there’s been best friends, lovers, jobs, apartments, vehicles, eyebrows(!). there’s been parties, music, dancing. there’s been engagements and marriages and divorces. people have died, babies have been born and become kids and teenagers and adults. trends and transitions, heartbreaks and joy.
what a gift to ✨feel it all✨ for 40 years, cushioned by the cozy safety of my mother’s love.
* the weeks leading up to my 40th are proving to be emotional as hell
this child.
i have been having a hard time with my dermatillomania/ excoriation disorder/ skin picking and have several scabs and wounds on my arm. niko noticed them today and was very concerned, pointing them out and studying them. he then kissed each one and put a band aid on me, and i’m pretty sure it healed something inside my soul.
endlessly grateful for this angel babe ❤️🩹
#auntyjuliebbniko
i love summer fr fr, vol. 4 (sleeping beauty edition)
now that i’m consistently catching quality zzz’s i am enjoying life (& summer) in a whole new way. i’ve been asking myself questions such as: was i ever actually depressed, or was i just fucking exhausted? how different would my life look if i got my CPAP 5, 10, 15 years ago? what will i do with this one precious life now that i have the energy to do things?? how many times can i go swimming and eat ice cream and watch storms from my front porch this summer?
stay tuned, pals. 💖
[pictured holding the most beautiful beauj & my emotional support vape, wearing one of my favourite red sky dresses & my new malty hat]
many thx to @yqr_queercrafting for providing the time & space for me to reignite my love for collage 💖
i really enjoy all aspects of the process - selecting images, neatly cutting them out, experimenting with placement/layout (usually striving for some sense of balance or symmetry), and just having fun flexing creative muscles.
i made this piece to go in the cute pink furry frame, with clippings from 3 magazines, in 1.5 hrs.
#kjgcollage
my 39th year:
i changed my sleeping habits entirely. i got my belly tattooed. i joined a choir. i went on a family trip to victoria. i stopped serving. i barely bought any clothes! i bonded with niko.
i found joy in staying in, in my cute house, with my cute dog(s). i barely drank. i turned down offers to party that a 20-something julie could/would never have, and did so bc i truly would rather stay home (this is new for me!).
emily moved out and that was quite sad, but we facetimed daily for hours and it helped to feel less alone. she’s back for the summer, praise beyoncé.
i bravely asked someone on a date and they said yes! i ended my 5+ year dry spell!!! (praise beyoncé some more)
i lost my beloved dog frankie. i struggled with hair-pulling & skin-picking, and feeling a total lack of control around it. i dug myself even deeper into a financial hole that i’m still trying to get out of. my house remained mostly a disaster and i rarely felt on top of any aspect of keeping it clean.
there were trials & tribulations but overall aging rules and my meds are working and i don’t wanna die all the time and that’s pretty cool.
xo KJG