Today it is 41 years to the day since Sally and I got together. I have made a video to celebrate our love. I'm missing her a lot today. The music is by our friend, Sandy Dillon, who loved Sally.
My dad, Jon Lander, died on 5th April 2026 aged 97. I got to know him really well in the ten years since my mum died. We talked a lot, but I still keep thinking of things I forgot to ask him.
Sally's funeral service at Arnos Vale on 11th February 2026 was a wonderful send off. Around 100 people attended and, as planned, most of the ceremony was delivered by friends and family of Sally who shared their stories. The event was sensitively hosted by Ceri Seel who held the space for us so that we could be really present and share our love for this strong and wise woman who touched so many lives. There were tears and laughter and spontaneously popping bottles of fizz. The sun even came out after weeks of rain. We ended with a hearty sing-a-long before Sally's coffin was carried out by an honour guard of midwives. She would have been so touched by that. On cue, a passing baby let out a cry. Much of the congregation then took a stroll around the fallen graves of this special resting place. We then celebrated Sally with an incredible array of cakes and savoury snacks specially prepared by her friends.
I have made a transcript of the words and added some images:
/sally/transcript.pdf
There is also a recording of the event:
/sally/recording.mp3
There are more stories and images of Sally in the Divine Ceremony website:
/sally-randle/memories/
Dexter, Stella and I would like to thank everyone for their love and generous support.
We are holding a ceremony to celebrate the life of Sally Randle on Wednesday 11th February at Arnos Vale, Bristol. The details are here as well as a space to share photos and memories: /sally-randle/
I am very sad to announce that my beautiful and formidable wife, Sally Randle, died at lunchtime on Monday. Dexter, Stella and I were with her as she peacefully departed. More details to come on the memorial ceremony as and when we know.
