Chloe l Adoptee Life Coach

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I look at adoption as my roots that have helped shape me to who I am. The roots aren’t perfect, but they are MY beginning and the area I know I need to constantly care for. I make sure that the rest of my environment (community, social media intake, people and activities I bring into my life) are healthy. This helps myself to grow big and strong and makes my roots stay healthy! #pineapplemindset #adoptee #adopteeperspective #adopteeawareness #adoptees #adopteestrong #adopteetruth #adopteecommunity #adopteeinfluencer #adopteevoice #adopteejourney #adopteehealing #adopteestory

The holiday season is suppose to bring merry and joy…right? Well for many adoptees (like me!), it brings stress and the weight of knowing many family events are around the corner. Here are 8 Tips to Help adoptees get through the holiday family events. #pineapplemindset #adoptee #transracialadoptees #koreanadoptee #kad #koreanadoption #koreanadoptees #koreanamericanadoptee #adopteevoices #adoptees

For a #KoreanAdoptee girl who has always loved the stage, this year’s #oscars2023 was one I will never forget. All I ever wanted was to be Baby Spice when the group of girls on the playground would run around pretending to be @spicegirls . There was no Asian in the group, so usually I was told I couldn’t join. Each Halloween, I was faced with the dilemma that no one would know who I was unless it was the perfect outfitbecause there were no East Asian princesses or actresses people would recognize. As I grew up, I gravitated towards @brendasong and @lucyliu because they looked like me. They were never winning any rewards and slowly were casted to smaller roles. Then I saw @iamsandraohinsta in @greysabc . I had seen her before but only in supporting roles. Yet again, her character was a supporting role, but slowly got to see her step out as her character developed. Oh went on from Grey’s to be the leading lady in other shows and showing me for the first time an eastern Asian woman being casted for non-Asian stereotypical roles. She didn’t have to be a ninja. She didn’t have to have a funny accent. She could just be a woman. It has only been in the last couple of years seeing eastern Asian culture and actors being represented accurately and non stereotypical with the most known movie Shang Shi in 2021. After years of seeing actors and actresses who look like me get past for recognition, TWO East Asians win in one night! @michelleyeoh_official and @kehuyquan show that people who look like me can be recognized for acting and performing without being in a typecasted role. People who look like us can be any role and actually have a chance to accepted in that role. My dreams of wanting to be an actress has dwindled, most likely from not believing I could ever be successful. I hope that the next generation and all future generations of girls who look like me always have a character to play or dress up as, because we will see true representation of what is in this world!

Did you know that approximately 9% young children have some kind of speech and language disorder. I was part of that 9%. I couldn’t say my Rs. What was once cute became my biggest challenge and source of mockery from others. I would be asked, “What’s the number between 43 and 45?” on the bus. Kids would make nursery rhyme songs about me. I was a target of everyone’s laughs every morning and afternoon on the bus. I was fortunate to be able to go to a speech pathologist and thought I was doing good. I stopped going to the pathologist and soon got pulled out of class to go the the speech coach in my school. This became another source of mockery. After years of hard work, tears and frustrations, I am now able to comfortably say my Rs. I still make mistakes, but I can now hear myself if I sleep saying it wrong. This work was the stepping stone to becoming a better speaker and coach. I now use my power of speaking to empower other adoptees to cultivate self-confidence! #adoptee #koreanadoptee #speechtherapy #speechpathology #speechdisorder #adopteevoices

Adoption Is a Trauma. It is a distressing event that happened in your life. Trauma causes conscious and subconscious effects. I am a supporter of adoption. I am a proud adoptee. But adoption plays a role in my: - attachment - willing to let people in - depression - anxiety Through EEG biofeedback, therapy, and research on adoption side effects, I am here to take the over decade worth of experience to help adoptees work through their trauma and to become a leader of their own life! #pineapplemindset #adoptee #microagressions #adopteeperspective #adopteegrief #adoptionfacts #adopteeawareness #adopteerealtalk #adopteevoices #adoptees #adopteestrong #adopteesconnect #adopteelife #adopteetruth #adopteecommunity #adopteeinfluencer #adopteevoice #adopteejourney #adopteehealing #adopteeadvocate #adopteestory #adopteeproblems #adopteesupport #adopteetrauma #adopteesspeak #adopteestories #adopteemovement #adopteerights #adopteementalhealth

Hi 👋 My name is Chloe Edwards. I am the founder of Pineapple Mindset. I am a Korean Adoptee - American who almost let the trauma of being adopted take over and end my life. After surviving my suicidal attempt, I spent over a decade learning the best ways to get out of the adoption fog, work through adoption trauma, and become a leader of my own life. I now coach adoptees, so no other adoptee has to go through what I did. I want every adoptee to know and have the post adoption resources we adoptees need to have. Pineapple Mindset is here to help guide you on your post-adoption journey, so you can have the self-confidence that is already inside of you!

How to respond to comments like this… First, evaluate if the situation is safe. If tension is started are you physically and mentally safe? Second, determine how much you want to share about your story. You don’t have to tell anything about yourself you do not want to. Third, breathe and know your opinion and voice matters, but also remember that there are other opinions. The best you can do is share your knowledge and truth. Fourth, be willing to walk away. Remember that your interaction with someone who acts this way does matter. That person could come off closed off to you, but then think about your conversation and see their hurtful ways. That person may never change, but someone may over hear your conversation and get the courage to speak up. You speaking up could also have listeners change their opinions and future actions for the better. It all starts with one! #yourvoicematters #adopteevoices #adoptees #microaggressions

Attachment starts in the womb, so when children are relinquished at birth it is still a trauma. Adoption is often forgotten when speaking about trauma. Adoption trauma is not typically acknowledged or validated by society. This trauma affects thinking, being, and how we see the world. Through positive mindset practices and trauma coaching, I help my clients work through the trauma and help them cultivate leadership over their lives. #pineapplemindset #adoptee #microagressions #adopteeperspective #adopteegrief #adoptionfacts #adopteeawareness #adopteerealtalk #adopteevoices #adoptees #adopteestrong #adopteesconnect #adopteelife #adopteetruth #adopteecommunity #adopteeinfluencer #adopteevoice #adopteejourney #adopteehealing #adopteeadvocate #adopteestory #adopteeproblems #adopteesupport #adopteetrauma #adopteesspeak #adopteestories #adopteemovement #adopteerights

Journaling is not the only way to work through trauma! If you’re like me, you have tried to get on the journaling train! You have read and seen the amazing benefits it has had on other people working through trauma. You have attempted to journal…and then never made it past the first line of the first page…more than once. Don’t worry! Journaling IS an amazing tool, but it isn’t the only tool. For the candle lovers out there…this one is for you! Light your candle and stare at the flickering flames. Let your thoughts come in and out freely. When you are done with that thought let it burn in the flames. Don’t pressure yourself to think of anything specific, but take note of what comes up. (A Bon fire works too!) There

Adoption trauma can be subconscious… I never thought my adoption was the cause of my depression and anxiety. While there are so many life factors and genetics that can shape these, adoption played a large role in it. I would find myself becoming deeply depressed if a friend ignored me or a partner broke up with me. Suicidal thoughts and unworthiness would fill my thoughts. The first step to overcoming your adoption trauma is recognizing you are a trauma survivor and that adoption shapes who you are now. The second step is to be Willing to do the work to work through your trauma and to no longer ignore it. There are many routes you can take to work through your trauma. I am here as a resource, but also recommend looking into other resources that work for you. I have done - Neurofeedback Therapy - various styles of talk therapy - medication - meditation My coaching takes my decades of learning mindset practices and trauma coaching techniques to help you. Link in my bio for more info on ways I can help you!

Pineapple Mindset is here to provide post-adoption resources: - one-on-one adoptee life coaching - self-paced online course that cultivates self-confidence in adoptees - virtual and in-person adoptee round tables - adoptee community Go to the link in my profile to get access to it all! #adopteeresources #adopteevoices #koreanadoptee #adopteemovement