Dominee Calderon

These are all the places you can find me online and I use the same name everywhere. The only places you can purchase my workbooks are my shop (selfloverainbow.com and on /shop/selfloverainbow) anywhere else is ripping you off. I'm most active on Patreon. I create tons of things each month, I take requests and suggestions, and I'm over there every day but I also post pretty consistently on Facebook and Instagram. I send out my newsletter every Monday morning. (You can sign up on my website selfloverainbow.com) I'm also super awkward when it comes to being social so now that's a thing you know.

It's been like four years since I've done one of these! Hiii! I'm Dominee and I like to create cute art with encouraging messages and RAINBOWS because the world needs more joy, cuteness, and encouragement. I create as my full-time job and it is the BEST job. Other things about me/my life: 💗 I started this page in 2011 (under the name Blessing Manifesting) so I've been doing this for a long time! 💗 Heated Rivalry is my current obsession (mentally I'm at the cottage) 💗 I met and married my husband before he came out as transgender. I've always identified as pansexual (attracted to someone regardless of gender) so it didn't change our relationship (other than he became a much happier and self-accepting person) 💗 I have guardianship of my adult brother, James. His special interests are the Simpsons, Family Guy, Bob's Burgers, and the NFL. 💗 I'm very liberal and also pretty queer And please don't @ me about my hatred of ranch dressing - I hear it every day from my husband who puts it on everything! 😂

(Forever a Sailor Moon Fan) A little reminder that sometimes things fall apart to make room for something better.

Wishing you the sweetest weekend. Any fun plans?

There is no shame in needing help to manage your mental health. You are not less than. You are not a failure. You are taking care of yourself, and that’s brave and beautiful. *And if you don't take medication that's okay too! We all have a responsibility to do what works best for us and for our bodies but anyone who goes to the comments to shame anyone for taking medication (it happens every time I share this) will be blocked because we respect people and their abilities to make informed choices for themselves! 🩷

It's okay not to be okay. I try to share this every year for #MentalHealthAwareness TW: Depression, suicidal thoughts, self-harm When I was struggling with depression I looked happy. I joked, I laughed, and 99% of the time I had a huge smile on my face. I was also struggling with depression HARD, for almost as long as I could remember (around 11 or 12) . I've been really good for the last decade but my 20s felt like this weird fever dream of looking SO HAPPY on the outside and being depressed to the point of daily suicidal thoughts and pretty intense self-harm. But I looked so happy. I wanted people to see me the way I wanted to be. And honestly at that point I didn't know what it felt like to not be depressed so it was like - normal? to me. At some point it really clicked that I didn't have to pretend to be okay. And that's when I started my blog where I talked about mental health and stopped holding up the shiny, happy, smiley, mask in front of my face 24/7. (I didn't realize how exhausting it was.) I wasn't okay - and it was okay to acknowledge that - and that was one of the stepping stones to recovery for me.

Depression doesn’t always look like what people expect. It’s not just sadness, there are a lot of symptoms underneath it. As with all things, your mileage may vary because even when two people have the same disorder, they can experience symptoms very differently.

You are not required to tolerate things just because they’re familiar, expected, or because someone told you that’s just how it is.

Lori Deschene said something really important here and I just had to illustrate it. We cannot always flip a switch and feel better. But we can choose how we treat ourselves

For all of you who are celebrating your moms (or being celebrated!) I want to wish you the happiest of days! (You deserve it!)I also wanted to hold space for those of us (myself included) for which this day has hard or complicated feelings. I lost my mom years ago and we didn't have the best relationship. There are a lot of layers of grief there. Healing too, but you know how it goes. If you feel heaviness in your chest and you don't feel like celebrating for reasons that are hard to talk about. I love you and I wish you a soft and gentle day.

This is me, seeing you, do incredible things. If it's been a tough day (or week) then I'm proud of you for getting through it and I hope you're proud of yourself too.

If things feel really heavy right now, you are allowed to put them down for a little while. Rest is not giving up. Rest is just being human. #ItIsOkayToRest #HeavyDays #YouDeserveRest #BeKindToYourself