TRAIN YER CAPACITY // 🥷🏼 comment “capacity” to end the era of collapse and start holding who you *actually* are.
For 4 days, I’m walking you through the shamanic art of expanding your ability to hold more energy…without contorting, collapsing or fragmenting yourself in the process.
You will *FEEL* the dial of what you can hold expand in an entirelyyyy new way.
All you gotta do is show up. First class drops June 2nd, so don’t fall asleep on dis boo.
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Why do people get weaker? 🫠
“Weakness” is a state of poor energetic deployment.
Meaning, the more energy we allocate to the wrong people, places and things, the less energy we have for the things that matter.
Because here’s the honest truth —> it takes A LOT of energy to create from a place of true freedom and choice (rather than being ping ponged by your own bs and self-doubt).
It takes energy to take action for the bizz you want. To see through the fog of relationship distortion. To find your truth in a sea of people and their projections. To see through your projections. To be afraid and do the thing anyways.
This. Takes. Energy.
I’m going to go into this in much greater detail in my upcoming training called Capacity, but for now, here’s a little nugget:
Your greatest energetic leak is your ability to convince yourself out of your truth.
To make yourself go to the party, even though you don’t really want to go. To entertain the guy you don’t really like, cause he’s “sweet” and “good on paper.” To hang out with the friend group that you honestly lost interest in spending your time with three years ago.
Living these lies requires an immense amount of energy. It takes energy to convince yourself to do it and then to maintain that convincing.
And when you do this, you are actively *training* yourself not to trust yourself. You are always training yourself in something… but do you have choice in what it is?
P.S - I’m not talking about “go on a run” energy. I’m talking about the energy of *clear-thinking* that allows you to pierce through the noise of the world rather than get caught up in all the distortion that’s everywhere. THAT is what gives you the freedom you’re looking for.
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One of the gifts and curses of this era of technology is our ability to feel special. It’s beautiful - bc you are special. It’s a hindrance - because you’re also not!
And every time you contort yourself when others are displeased with you, in efforts to remain special, your capacity weakens.
It takes a lotttttt of energy to please billions. To absorb criticism like a sponge. To buy into your own mental BS. Even more energy to maintain that.
Remember, this is a brand new era. We didn’t inherit a technology capacity from our parents (unless you’re a teen on my page, and hello 👋🏼). We ARE BUILDING THIS CAPACITY ourselves.
Isn’t that pretty amazing?
So, in efforts to stay the course of your purpose, you must be moved by something bigger than you. This is wayyyyy more inspiring (and rooted) than your desire to feel special… or unique…or rare….. THAT will be the end of your discipline.
What moves you to take action when you’re feeling shy? What moves you to pitch yourself for a promotion when you’re feeling discouraged? What moves you to post your controversial beliefs right after receiving some nasty troll hate out of left field?
Create a relationship with what moves you, and you not only have your own personal capacity… but the capacity of THAT too. So if Spirit’s on your team… and you consult with Spirit daily …. you’d be in pretty good shape to do your work in the world.
Hey honey bun 🥐 - you don’t need to talk about the thing more. You don’t need to put it on yet again another to do list. You don’t need to hire another mentor just so you can talk about it in ten sessions. What you need is action.
One really good action step has the potential to give you truckloads of life force back. Can you see the stream of energy pouring back into your body?
And once you have that energy, what are you going to do with it?? Direct it right back into another place of resistance (cause that’s what’s familiar)? Or use that energy to make more powerful quick decisions?
If you’re sick and tireddd of wasting your energy in resistance purgatory, come into my world. Drop “capacity” to learn from me in a 4-day *fwee* training coming up in two weeks. Let’s take steps forward. ✨🥷🏼
Who remembers the children’s book that was about a family going on a bear hunt? When they faced their obstacles - long wavy grass, thick oozy mud, deep cold river - they said “can’t go over it, can’t go under it, gotta go through it.”
Capacity is your ability to go through it…. without all of the drama, self-flagellation and mental pomp and circumstance. We need to train ourselves to go through it — especially right now when we are existing in times obsessed with being comfortable.
Most everything worthwhile in this life involves an edge of discomfort. Humans are made to face this. It’s what keeps us inspired and hungry. And it’s what gives us meaning.
If you’re an entrepreneur, you’ve got a treasure chest of opportunity for this discomfort. You’ve just gotta learn how to be with it w/o all the sticky human drama we usually attach to it. 😉
You don’t just catch da feels. You catch da nervous system, the energy field, the shape.
One of the most important decisions you can make is a partner. They determine a whole lot more than we cognitively understand. It’s not only about whether or not they support you in the way you want … but also, are you down to shapeshift into them?!
Don’t only ask your conscious mind this …. Ask your unconscious. Ask the part of your soul that’s been around for many other lifetimes. The part of your soul that knows your dharma and whether or not this relationship will support it.
When we say “we become one” it’s pretty literal. Humans are made to mirror. Ya ya we are independent, but we are also trading atoms and living life as porous beings.
If you want sovereignty over your energy, it starts with choosing a partner who amplifies the energy you want to have. Do they give you more energy or less? Do they strengthen your capacity or weaken it?
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CHAD … the most enlightened character you will ever meet. With the strongest capacity. And energetic mastery. 😜😅
Comment “capacity” to train your body to hold life like a Chad. 🤷🏼😉
Comment CAPACITY — if you’re a woman with purpose. If you’re a woman with a voice. If you’re a woman with a calling.
We need you to live out your calling. We need you to be fully responsible for it. We need you to be a yes to it.
And, your calling is going to come with challenges, fears and significantly humbling moments.
Can you hold that too?
If not, you’ll hide from the calling. You’ll resent it and dodge it. You’ll do anything to *not* feel those feelings.
But…if yes, you’ll grow as wide as the mountain. You’ll be able to hold intensity just as much as anticipation. You’ll learn when to wait and when to take action. You’ll become quick and nimble.
Join me for four-days of training by dropping “capacity” below so you can hold *all* that comes with your one of a kind calling.
I’m interested in relationships that make us who we are meant to be. Whether that’s with someone older or younger, rich or growing, it doesn’t really matter.
BUT. I will say this —
There are a lot of women on the internet selling a lifestyle. And that’s great, good for them. We are all entitled to create businesses that represent what we believe in. I whole-heartedly believe this and never in a million years would tell them to stop.
What I DO advocate for, though, is for YOU to use your own mind.
Because there is a whole world of content out there right now telling women that their time and attention are finite resources with inherent market value. That sharing costs is never an option. That potential is irrelevant.
That you stay unavailable, and don’t initiate time together, vet him on LinkedIn before the first date, test him with shopping capabilities and never give girlfriend behavior without a ring. That physical access is leverage. That you marry INTO a lifestyle, not build one together.
Some of that has the potential to be wisdom. Some of it is a business model dressed up as empowerment. And none of it matters if you’ve lost your own center trying to follow it.
This is, truly, what fcks up our minds more than the dating itself. All the rules and self-judgments and fears we get hung up on. Where’s the heart?
There’s something incredibly beautiful about being 100% woven into the becoming of your beloved, in both directions. Where you see potential but you’re also madly in love with what’s here right now too. This builds character, strengthens the bond and gives YOU just as much as it gives him.
If you’re with a man who knows having the right woman is 100% a part of his becoming, he will seek you out for your expression, intuition, gut-instinct, opinions, sight. And this, in turn, is what will help you strengthen these gifts so you can bring them into the world.
You can’t choose the love of your life based on external rules you saw on social media. Cut the middle man and go straight into the heart.
I would like to make a distinction.
“Oversharing” in the way we think of it is not real.
Oversharing is not a collective marker. What is oversharing to me is very different from what is oversharing to you.
And usually, the fear of oversharing is just a bunch of mental chatter and insecurity.
We share, and then we experience major life force consequences by unpacking it over and over in our minds, completely disassociating from the present moment and existing in our heads, collapsed on ourselves.
Not so fun.
A different way you can work with it is to *feel* the feelings that come up when you share. That’s the real juice, and it’s often times, a shapeshift.
Your chest will flush. Your hands get hot. Your heart pounds faster.
Good work. You pushed an edge.
Now, can you hold it without collapsing on yourself? Can you keep the spine tall? Can you keep the heart open?
Once you do this, the question of whether or not you shared too much doesn’t come from a place of collapse or insecurity, but rather, a slightly more objective unpacking of whether or not you shared more than you would have liked to. And *that* gets to be based on your desire to keep things close… not out of shame.
There’s a reason why I speak so much about SHAPES.
It’s because I’m not talking about static geometry. I’m talking about the entirety of your life. Your life’s shape. Your life as a living breathing body of energy.
Which means, I’m speaking about….
Why you date who you date
What you attract or don’t attract
Your relationship to money
How you expand or collapse
Your capacity to handle life’s complexities
Your habits and patterns and desires
And a lot of little stuff you probably don’t think much about, like your gaze and your clarity in speech and communication… ⚡️
When you have specific beliefs about yourself, or about how life “works,” your body will FORM a physical shape that fits those beliefs.
This begins in childhood (sometimes euturo).
For example…
If you come from an aggressively enmeshed family that encourages you to never “take space” or have personal boundaries, you may notice that the entire family’s body type is similar in boundarylessness.
Softer, fuller, less defined. How they show up in life may be a bit like this too — over-staying welcomes, lacking attunement to small detail, sleeping in, big juicy warm hugs, fullness in the hearth, density.
On the other side of the spectrum, if you come from a highly militant family that sees relaxation as “lazy” and takes personal offense to specific beliefs or choices that doesn’t match their own, you may notice a kind of rigidity in the body.
Tight jaws, sharp movements and brash speech. Less room for problem solving through connection, but rather straight to the “answer.” Organization.
When you’re raised in either of these energetics, YOU begin to form a shape in your body and mind that coincides with this.
Trauma impacts in the same way. The body expands or contracts physically to protect your soul from unwanted things happening again.
And you receive sooo many juicy gifts in it.
Just in the same way you’re limited by it.
So, what’s your shape? Look at how you see the world. Look at your body. Look at the things you both LOVE in your life and the things you can’t seem to figure out. Feel the somatic limitations as well as your somati
