Book 2 bb!!! I’m so excited to share this with you! The Non-Monogamy Playbook is out 30th January 2025, you can pre-order it now (link is in my b1o) 🩷❤️💜 please pre-order it I will love u 5eva. Right here’s a bit about the what to expect:
Weaving between practical guidance, theory, and personal stories, in this book I probe the long history of relationship rules, looking with curiosity at why society still favours monogamous, heteronormative frameworks, and what lies beyond them.
The Non-Monogamy Playbook not only covers the how-tos, but also the whys, and the what-ifs. If you’re curious to do things differently, or take a look at love from a fresh perspective, you’re in the right place ⭐️
I’m really bloody proud of this, it’s a decade in the making and I got very emotional recording the audiobook this week cos I got to sit with just how much time, care, and love I’ve poured into it 🥰 also feeling QUITE NERVOUS about shifting into promo mode - I love writing and working on longer-form projects, but tend to panic and go into my shell as soon as it’s time to share them with the world - not ideal. Really gonna try and shout about this as much as I can tho, because I am genuinely so so proud of it, and curious to see what readers think, so please bear with me as this page becomes quite book heavy over the next couple months.
Thank you to all the lovely babes at @eburyselfbooks + @penguinukbooks , and to @paulcbrunson for providing the cover for quote 🩷 there’s more quotes I’ll share soon, everyone who’s read it so far has been so kind and I basically can’t stop crying every time someone says something nice to me 🙃
#nonfiction #coverreveal #nonmonogamy #polyamorous #openrelationship #relationshipadvice #ukbookstagram #author #lovelife
Gonorrhoea vaccine info for you! It’s so bloody exciting this was rolled out last year, but there’s still a lot of misinformation (or simply lack of information) out there, so I hope this is useful bbs 😘 and worth flagging that similar to the PrEP rollouts a decade ago, we’re at the beginning of this, so healthcare providers are having to prioritise those who are at greater risk of transmitting gonorrhoea. Really hopeful that as more evidence comes in the vaccine will become more widely available for everyone.
Very grateful to have worked with @thelovetankcic@benvyle@idiosyncraticxl on this, massive fan of their work and I learn so much whenever I step into queer mens (GBMSM) healthcare spaces - truly the gold standard for s xual health. For more info on this and many other topics head to their website x
LADY🤌🏼ER STICKERS!!!! 10 years in and I’ve finally made some merch haha. Selling them (and the zine) at @lezzerfest and tomorrow 3-8pm, me and @spikesfordykes are sharing a table, come say hi!!
I will get an online shop sorted at some point but won’t lie am being spectacularly unorganised about it atm, so if you’re hungry for stickers get down to Vauxhall tomorrow! The day’s almost sold out and I’m v v excited for it 🥰 p.s guess what my sign says (last slide) correct answers will get a silly little prize xx
One-sided monogamy - what are your thoughts? To me what we saw in the #manosphere doc feels culturally very different to mono-polyam setups, which I wrote about in my book and can and do work really well for people! But my main frustration is that this is nothing new, rich arseholes have been doing it for centuries, and now podcasters are at it too
One year without @melzdot ❤️ sharing this beautiful moment from last year’s @londontranspride , thank you @dr_ronx for embodying his words. Missing you everyday melz but especially today xxx
How often have you heard someone say “I don’t have any STIs, I’m clean”? Or maybe you’ve even said that yourself.
When we use terms like “clean”, we imply that if you do have an STI you’re dirty, and that’s just not the case!
Having an STI has nothing to do with hygiene - they’re really easy to transmit, just like other infections or illnesses we get, and we don’t attach clean and dirty to those things, so why do it with sexual health?
It might not seem like a big deal, but the words we use have direct impact on stigma and shame and in the case of STIs, this can lead to not testing, or not telling partners, which only leads to more STIs.
So, how do we stop that happening? We change our language! Instead of “clean” we could say “negative” or “clear” - it’s easy once you get into the practice of saying it!
For more information about STI testing and treatment, head to our website - link in bio 🔗
Goodbye hideous wallpaper, hello excessive collage! This walk feels like a good representation of my brain - weird sexy and a little bit too much 💅 it’s made up of bits I’ve been collecting for years and feels so good to stick em down and be looking at them everyday. Here’s to more weird diy projects, v v v excited for this bodybuilder bathroom…
