MOTHERLOADING | Podcast

‘You can love each other but not like each other’…being in the trenches with young kids is beautiful but can also be bloody brutal 😮‍💨 This was just the beginning of a fascinating conversation with Alex, couples coach and host of the successful parenting podcast @beahappierparent Podcast dropped today and considering it’s a bank holiday I have already received so many messages about this one. No wonder his social media following keeps getting bigger and bigger. Follow @beahappierparent if you don’t already. Listen to the episode and let us know your thoughts, especially love to hear if you think Alex relationship advice is something you can implement positively? Comment WATCH for episode sent to you directly or Links bio Nicky Xxx

“I’m fine” is doing a lot of heavy lifting. Because behind it is: – the mental tabs constantly open – the version of you you haven’t caught up with yet – the guilt (for wanting more… or less) – the relationships feeling the strain – the stuff you don’t say out loud If any of that hit… Yeah. Same. Follow our podcast if you’re done pretending “I’m fine” means anything anymore. Be honest… which slide hit you the most? Love MoLo (Nicky & Michelle) x

I cannot wait to get to know the community as we build out Motherloading 🫶🏼 For now let me start…I’m Nicky and the other half of the Motherloading podcast and brand. Join us for the unfiltered chaos that is womanhood and motherhood and if you ever felt like you were the only one, you won’t anymore 🙌🏻 Love Nicky & Michelle x P.s tell us a little bit about you? #mum #kids #mumlife #momlife #podcast #femalepodcasters #funny #femaleempowerment #womanhood #motherhood #parenting #unfilteredmotherhood #community #femalecommunity

You hear victim mindset and many will roll their eyes straight into next week. Fair. Because some things have happened to you and they were painful, unfair and not your fault. What I found interesting in this conversation with Kelly was the shift from this hurt me to I’m not letting it run my life anymore. Which is harder. More honest. And where the power is. We can’t control so many things but we can control our response to them. Kelly’s book A.S.K. (A Serenity Kit) is packed with this kind of gold. Really worth a read. Loved this episode. Links in bio. All platforms or comment WATCH and I’ll pop it in your DM’s. Thank you @kellyarmatage for being utterly fantastic! #selfworth #selfworthjourney #emotionalhealth #emotionalpain

Over-giving isn’t being loving, generous or showing up for people. We want to give all we can, especially to our kids but Kelly is talking about boundaries. It’s when your giving has no edges. When you over-accommodate, over-explain, over-function, over accept mistreatment, say yes when you mean no, carry more than is yours, and end up responsible for everyone’s comfort except your own. That’s the bit Kelly talks about so well. It can look like love. It can look like loyalty. It can even look like being “the strong one.” But sometimes the respect goes and then it’s often a pattern, and without boundaries, it creates resentment, imbalance and ‘entitlement’ in all kinds of relationships. Kelly’s book A.S.K. (A Serenity Kit) is genuinely full of gold on this and very worth a read. @kellyarmatage A really enlightening conversation and I don’t say that lightly, because I can be (often unfairly) skeptical of certain self development approaches. Definitely recommend a listen. It is our most recent podcast episode on Apple, Spotify & YouTube or comment WATCH for episode to your DM’s Xx #therapy #selfdevelopmentjourney #entitled #motherhood #boundaries

You hear “mother wound” or “father wound” and it can sound a bit… (respectfully) intense. Like surely this only applies if you had a traumatic childhood? But that’s what struck me in this conversation with the well known Somatic & Cognitive therapist @kellyarmatage Sometimes it’s not about the huge obvious thing. It’s about what felt missing or habits formed in your family/childhood. That is SO different for everyone and a bloody big spectrum but examples might be Safety. Consistency. Calm. Reassurance. Validation. And if there was something you needed or didn’t like, there’s a chance it still shows up now — in relationships, friendships etc. In how much you tolerate, in why certain dynamics feel weirdly familiar. Many people may not agree, many may not connect with this notion at all but this one really made me think. Do you see a pattern? Comment WATCH for the full episode to your DM’s. ‘You’ve Done the Therapy. So Why Are You Still Stuck? - Kelly Armatage. Spotify, Apple & YouTube Kelly’s book A.S.K (A Serenity Kit) is well worth a read ❤️ Xx

Some conversations change the way you see yourself. This is one of them. @kellyarmatage . Therapist. TEDx speaker. Author. 20 years. 15,000+ therapy sessions. And the creator of a method that goes somewhere most therapy never does. Because here’s what she told me, traditional therapy often doesn’t work. Not because you’re not trying. But because you’re working at the wrong level. We talked about: — Why high-functioning women are often the most stuck — The unconscious payoff of staying exactly where you are — What the mother wound is and why you’re not exempt — Why you keep falling back no matter how much work you do — What’s actually happening in your relationship when the load takes over — And why healing loses momentum the moment real life kicks back in Then she did something live. On mic. With me. It was a oh shit I don’t know what’s going to happen here…. This is incredibly interesting. Episode drops tomorrow Monday 11th May across all platforms or comment WATCH and we will send to you. Thank you so much Kelly xx

Interviewing for the CEO of Steven Bartlett's Private Office. A high-profile job she really wanted. Then this happened. What do you do? I wasn’t expecting this moment, and I don’t even think Amy intended to share it, but it felt right for her and I was really moved. Not because it was dramatic but because it was familiar. That quiet, internal conversation: Do I say something? Do I just get on with it? Will this change “things”? I’ve had my own versions of that. I think most women have. There isn’t a right answer in these moments. Just… what feels right for you in that moment. What I loved about Amy sharing this wasn’t the story itself; it was the honesty. The thing you carry into the room that nobody in the room knows about. The calculations women make in silence I remember people saying to me, “ You are so strong.” I almost thought the same when Amy was talking, but actually, I think it’s often just survival. If you’ve ever had one of those moments… you’ll get it and sending hugs ❤️ Full episode all platforms or comment WATCH and I’ll send it to you — It’s a really great episode xxx

⚽️NERVES ARE EXCITEMENT⚽️ Speaking about how nerves are simply just EXCITEMENT but often we feel nervous because we don’t fully trust ourselves to be capable of achieving the thing ⚽️ Confidence is built by trust in yourself! Trust is built by practicing the thing you want to get better at ✅⚽️ #footballfitness #socceracademy #footballdrills #footballelite #footballacademy

F*ck yes. To land three lines like this in one clip says it all: → “Having it all is a guy’s PR campaign” → “We all thought that was feminism” → “You can’t have it all… but you can have enough” I’ll say no more and hand it over too @itsamygolding Enjoy the episode 🎧 - it’s live 👏🏻 Comment WATCH and we’ll send this chat to you..let us know what you think ❤️ xx

I think I’m in love with a woman. Amy Golding, CEO of Steven Bartlett’s Private, a high-profile job, working for a high-profile individual, and one of the loveliest, funniest, smartest women I have met. So when she said yes to Motherloading, I was thrilled. And then, immediately terrified she’d be disappointing in real life. She was not disappointing in real life. Hear about what happened after Steven Bartlett slid into her DM’s. Finding out she was pregnant mid-interview for the biggest role of her career, and what she did next. Loving motherhood. Loving work. And being honest, really honest, about the fact that those two things don’t always sit neatly together, and that some of the trade-offs genuinely hurt. I was so honored that she shared something hard that she has never shared before, a story that I could very much relate to, and one that many of you will, too. No “I’ve figured it out” energy anywhere. Just, this is hard, this is brilliant, this is what I’ve chosen. Here’s what it actually looks like. Someone asked me after if I’d asked what her what Steven was like. I didn’t. Because I wouldn’t ask anyone about their boss. And because that’s not why I wanted her on. I wanted her on because she says the things most people think but don’t say. And she doesn’t try to make them sound nicer than they are. She also told me she came on because I said vagina nine times in the first ten minutes. I’m taking that as a five-star review. We talk, we laugh, we make fun of each other. This doesn’t have the typical “CEO” energy; this one felt like talking to a friend. Is it weird that I want her to be my new best friend? Asking for me. Episode drops tomorrow. “Having It All Is A Male PR Campaign” with @itsamygolding Comment WATCH and the episode will be live in your DM’s tomorrow, or listen on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube 🎧 Xxx

“Sorry” for taking up space. “Sorry” for speaking up. “Sorry” for things that were never ours to carry. “Sorry” just to feel the silence Say it enough… and you start to believe it. I am becoming so much more conscious on teaching my kids what sorry really means and the right time to use it. I don’t want them apologising for who they, to be the ‘nice’ one or to keep the peace. Is sorry a word you over use or have you just stopped? ⬇️ Nicky xx _________ #Motherloading #Confidence #SelfWorth #InvisibleLoad ModernMotherhood