So much of the info available about sex (and life) after trauma has a very walking-on-eggshells, handling-with-kid-gloves type of vibe. Which makes sense because the point is to be sensitive about a particularly fragile part of a person and avoid causing distress.
But this approach unintentionally sets the bar for sex after trauma pretty low. Yes, we want sex after trauma to feel safe and not retraumatize anyone. But we also want sex after trauma to be amazing! We want folks to have post-trauma sex that feels raw and profoundly connecting and incredibly hot!
Also, most trauma sensitive sex information usually puts very little focus on the feelings of the person who is trying to be sensitive. Sex is a deeply mutual experience and, if it’s going to be amazing, both/all partners need to have plenty of space to show up with their feelings and needs.
So, we made the guide to being a trauma sensitive sex partner that we haven’t been able to find elsewhere. You can find it on Etsy at pleasurepie.etsy.com/listing/4427114266 or the link in our bio.
Sex Week Boston is coming! May 10-17 is going to be a vibrant week of community sex education and sexual liberation. There will be dozens of sex ed events all around Boston, Cambridge, Somerville, and Brookline. From smut writing instruction, kinky figure drawing, queer naked yoga, sex-positive comedy, sex trivia, learning to raise sexually healthy kids, and so much more!
Clear your calendar so you can immerse yourself in the wonder of affirming sex-positive community. If you go to 2+ events, you'll be eligible to enter into a very sexy raffle and might walk away with an abundance of sexy prizes!
Get on the email list in @sexweekbos 's bio.
Learning how to respectfully receive a “no” is a key part of practicing good consent! This is our zine club zine for December.
You can also buy this zine in our Etsy store - the link’s in our bio, and below.
/listing/1848104529
Happy Masturbation May! Masturbation is often seen as taboo to talk about. That’s why we made this collaborative zine about it, with personal stories about masturbation experiences across race, gender, sexual identity, and age. This zine aims to break the taboo and encourage open, honest conversations about masturbation from a shame-free perspective.
Buy it on Etsy: pleasurepie.etsy.com/listing/508834062 (link in bio).
Are you a current or aspiring sex educator, sex toy slinger, SWer, sex researcher, sexual healthcare provider, sexual assault prevention coordinator, reproductive rights activist, queer community organizer? You, yes YOU, are invited to join us for our quickie Sex Pros Meetup hour. Bring any handouts, zines, or other info you want to share. Stick around and leave a lasting impression on your sex-positive colleagues by wiping the floor with them at trivia ;)
Register today at pleasurepie.org/events (link in bio).
The official lineup is here! 📣 We have dozens of events all over Boston (plus Somerville and beyond) happening NEXT WEEK!! Tickets are for each individual event and can be found on our site 😘 swipe for reasonably sized text
We made this zine as a friendly companion to help folks navigate a positive chlamydia test (based on personal experience!).
A lot of the time, having chlamydia is no worse than having a cold. But even if you don’t have symptoms, there can be a lot of shame, stress, and dread. This zine holds your hand through the process of dealing with an STI and coming out the other side unscathed.
Even if you don’t have an STI right now, you might still resonate with the parts about prioritizing pleasure when you’re going through something uncomfortable, being a sex positive friend, and responding if someone tells you they have an STI.
This new zine is now available on Etsy: /listing/4493112496 (link in bio).
Masturbation May sex trivia is next month! Here are a couple of questions to get your sex ed knowledge flowing 💦
Create a team (1-6 people), and flex your most important pleasure organ—your brain!
We’ll have some sexy prizes for the winning team, as well as prizes for best team name, most creative wrong answer, and best dressed! Come dressed in your finest and most creative Masturbation May attire for a chance to win best dressed!
If you’re working in or interested in working in the sexuality field, join us for our quickie Sex Pros Meetup hour before trivia! Sexuality pros of all stripes are invited—sex educators, sex toy slingers, sex workers, sex researchers, sexual healthcare providers, sexual assault prevention coordinators, reproductive rights activists, queer community organizers, etc. Bring any handouts, zines, or other info you want to share.
Agenda:
6pm - Sex Pros Meetup (free)
7pm - Trivia starts
Tickets are $15/person ($10 for students). You can get them at the link in @pleasurepie ’s bio, aka:
/events.html
Amazing mosaic art by @mosaic.wow 👀
🌺I AM NEVER ALONE. In a world that wants to be rid of us, it can be lonely. But a world without trans fags has never existed.🌺
Just one of the revelations in the mini zines crafted at our Trans Day of Visibility zine-making workshop and other recent workshops!
We're booking workshops for Pride season so check out pleasurepie.org/workshops (link in bio) to learn how you can bring a queer- and trans-affirming, sex-positive workshop to your community.
Happy 🏳️⚧️ Day of Visibility!
Join us this THURSDAY night for a special TDOV Trans Takeover celebrating our trans & gender non-conforming community
FEATURING:
🎤 Live DJ set by @rebel.li0n
🍰 @pleasurepie Resource Table (with resident Sexpert and FREE merchandise!)
🍴 Complimentary food
🎟️ T4T Bingo & CASH Prizes!
🎨 games, crafts, & more
This is a dedicated space to foster belonging, reduce isolation, and empower our siblings to thrive without fear or judgment.
Your presence ensures these crucial spaces continue to exist for years to come. Trans & gender non-conforming folks to the front; partners and supportive pals of all identities are warmly welcomed! 🌈
All ages welcome to join the festivities (Alcohol 21+)
Link in bio to RSVP 🪩
Most of us weren’t taught to how reject people, and that ends up causing a lot of unnecessary hurt! This mini zine about ghosting is our attempt to make dating and hookup culture a little bit kinder. 👻💕
Now available in our Etsy store (link in bio).
Or copy and paste this link into your browser:
/listing/4476413381
