I find most actors have never given much thought to their boundaries. The fear of being “difficult to work with” or “unable to take direction” can be overwhelming and scary to overcome. So let me be the one to tell you:
✨Your boundaries matter.
✨ You don’t need to explain them to anyone you don’t want to.
✨ Having boundaries doesn’t make you less of an actor or difficult to work with.
✨ Your well-being is more important than any role or show.
If you are working with me as your Intimacy Director I promise that I will always do my very best to support, uplift, and advocate for you.
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🚨Vulnerable Post Alert!!🚨
This time last year I was sliding into a depressive period that I truly didn’t think I would ever escape from. I was feeling sick and exhausted all the time, I was avoiding doing anything social, I wasn’t singing or acting anymore. I was stuck.
It took the first 5 months of the year for me to build the courage to make a decision that scared the absolute shit out of me. I left my job with no notice and no plan, just the belief that I deserved more. Now, I had been applying to other jobs for 18 months at that point and had several first and second round interviews but never landed anything. So the evidence was stacked against me, but I chose myself and did it anyway.
It was the absolute best decision I have ever made. The last 7 months of 2025 have been some of the best of my whole life. I got to collaborate on a ridiculously funny show with my dearest friend, I spent so much time at my local library volunteering and taking art classes, I got to hang out with the turtles and ducks in Prospect Park on a regular basis. I finally had clear brain space to work on my first book! I was able to travel and spend time with family. And, as if the year hadn’t treated me kindly enough, I got cast in a dream role in a dream show with a dream cast and production team. Ending 2025 with them has made me feel so seen and supported and celebrated, something a year ago I never hoped I’d get to experience again.
So, thanks 2025! You were the worst, and then the absolute very best. This has already been incredibly vulnerable, so won’t be tagging everyone, but I think you all know who you are. 💛
