My dog is my child.
Let’s talk about this—why is this still not enough for people?
Why do we continue to live in a society where women are so casually asked, “When are you having children?” or “Why don’t you have kids?” Why do so many feel entitled to ask deeply personal questions, without the slightest awareness of the private battles someone may be carrying?
At nineteen years old, I was diagnosed with endometriosis and told my chances of having children were slim. Over the next decade, that diagnosis led to multiple surgeries, ultimately resulting in a hysterectomy—two years ago today. For ten years, I navigated the weight of a silent illness, during which the questions never stopped. At first, it was when we would have children. Now, it’s why we haven’t adopted.
Yes, I was told early on that carrying a child would likely not be possible. But beyond that, Josh and I made a conscious, mutual decision not to have children—and we found peace in building a life that feels whole and fulfilling as the two of us. That choice was made with intention, love, and certainty.
In a world that rightly celebrates women who become mothers, why is there so little room to honor women who choose a different path—or those whose circumstances choose for them? Womanhood is not defined by motherhood, and fulfillment is not one-size-fits-all.
As Tracee Ellis Ross so powerfully said:
“You do not need to push out a baby to help push humanity forward.”
When Beks and I decided to jump in the Loch. Probably the coldest I’ve ever been.
Still miss this place.
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Ten Years
I can’t believe it’s been ten years already. Ten years of day to day routine mixed with some wild adventures, one of which we’re currently on.
You make me happy, whether you know it or not.
Happy Anniversary My Love
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Sketch Premiere
In Theaters August 6
In December of 2019, I got the opportunity to pull focus on Seth’s short film Darker Colors. To then get the call to be the 1st AC on Sketch felt pretty full circle. These are the moments to relish, enjoy, and be thankful for. Thankful for the chance, thankful for the team around you, thankful for the most perfect wife to support you. Nothing but gratitude for everyone involved. I can’t wait to see how this unfolds.
Guys, this is the good stuff.
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A Week Away: The Series Season 1
Sony Venice 1 • Cooke Anamorphic SF
Last week we officially wrapped principle on AWA Season 1. Every show has its challenges, but with this team it felt like there was nothing we couldn’t do. I’ve always said working on narrative is like a pressure cooker for relationships, and I can honestly say all these nerds are family now.
We lived, we laughed, we yurted.
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