regimes. We put all of this in the context of Israeli’s genocide of Gaza.
Elia provides possible scenarios that could develop from the war continuing and also possible ways it might end or be stopped. As with Gaza, it seems to a certain extent that either the will of the US or a coalition of other European states is necessary to put an end to the violence. Iran has made some effective decisions that maximize its military and economic power against such terrible foes, and as Elia says, this whole scenario will likely end up realigning alliances in the region. As long as the US is willing to press on in this war, Israel will also deploy all of its might to continue its destruction with little regard for any life after. In the end, I think this is where we land: the war itself does not make much political or economic sense, and so for both Trump and Netanyahu it exemplifies a death drive that pairs genocide with ecocide and maybe even omnicide, as desalination plants are destroyed, for example. We don’t know what the long ranging effects of this war will be on the people living in the area, but it won’t be good—even if it ends now.
new episode!!! vicky osterweil and @shulibranson at the 2025 @nycabf talking about anarchist culture war and how we live now! check it out! (NB the sound quality is a little hard because of the recording circumstances, but i think it was still worth sharing!)
we discuss the importance of anarchist culture making, how beyond the struggle, or even before the struggle, we need pleasure and life
