Molly Rubesh - relationship coach

What if divorce was ok? Not something we run to. Not something we do in the heat of the moment. Not something that is thrown around as a threat. But something we decide on together. Something we can lovingly say, this was a beautiful chapter, I’m thankful it existed, but it isn’t working anymore. Something we give compassion and tenderness to. Something we are loving and supportive of when others endure it. Because let’s be real, healthy happy loving marriages don’t end in divorce. So is it ok? #healingjourney #divorced #divorcinganarcissist #divorcinggracefullyandbeyond

It’s the in-between and the big backpack of a secret. You don’t tell your friends or your family how unhappy you are. You move forward through life like everything is normal even posting on social media about how perfect your family is. But slowly, you’re dying inside. You look at a man who feels like he’s a stranger and the thought of being intimate with him, makes your skin crawl. #You don’t want to leave, but you don’t really want to stay. This is where it gets hard. This is where the pain exist. This is where working with a coach and having a clarity call can take you from: “I’ve never said this out loud before” >to “thank goodness somebody actually sees me. As a relationship coach who has coached countless women in your very position I can tell you that it is actually more painful to stay stuck than make a decision to work on your marriage or leave your marriage. DM me for details on how I can support you on a 70 minute clarity call. 🫶🏻 #divorce #shouldistayorshouldigo #thisisyoursign #thisisyourlife

The average woman considers divorced for an average of two years before she finally makes the decision. As a relationship coach and a woman who has been there I would argue…It’s much longer than that. so if you’re considering divorce, I see you, and I know that this didn’t happen overnight. I’m confident when a woman reaches out to me that she has suffered in silence for a very long time and is just now getting up enough courage to say the words out loud. I want nothing more for marriages to work couples to rebuild and families to stay intact. But I also believe that we have one life. One big, beautiful life. And from where I sit, I see too many people losing themselves completely because of the laws of marriage. This is your life. This is your journey. You do get to have a say so and how your life goes. If this resonated with you, click link bio for your free clarity call. #healingjourney #divorcesupport #divorcecoach #lifecoaching #marriage

This is the real, raw, vulnerable, side of being trapped inside a marriage that you know you want to leave, but you’re so fearful to do so. Anyone that says divorce is the easy way out, has never been through divorce or has not struggled with their own mental health so bad that they feel this way. I in fact, did not want anything to happen to my husband, the father of my children. But my brain was looking for A way out… a safe path an easy path one that didn’t seem so scary. I know I’m not alone here. As a woman that’s nine years post divorce I can look back at that feeling with compassion. It is not what I really wanted, but I was struggling. Deeply. 💔 If you cannot relate to this, that’s OK consider yourself lucky. But as a woman who have supported hundreds of women — this is a shared feeling and one many women have never said out loud before. I am starting a private community where we can talk about these vulnerable topics in a safe place. Comment community or if you’d like to be more discreet DM me directly and I will send you the link for the waiting list. 🤍🤍 #mentalhealth #divorced #marriageproblemsolution #mentalhealthsupport

If a ✨✨high VIBE ✨✨person is married to a low vibe person the marriage becomes rocky, at best. People come to me all the time saying “he’s not a bad guy/girl”…..but he’s so grumpy. Huffy. Drinks too much. Disconnected from the family. Dampens the mood. Zero fun. Zero intimacy. Zero romance. We can’t change them, but we can change you and how you show up in your life. I’m here for the high vibe people ready to stop dimming their light for their partner. We can’t do it anymore 🦋

We often talk about equality in relationships, but rarely about how differently men and women can experience emotional safety. In this perspective, men are often conditioned to process conflict by fixing or moving forward, while many women may process it through the need for emotional safety and connection. When those patterns clash—especially in moments of rupture and withdrawal—it can create a cycle where one person moves on and the other’s body still feels unsafe. Even when love is there, the nervous system doesn’t always follow logic. Understanding these differences isn’t about blame—it’s about awareness, communication, and building real emotional safety between partners. If this sounds familiar - you won’t want to miss this week’s episode with Alex Charfen. 🎥 Full Podcast: youtube.com/@AlignedAWholeLifePodcast #relationships #emotionalintelligence #communication #attachmentstyles #marriageadvice

The question everyone asks before any major decision ‘what if I regret it?’. In cases of ‘do I stay in this marriage or leave’, that question is multiplied. I talked to @molly_rubesh about this and so much more on the latest episode of Midlife Moves. Listen now❤️

Are you teaching your kids what a marriage is supposed to look like? kids learn what they live. They know that one parent sleeping in the basement or a guest room isn’t common. They know that constant arguing or tension isn’t love. They know that the mood shifts when someone comes home. Not only do they see it, but they feel it. We need to be in marriages that model what healthy relationship relationships look like… So our kids… Can be in better marriages than we were in! They need to see that marriage is mutual, kind, respectful, loving. They need to see that two imperfect people pour into one another, and there’s trust, partnership, two people working towards the same goals. If this resonated with you and you know, you must make a change click the link in the bio and schedule your call. As a relationship coach, I’m confident that I can help. #marriage #marriagesupport #marrigegoals #highconflictcoparenting

In my experience, no woman has regretted their divorce. There may be parts of their marriage that they miss and they especially miss the idea of what their marriage could have been. But let’s be real, healthy, happy vibrant marriages do not end a divorce. 🤷🏼‍♀️ This isn’t something you just came up with overnight. You’ve been debating it for years, maybe decades. You know that something has to change. If you’re ready to get support and finally make change or at minimum, be committed to getting clarity on your next steps, comment discovery call, and I’ll send you the link for us to chat! #divorcesupport #marriage365 #marriageproblemsolution #thisishard

If nothing changes, nothing will Do you want to stay in this exact marriage exactly like it is for another 1, 5 10, or 50 years? If the answer is no then quit sitting around, waiting for things to magically change. I know it’s the month of May and then it’s the summer and then it’s back to school and then it’s the holidays. It’s never a good time but if you want things to be different by the holidays, you need to start now. I have a new way to work with me and I’m only working with clients that want to stay consistent and actually have proven change. If you want the details, the link is in my bio! #marriage #marriagesupport #divorcesupport

My wish for you is that you don’t live in constant tension. Your marriage could be one of your greatest blessings or one of your greatest stressors. Love shouldn’t be so hard. There is a better way. You can fix it. You can leave. I know it’s not as simple as that…. But staying stuck in the in-between is making you miserable. If you’re ready to move the needle, away from where you are now, book a clarity call. I can help. Link in bio. 🫶🏻 #healingjourney #youllbeok #marriagecounselor #marriagesupport

“Calm down. It’s not a big deal.” But what if it is? Sometimes, it’s not about fixing the problem — it’s about feeling seen. About being heard without being dismissed. About having your emotions met with understanding, not logic. Because those “small” moments? They quietly build into something much bigger. Validation doesn’t mean you agree. It means you care enough to understand. 🤍 🎥 Full Podcast: youtube.com/@AlignedAWholeLifePodcast #EmotionalIntelligence #HealthyRelationships #CommunicationMatters #FeelSeen #RelationshipGrowth