I am so excited to be offering this experience for the first time. The doors close on June 1, and the content drops start on June 8th.
For only $36 (plus tax and fees), you can learn update your health information while learning about best practices in communication, all so you can flirt, and more, and know how to have relaxed conversations around STIs and your body. Stop feeling anxious about STIs, start showing others you're mature enough and informed enough to play with.
Click the link in my bio to sign up today.
Hello and welcome! A bit more about me:
🖤When I'm not working, I'm making art, reading fantasy and romance, and training at my kickboxing dojo.
🖤No, I am not single.
🖤If you see me in the wild, yes you can come and say hello! If you're local to Toronto, we may cross paths. I may not always be able to chat for long, but it's always nice to meet other community members.
🖤Want more education? Head to my other account, @wifebaerae for all my workshops and what I'm thinking about in the world of seggs ed.
Opening up can feel like betrayal when boundaries aren’t clear. Coaching can give you the tools you need to reset agreements, rebuild trust, and move forward in non-monogamy with respect and clarity.
Ready to do the work together? I'm currently accepting private clients. DM me the word HELP to chat with me.
Being sexy in these spaces isn’t just about chemistry, you also need to handle real conversations without yucking other people.
I want you to know what getting an STI actually means for you and your health, and how to have conversations around STIs with others that are non-shaming. I want you to learn not to shame yourself if you do accidentally contract an STI. I want you to become the kind of person people actually want to hang out with at the club. This is exactly what I'll be doing with my Sl*tty Summer STI Bootcamp.
How it works:
Starting June 8, I'll be dropping videos, graphics, and more for five days straight. Each day will have a different topic to learn about, including STI health info, how to disclose, how to ask other people about their STI status, all so you can feel less anxious about these kinds of conversations.
Join the bootcamp for only $36, and learn how to talk about STIs in a way that will have you be the positive influence in the lifestyle, instead of the person everyone wants to avoid.
Having an STI shouldn't keep you from play, but so many people EVEN IN THE LIFESTYLE don't know the basic health information, or how to communicate around it because of ~fear based~ education followed up by ~shitty media representation~.
Which is why, I'm opening up a 5 day affordable option, the Sl*tty Summer STI Bootcamp, and it happens in June.
This is five days of info dropped into my private discord so you can watch videos and learn at your own pace, while getting access to my larger community space, and it's only $36.
By joining this group, you will not only learn about the latest in STI health information so you can better protect yourself, you will also get detailed information on conversations around disclosure targeted to CNM specific experiences. For example, how and when to talk about STIs if you're at a play party, and it's busy, and there are other people who can hear you, and you want to be smart but also not ruin the vibe.
Plus, there's an option to upgrade to Very Important Pleasure Seeker status, so we can creatively problem solve for your STI questions.
Click the link in my bio to register today.
P.S. Yes, I know latex catsuits are really expensive, it's just an example.
Even if you "did everything right" - have agreements, get tested regularly, used barrier methods, condoms still break, and most people aren't using barriers for oral activities.
If you're in a non monogamous relationship (or, honestly, any relationship), this may come up, but it doesn't have to be doom and gloom, you can feel neutral about it, and I can help you achieve that neutrality.
If you join my Sl*tty Summer STI bootcamp, instead of that shame/embarrassment spiral, you'll be able to take deep breaths, be realistic about what happened, and share about a positive STI result in a way that feels matter of fact instead of like the end of your relationship.
💦 Sl*tty Summer STI Bootcamp starts June 8 💦
5 days of actually useful, no-shame, real-life STI education so you can have these conversations with more confidence, clarity, and a LOT less panic.
We’re talking:
✨ risk without fear-mongering
✨ how/when to have the convo
✨ what disclosure actually looks like IRL
✨ and how to unpack the shame that makes all of this harder than it needs to be
Your s*x life shouldn't fall apart over something treatable, manageable, and incredibly common.
Link in bio to join 😈
Somewhere along the way, we learned that STIs aren’t just medical, they're a sign of a moral failing, so even talking about them calmly can feel…wrong.
But what if it was just another adult conversation about bodies, health, and care? That shift, from shame to neutrality, starts with knowledge, and shifting the language you use to talk about STIs.
💦 Slutty Summer STI Bootcamp starts June 8.
This is 5 days of info drops in my private discord, where you will learn how to unpack your internalized stigma, what you can say when asking other people about STI status, and get up to date knowledge on the current (new) STIs (like MPox and Shigella!).
The info will be daily drops in the form of videos, graphics, and links to additional resources so you can know you're making an informed choice around who you play with, and can communicate that respectfully to others before you get intimate with them.
Link in bio to register now.
Why am I talking about STIs? Because I have a Sl*tty Summer STI Bootcamp coming up this June, and it's everything you need to know as an adult that has multiple partners, plans on hitting up that local play party you didn't have the energy to attend over the winter, or even how to chat about STIs when you're at a rave, and that couple from across the dance floor wants to take you back to their tent.
This is 5 days of info that you can watch and read at your own pace, and by the end of it you will know exactly how to talk about STIs with others so you can show up in these spaces as your most s*x positive self, while still managing your own health in a way that feels safe for you.
Are you ready for your Sl*tty summer? Head to the link in my bio to join this group now.
Another point of clarification! The purpose of this INFO DROP is so that you can learn all those things I word vomited in this reel, I want you to feel like you know how to make safer choices around STIs, but you can't do that if your info is outdated.
Outdated info can be because:
🖤Your initial health classes were all about abstinence
🖤You've been monogamous for a long time, so knowing this info just wasn't relevant to you
🖤You know about the big 7 (chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphillis, HIV, herpes, HPV, crabs), but not the others (trich, shigella, mpox, etc) because most people are only reporting on RISING RATES OF SYPHILLIS with MORAL PANIC.
Plus, if you're nervous, how do you talk about STIs in a way that isn't shaming others, while also making it clear what your boundaries are?
The Sl*tty Summer STI bootcamp is going to teach you how to do that, so you can have that conversation with all potential dates and play partners, know how to respond to any information those potential partners may tell you, and feel good about how you handled it.
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Y'all, chlamydia goes away with basic antibiotics, just like any other bacterial infection you could get. Annoying? Yes. Panic worthy? No.
I want you to be able to enjoy the good weather, use that energy you're getting from the Vitamin D to get all kinds of D (or V, or whatever). You'll know how to talk about STIs while staying s*x positive, with no embarrassment, so you can disclose with confidence and receive disclosure with empathy.
My Sl*tty Summer STI Bootcamp is 5 days of info drops in my private community discord. Watch the videos and access the resource links at your own leisure, or upgrade to VIP (very important pleasure seeker) to book a private zoom call to have your specific STI questions answered after the 5 days.
Register before June 1st at the link in my bio.
I think telling yourself you're in control of your feelings is a nice idea or first step to staying calm when you're feeling jealous and anxious and over thinking in your CNM relationship. However, when you overly focus on that concept, you're gaslighting yourself.
You aren't always in control of your feelings, and sometimes those feelings are too big to talk yourself out of - you rationally understand what's going on, but you still feel bad.
Everyone gets overwhelmed by their feelings sometimes, so instead of focusing on controlling the feeling, instead, you should focus on your behaviour as a result of the feeling. Your behaviour is what's actually within your control, even when the feelings are.
Hi, I'm Rae, and I aim to help my clients and workshop participants by giving them tips rooted in the realities of having relationships, instead of holding you to an unfair standard.
