Seeing Other People

A new era (& some love for the eras that got us here) 💜 @podcast.nation let’s do this 🥳 #dating #podcast #datingtips #datingadvice #relationships #datingapps #entrepreneur

I’ve learned so much from working at one of the biggest dating apps in the world, healing my anxious attachment, building a loving relationship, and hosting a dating podcast for 3+ years. Here’s what I would tell single self: 1) Never beg someone to stay. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? You deserve so much more than that. 2) If you come home from a date saying, “I think I’m in love,” run. The best connections and healthiest relationships grow overtime. If you’re all in on someone after one date, you’re creating a fantasy version of them in your head that doesn’t exist in reality. They won’t live up to that version you’ve invented of them, and you’ll be so focused on needing them to want you back, that you won’t actually be your whole authentic self. 3) You did nothing wrong by asking to be treated right. 4) The hardest conversations are the most important ones to have. Take a deep breath, have 20 seconds of insane courage, and say what you need to say. 5) Try your best not to future trip. If they’re going to be in your future, they’ll be in your future. Picturing your future with someone is only going to make it harder to walk away, even if they suck. 6) Don’t date potential, date the person. 7) Stop trying to fix people. That’s not your job! 8) Know your worth and don’t forget it. If someone doesn’t like you for you, that’s their loss. There’s someone out there who won’t be able to imagine their life without you. 9) It’s not all about you. What someone does and says says more about them than about you. So just because someone doesn’t want to be with you or doesn’t want something serious, that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It just means they’re not your person. 10)Have fun with it. Dating is freaking awesome. When else in your life can you spend your nights going to different bars, restaurants, coffee shops, and experiences with the goal of getting to know someone? You’ll miss it one day. Follow along and check out my podcast Seeing Other People for more realistic dating advice! xx Ilana #dating #datingadvice #single #lifelessons #anxiety #therapy #reflection #hinge #attachment

Two and a half years ago, I lost my job and decided to pursue my dream of creating a podcast and community that helps people feel less alone in their dating lives. Today, my podcast was featured in The New York Times for doing exactly that. Pinch me. And no, I had NO idea in the world this was happening.

Dating intentionally should still be fun. ❤️ Full episode with @anniejorgensen available now on Spotify, YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and wherever you listen to podcasts 🎧 #DatingPodcast #ModernDating #SingleLife #DatingAdvice #IntentionalDating

Your twenties are weird because everyone says they’re supposed to be the best years of your life… while you’re actively having a crisis every other week. 😭 @meg_reynoldss from @notthegirlnextdoorpodcast joins me to talk about turning 27, feeling behind, grieving the life you thought you’d have, and learning that maybe your twenties are supposed to feel confusing and uncomfortable. Full episode available now on Spotify, YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and wherever you listen to podcasts 🎧 #TwentySomething #LifeInYour20s #QuarterLifeCrisis #PodcastClips #womenwhopodcast

She found out her boyfriend cheated on her… moments before he pulled out an engagement ring. 💍💔 Full episode with @anniejorgensen available now on Spotify, YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and wherever you listen to podcasts 🎧 #DatingPodcast #HeartbreakStory #CheatingEx #SingleLife #moderndating

Your reminder that being single at 30 isn’t a failure… sometimes it’s the beginning of finally choosing yourself! This week, I’m joined by @anniejorgensen to talk about what really shifts when you stop looking for someone to complete you. From finding out her ex cheated on her right before he was about to propose, to rebuilding her confidence while everyone around her was getting engaged, Annie opens up about learning how to date for herself instead of for validation. Full episode available now on Spotify, YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and wherever you listen to podcasts 🎧 #DatingPodcast #SingleInYour30s #HeartbreakHealing #singlelife #ModernDating

Who’s going to tell her she’s the newest member of the Syracuse University & Newhouse Faculty? 🧡💙 JNL 500: Launching a Podcast in the Creator Economy with Professor Ilana coming soon @syracuseu @newhousesu @newhousenyc

If you don’t feel good enough… this is the shift you need 👀 Full episode with @theartofhealingbytrevor available now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts 🎙️ #SelfWorth #HealingJourney #InnerWork #Boundaries #datingpodcast

You might’ve already swiped past your future partner 👀 Not everyone fits your “type” on paper—and a bad photo or first impression means nothing. The right person might be the one you almost overlooked. Full episode with @uesthings available now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts 🎙️ #DatingAdvice #GivePeopleAChance #ModernDating #DatingPodcast #relationships

The rule for events is: talk to 2 people. That’s it. No pressure, just proof you can show up and do something outside your comfort zone. With @uesthings , we talk about going to events alone, meeting people IRL, and why waiting around (and sticking to your “type”) might be what’s actually holding you back. Full episode available now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts 🎙️ #DatingEvents #ComfortZone #MeetingPeople #DatingPodcast #SocialAnxiety

You’re chasing love from everyone… except yourself!! Full episode with @theartofhealingbytrevor available now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts 🎙️ #SelfLove #SelfWorth #HealingJourney #DatingPodcast #InnerWork