How much value should we place on gender equality? Author Soraya Chemaly breaks it down in this insightful video, and in her great new book ALL WE WANT IS EVERYTHING! Order your copy today.
I’m posting this here so that anyone who needs it has easy access whenever they need it. You know, for those conversations when people talk about the boy crisis in education without talking about male flight, power, and economics. Or the male loneliness crisis, without talking about men offloading emotional life and care to women as prosthetics so they can more efficiently compete with each other. Or when people argue that women have taken over the world and that feminism is hurting men, rather than look at systems run by men that are causing their pain and . Or that misandry is “the same” as misogyny. As I write in All We Want is Everything, the organizing principle of male supremacy is not, first and foremost, about oppressing women but about dominating other men and using supremacist beliefs —misogyny, xenophobia, racism, homophobia, etc. to do it.
This is a meeting between the US and China, the world’s two largest economies, there’s not one woman from either country at this table. This picture is from the Guardian. Headline on second slide. Mind you, it doesn’t say that this is male supremacy, etc., etc. It just says that “some” say it is.
Such a fun conversation today with @atima_omara , author of the new book, The Instigators: How Black Women Have Been Essential to American democracy.” (Also, check out the book’s website for fab swag to wear while you read it!)
I really loved being in conversation with @sorayachemaly@ragebecomesher - exploring maternal anger, regret, fears we’re damaging our children, patriarchal motherhood, and the pressures modern mothers are carrying.
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A conversation about what happens when mothers are expected to hold everything together, all the time - and what can shift when we begin meeting ourselves with more compassion and less shame - ending on what helps us hold onto hope in difficult times.
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💜And as always, I’d really love to hear what our conversation brought up for you.
New Substack post about how we socialized boys for the past and girls for for future. No one, no society, prepared men for women decentering men, changes in relative status, and their effects on gender roles and relations. Many parents have protected boys from this shift, opting to teach most how to be men in much the same way their fathers and grandfathers were taught. Every generation of girls, on the other hand, had to adapt to a new reality. Please give it a read (yes, it’s long, lol, but there is audio!) and a share if you find it useful! Link in profile.
Excited to talk to Atima O’mara’s tomorrow, May 6th, on a live discussion about her upcoming book, The Instigators: How Black Women Are Essential to American Democracy (And What We Can Learn from Them).
You can pre-order your copy right now at the link in my bio. I hope you’ll join us. 🤎
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Newest episode now live.
In this episode of the Ben and Jamesa Podcast, we’re asking does marriage actually help or harm women? We kick things off with the Dawn Staley and Geno Auriemma. We explore the gray divorce revolution, the “Living Apart Together” movement, Leslie Jones’ fiery claim that marriage is “legalized slavery,” and the rise of women building their own community housing outside of traditional partnership. Joining Ben and Jamesa is author and activist Soraya Chemaly.
Soraya is an award-winning author, activist, and cultural critic whose work examines gender norms, social justice, free speech, and sexualized violence. She is the author of All We Want Is Everything: How We Dismantle Male Supremacy. You can find her on Substack at Unmanned and on Instagram at @ragebecomesher .
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