What we often call “resistance” is not any problem to overcome.
It’s a form of intelligence, protecting the pace and integrity of your system.
When you support resistance in mindful experiments revelation and true congruence emerges, As we meet it differently, it starts to heal something even deeper.
Tonight at 7pm EST we have a free video call for info & introdution to the approach.
Join Our Free Upcoming Ontodelic Inquiry Info & Introduction Video Call - Tonight, Thurs May 14th 7pm EST - to learn more about this work. Link in bio to sign up.
Ontodelic Inquiry Facilitator Training
May 29-31
Hudson Vally NY
Ontodelic Inquiry works at the level where change becomes lived.
Where psychological, somatic, and relational layers begin to move together.
At the end of this month, we are running the only training that we will run this year.
Tomorrow evening at 7pm EST we have a free video call for info & introdution to the approach.
Join Our Free Upcoming Ontodelic Inquiry Info & Introduction Video Call - Thurs May 14th 7pm EST - to learn more about this work.
Link in bio to learn more <3
What if the deepest shift is not from “the medicine”… but in becoming more available to what’s already trying to emerge?
Medicine is only a piece of the journey.
The deeper revelation of the medicine is not the experience itself… but the recognition that consciousness is far more vast, open, and unbound than you were conditioned to believe.
A kind of deconditioning begins. Awareness loosens from identification. The nervous system learns that reality is larger, safer, more alive, and more interconnected than the structures of contraction once perceived.
This is some of what Ontodelic Inquiry opens… and why I’m sharing about Ontodelic Inquiry Training & Retreat.
I know Antonia & Roger Vanoro @antoniavanoro@rogervanoro personally and did this training 5 years ago. I’m doing it again in a few weeks (live IN PERSON). I’ve also been working with Antonia 1-1 for over 6 years of the 9 I’ve known her.
I don’t often share trainings or other people’s work, and I get nothing for sharing this. I just know how impactful this training was for me!
There are a few spots left and I’m personally invested in having good folk joining us in the training! (There’s a required 1-1 call to join and make sure it’s the right fit).
Antonia is one of the “OG” facilitators of some of the world’s most powerful medicines. She’s not “an influencer” with a huge following… but those in the know know she’s a master. (… seems to be the case with everyone I work with!)
Join their f.ree Ontodelic Inquiry Training Intro Session this Thursday May 14th @ 7pm EDT. (Sign up ⬆️ at link, no cost).
The in person training & retreat is May 29–31, and it’s their ONLY Ontodelic Inquiry Training cohort this year.
You can book a call with them to learn more or ask me any questions about my experience or the training.
This work is not about escaping with expanded states.
It is about allowing greater consciousness to help you meet greater shadow… and letting transformation happen through embodiment, fascination, awe, curiosity, innocence, and the living field between beings.
That gap between knowing and doing is where somatic healing, attachment theory, and nervous system regulation begin to come alive as lived experience.
If you’re a therapist or practitioner, you may find yourself thinking, “I already have tools for working with trauma.” And in many ways, that’s true.
And still, there are moments when something shifts in a client’s system and it’s not immediately clear what would best support what’s unfolding.
Part of this is because trauma doesn’t organize in a single way. Different expressions shape the nervous system differently, and they often benefit from different points of entry. When everything is approached through the same lens, it can sometimes create subtle friction:
● moving toward processing when more stabilization might be needed
● staying with insight when the system is asking for regulation
● leaning on technique when pacing or attunement could lead
● orienting toward repair before there’s enough capacity for closeness
Many facilitator trainings lean toward the medicine and the information, with less emphasis on the embodied capacities that support meeting what emerges.
Not only holding it, but staying with it at its roots, tracking what’s unfolding over time, and supporting how it integrates.
When that place is known in a lived, embodied way… both personally and through many perspectives… something reorganizes.
The work before and after the medicine can begin to feel just as meaningful as the journey itself.
Ontodelic Inquiry was created to support the psychological, emotional, somatic, and relational terrain that can shape how an experience is integrated into someone’s life over time. It offers a way of working that invites more safety, depth, and care, honoring the trust people bring to this kind of process.
This is the only Ontodelic Inquiry Cohort this year. It begins at the end of May, 29, 30, 31 and the early rate is available for the first 8 applicants and we're filling up.
Apply to schedule a call. All links in bio via my linktree.
Join Our Free Upcoming Ontodelic Inquiry Info & Introduction Video Call - Thurs May 14th 7pm EST - to learn more about this work.
Link also via linktree.
For healers, therapists, coaches, yoga teachers who want to offer sessions, psychedelic guides, & space holders
Join Our Upcoming Ontodelic Inquiry Info & Introduction Video Call - Thurs May 14th 7pm EST to hear what's possible in this work. Link for Info Call & Training In Bio.
There’s a moment many facilitators recognize,
sometimes even in the middle of a session,
where you can feel that what’s coming up in the person in front of you… is deeper than what you know how to meet.
At times, conversations can stay near the surface, get stuck in loops, or we offer tools that are helpful but don’t quite reach what’s asking to be met.
Something meaningful may have been touched… without necessarily being fully worked through.
For therapists, many trainings call themselves 'somatic' and offer a handful of tools to reset the nervous system, or to relax the vagus nerve. This is a full-psyche somatic language & approach for meeting your clients at a much deeper level in the emergent moment where they are.
When it comes to psychedelic trainings, many facilitator trainings lean heavy on medicine and the information, with less emphasis on the embodied skills & capacities that support meeting what emerges……Not only holding it, but staying with it at its roots, tracking what’s unfolding over time, and supporting how it integrates.
“We can only take our clients as far as we’ve gone ourselves”
The work before and after the medicine starts to feel just as potent as the journey itself. Those in your care are gaining real maps of their own consciousness and having massive insights before and after they ever sit with the medicine.
Whether you are a healer, therapist, or guide: Ontodelic Inquiry was created to support the psychological, emotional, somatic, and relational terrain that can shape how an experience is integrated into someone’s life over time. It offers a way of working that invites more safety, depth, and care, honoring the trust people bring to this kind of process.
This is the only Ontodelic Inquiry cohort this year. It begins at the end of May, and the early rate is available for the first 8 applicants. Apply to schedule a call.
May 29-31 Hudson Valley NY
Join Our Upcoming Ontodelic Inquiry Info Session - Thurs May 14th 7pm EST.
The deeper art is not simply supporting someone open... but learning how to stay present to the unfolding at its roots, where transformation begins reorganizing a life from within, held with wonder, fascination, warmth, and attunement.
Link for info In Bio
"TAIL OF THE LION"
I found this old gem! In 2014, I visited Sirius Ecovillage. They have an octagon shaped community building, and on the second floor its a huge empty, bright space with windows on all sides. Inspired by the energy and natural reverb of this space, I began to belt out the wave of inspired emotion. Roger, a resident at the time, asked to record me, and created this beautiful visual poem with it.
Inspired music is made in the moment, live, based on what's alive inside that is begin to come out.
Some people confuse inspired with music channeled music... using the word "channelled" is very trendy among New Agers and the two are not at all the same. What most people call channelled music is actually inspired music. One can only understand the difference between the two once they've experienced a true channelling...
But! Inspired music is just as precious and is not less spectacular to behold! It means a person has been graced and touched by the divine flame of inspiration. This is a gift. No need to dress it up as anything else 🫶
Inspired music is improvised, but not all improvised music is inspired! And improvised music is also amazing!!
Nothing is better or worse, higher or lower than the other -- all those assessments are simply Ego judgements. Just let it be!!
AND in any case, these are all just words!
What really matters is having fun while creating something - no matter the energy or context surrounding the creative process.
What matters MOST is allowing oneself to express what is alive and TRUE, letting that energy move through and out without judgement and without attachment.
Because people feel what is true and what isnt. And in this world of confusion and deception, its up to each one of us to use our unique talents to either nourish Truth and Beauty, or Deception and Mimicks...
Art has the power to reshape Culture.
We must use it responsibly. And given the state things, authentic unfiltered truthful art is needed very much in today's world.
Check out more of Roger's beautiful work on his website #artofinstagram #liveauthentic #truth #apocalypse #culture
I’ve been honored to contribute film work to ‘Leviathan’—a documentary that just dropped and is already shifting conversations.
It’s muddy, noisy, turbulent times. We’re in it, guys. Really in it. And I find myself changing how I engage with it all.
I don’t know if you’ve noticed but my online voice has grown quieter as I figure out how best to move in these mediums. My heart has grown weary watching us tear each other apart over fragments of truth. I’m thinking deeper, longer, holding my tongue and working.
This tension has been real for me. My in-person work is alive and rich—last weekend Antonia and I taught our Ontodelic Inquiry training in Boston, and I felt that deep thrill watching facilitators discover what becomes possible when we actually see each other, and work using profound somatic methods.
But translating that depth online? I’ve struggled to find coherency between the ground-level work and digital conversations.
‘Leviathan’ represents something I can fully stand behind. It doesn’t give us enemies to blame or easy solutions. It gives us complexity worth grappling with.
The documentary is free now: link in bio
This is the work my heart is called to. I hope to find you through it and in it. Let me know your experience with the film.
#Leviathan #Documentary #Consciousness #Storytelling #SomaticWork #OntodelicInquiry #FilmWork #Complexity #AuthenticConversation
Feeling grateful right now, writing in a cafe. It’s been a little while since I just wrote something on here straight from my heart. I’ve grown so much since last writing - lots of layers of priceless growth. I look in the mirror and I see a different person - someone I love more and more - and that gives me more love to give. I credit my wife Antonia for so much of that, and her unabashed audacious fervor for growth, her spaciousness, her love, and wisdom. It’s been a vulnerable rich enterprise chronicling (in shared attention) our hearts so deeply together.
Celebrating and marking in time our anniversary. This photo is us, after the spa trip and before the South Indian meal - before the savage Comedy Cellar show... We’re standing at the entrance to the Vedic temple. Inside, A Priest, amidst the sacred commotion of temple trumpets and drums, did a celebratory puja for us for this coming year, to Ganesha, the elephant-headed deity. I felt lifted in a bright light and Grace, holding her hand. The snake around Ganesh’s waist is symbolic of holding the cosmos together. In many traditions, the elephant is invoked at key times to protect and clear obstacles, as it is the animal that makes the paths in the jungle.
We are privileged to be expanding our couple’s work in this coming year. We intend to share with the community a free workshop filled with gems from our heart, at the end of this month. It couldn’t feel more right, and I can’t wait to see how it resonates with all of you.
I am feeling very humbled and a bit baffled with the gratitude filling my heart right now, both for the journey so far and the road ahead. As we step into this next chapter together, I’m excited to see the stories yet to be woven, not just for us, but for everyone who joins us on this adventure.
Thank you Antonia for all, all, all that you are - and bring to so many. Humbled to be by your side.
Self-Led Responsive Communication: offers a path to clarity and connection. It heals the cycle of right vs. wrong by focusing on raw emotions, without attaching to the younger or protective parts’ stories.
1. Intention: What’s important to you both? what do you both want from the interaction? Would each of you be willing to hold this intention?
2. The Divine Seer in Communication: —a practice of seeing and holding space for your partner’s highest qualities, even when they may not see them themselves.
3. The Event: Describe in the simplest way you can, the event that triggered the emotion and belief that goes along with that emotion, without blame or judgment.
4. Speaking For, Not From, Your Parts: Identify the emotion in 1-3 words—sad, angry, hurt, frustrated. You can say, ‘There’s a younger part or some part that’s defended that feels... It reminds me of……
This fosters empathy and begins to heal old wounds.
5. Reflect and Acknowledge : Reflect the impact on them: empathize, acknowledge, and validate.
‘So you feel... when... because you...’
This allows your partner to feel seen and understood, starting the healing process.”
6. Switching Roles: The other person shares and is reflected to ensure that both of you feel heard, seen, and understood. This balance is key.
7. The Power of Inclusion : Empathize, acknowledge, and validate their experience without feeding the victim narrative. Support, don’t solve. Hold space for each other’s higher qualities and unique gifts.
8. Tools, Not Rules : Self-Led Responsive Communication is about using tools to interrupt automatic, unhelpful responses. Tools like these help us to unblend / dis-identify with the younger protective and defended parts that are trying to get their needs met from a place that creates the opposite. It supports younger parts to break free from playing into victim and hero patterns, Self led Responsive Communication focuses on immediate experience and basic needs. 9. Mastering this approach can sometimes feel choppy or contrived at first-Be generous, kind and patient. Join us - FREE WORKSHOP FOR COUPLES AND SINGLES Thursday Sept 12th 7pm EST link in bio
{FREE WORKSHOP} Unlock the Secrets to Lasting Love 🗝️ ⧞ ❤️ 9/12 @7pm EST
Ready to transform your relationship and unlock deep connection? Join us for Decoding Obstacles to Lasting Love workshop on Sunday, September 8th at 7:00 PM. 3 Secrets you need to know about how to Crack the Code to Unseen Dynamics . Don't miss out on this opportunity to grow as a couple!
EXPERIENCE
This is NOT your ordinary webinar. You’ll be guided through a LIVE, experiential process, seeing EXACTLY what our Sacred Partnership process makes possible for you, as a couple and as individuals.
DISCOVER
Antonia & Roger will give you the framework to understand exactly how patterns repeat in relationship so that you can SEE clearly what's driving disconnection and conflict, and begin to CONNECT in authentic new ways – at a depth and ease that might surprise you.
APPLY
You’ll leave with multiple examples, practical ideas, and the confidence to start COMMUNICATING in a whole NEW WAY so that you can be more open + responsive, accessible, authentic and vulnerable.
We are Antonia & Roger Vanoro.
We guide couples to uncover what's holding them back, heal deep patterns, and step by step, embody the skills needed to build a new, lasting intimacy and shared destiny together.
https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/decoding-obstacles-to-lasting-love-tickets-998611603187
#LastingLove #RelationshipGoals #AuthenticIntimacy #CouplesWorkshop #DeepConnection #relationshiphealing #couplestherapy #relationship coach #sextherapy #connection
At Umpachene falls today, I snapped this photo. I had to censor it for FB, of course. ; )
And below are a few random threads for those who are curious - these clips of text are excerpted from things I looked at.
A LITTLE ON WATER:
The most important thing I've learned recently is simple: Drink more water. 8 glasses a day is a random assertion. Water serves a vast vast array of functions in your being - and being dehydrated is A MASSIVE limitation on your functioning. I've been what I feel like is chronically dehydrated for a long time - and am only now learning to ingest the amount of water that moves the dial for me.
From Martin Chaplin to Viktor Schauberger to Albert Szent-Gyorgyi to Gerald Pollack to ancient indigenous cultures, there is an understanding of water that extends past a mere liquid.
Gerald Pollack is Founding Editor-in-Chief of the scientific journal, WATER and is recognized as an international leader in science and engineering.
This exclusion zone EZ structured water was first identified by Gerald Pollack, although many incredible researchers have theorized about it for over a century.
This structured water forms against our hydrophilic water loving surfaces and forms a template for more sheets of this water to form.
As this structured water builds against our cells, it forms a negative electrical charge. In Pollack's the Fourth Phase of Water, he proposes the water builds in a hexagonal lattice structure like a honeycomb.
As this structured water forms, it pushes out a positively charged proton, creating a separation of charge like a 9 volt battery.
This water battery within has been associated with healthy cells, while a decrease in the negatively charged structured water around a cell has been associated with disease states.
For structuring water and harmonizing it - Handheld Harmonizer / Vortexer gift bundle…I purchased one of these to fit with some new physical filtration we've gotten... $399
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