Crown, Umm Firdaus AAS

Mental health trauma is described as psychological distress that individuals may experience directly or indirectly throughout their lives, affecting their emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and overall well-being. Closely connected to the field of Psychology, mental health influences children’s minds, moods, and brain development, while mental disorders such as schizophrenia, depression, bipolar disorder, and major depressive disorder can deeply disrupt emotional and psychological stability. Despite the seriousness of these conditions, society often stigmatizes individuals struggling with mental illness by labeling them as “crazy” or unstable, causing many people to hide their pain and avoid seeking help due to fear of judgment and discrimination. The discussion emphasizes that mental health challenges should never be ignored because isolation and lack of emotional support can worsen conditions and contribute to suicidal thoughts or substance abuse, which are often closely linked with mental disorders. Professional support from psychiatrists, counselors, therapists, and social workers is therefore essential, alongside compassion from loved ones and society. Encouraging individuals to communicate openly, engage in activities they enjoy, and remain surrounded by supportive people can greatly improve emotional well-being. Ultimately, the article highlights the importance of empathy, regular emotional check-ins, and early intervention, reminding society that mental health and mental disorders are real issues that require understanding, care, and timely support. I love this movie came out in MENTAL HEALTH MONTH. @eso.dike @chinenyennebe @thesadiqibrahimbooth @deraiwuozo @iamnsemeke @uchennambunabotv @realosasiyamu @officialbencassie @ruthwealthofficial @amarauwechi @ambfemiafolabi @popoola9899 @ifeka.doris @kwajaffa_igyer @mcbob_comedian @_belleanthony @amandaneoofficial

I am sorry that this movie was unavailable at the set date, but it is a blessing in disguise because it is a beautiful way to commemorate MOTHER’s DAY as it talks a lot about motherhood and the other ways women can become mothers aside the natural way. Thanks @bolajiogunmola for blessing us with a MOTHER’s DAY gift.

Trying to Conceive Women, don’t allow what people say get to you, including your female in-laws if you know you were chaste at your prime stage, rather pray to your Creator to bless you with a child. Husbands, please don’t be too harsh on your wives if they are yet to conceive because no one is God. The writer of this piece likes how the movie, ANJỌLA produced by Bọlaji Ogunmọla was very debatable, motherly-related and marital because the two protagonists, Anjọla and her husband, Fọlarin had different perspectives on the issue of motherhood which when looked at, both individuals had substantial points of view. As stated by Fọlarin, “being a mother transcends from the nine-month journey” because motherhood is a forever role due to the fact that it is until a mother dies does she have rest, but at the same time, a woman using her womb to carry her baby, hearing the kicks of the baby, and having sleepless nights is very different from another woman helping to carry the pregnancy. @bolajiogunmola @chukwukajude @bimboakintola @elozonam @aregbesholaahmed

Marriage is presented as a sacred bond rooted in love, mercy, trust, compassion, communication, and mutual care, reflecting the teachings of Qur’an 30:21 which describe spouses as companions created to bring one another peace and comfort. The article examines how motherhood is highly valued, especially within Yoruba culture, where newly married women are often pressured to conceive immediately after marriage. When pregnancy is delayed, many women face unfair criticism and emotional distress from in-laws who place the burden of infertility solely on wives, despite the reality that fertility challenges can affect both men and women. By addressing the emotional, social, and marital struggles connected to infertility, the discussion calls for empathy, understanding, and the rejection of harmful cultural stigmas against women. The article further explores infertility through medical explanations such as PCOS, hormonal imbalance, stress, illness, age, and other reproductive conditions, emphasizing that infertility is a complex health issue rather than a personal failure. It also discusses IVF and surrogacy as alternative paths to parenthood, presenting both scientific and Islamic perspectives on their benefits, challenges, and ethical implications. While some Islamic scholars oppose surrogacy because of concerns surrounding lineage and motherhood, others permit certain forms of it under the principle of preserving family and human continuity. Ultimately, the piece reminds readers that children are blessings granted according to Allah’s will, as stated in Qur’an 42:49–50, and therefore couples struggling with conception deserve patience, compassion, and support instead of judgment or condemnation.

Theological Foundation & View on Marriage Timing 1. Allah has 99 names, Asma-ul-Husna, meaning “beautiful names.” Al Khaliq [The Creator] and Al Musawwir [The Fashioner] highlight that Allah created humans in two genders: rijalun (men) and nisa (women). 2. Prophet Adam and Hawwa were the first human beings. Women experience menstruation, which enables pregnancy, and in Islam, early marriage is encouraged. 3. The writer recommends marriage between ages 20-28, citing reasons: women are in their prime, men often prefer this age range, early motherhood allows women to become mothers-in-law or grandmothers by 50, and women can enjoy their husbands during youthful years. Pressures & Actions of Women Married Later A. Women unmarried from age 30 to 40 often face social pressure and may become desperate to marry. B. Desperation can lead to: spending money or giving property to men who may take advantage, using pregnancy to secure a man, trying to gain favor with his family, or lying about genotype to attract men with AA genotype. C. Some women who marry at 20-28 still endure disrespect to avoid being labeled a divorcee or single mother. Qadr [Divine Decree] & Trust in Allah a. Allah is Al Qadar [The Writer of Destinies], Al Muhaymin [The Overseer], Al Aleem [The All Knowing], and more. Everything that happens is written: “The Pens have been lifted and The Pages are dry.” b. Being unmarried at 30 or older does not mean you are cursed or less human. It may be part of Allah’s plan for something better. c. Men do not like overbearing or clingy women. Desperation often repels rather than attracts. Self-Worth & Respect in Marriage -Unmarried status does not diminish a woman’s value. Instead of despair, pray to Allah for a husband who will love, care for, support, and cherish you like a queen. -A wife is not a slave or maid. Respect is due to all humans, and women should not tolerate insults or mistreatment, even if disguised as jokes. -Yoruba wisdom: bi a ṣẹ bẹru na la bi ọmọ — treat others as you want to be treated.

This analysis of LOVE EDITED, written by a Sociology and Social Work graduate @inuadeabiola , examines romantic relationships and marriage through Psychology, Law, Criminology, Religion, and other social science lenses. The article focuses on three key themes: couples not being aligned in vision, the tendency to diminish oneself in a relationship, and the need for genuine compatibility. It shows how societal expectations, socialization, and personal values shape unions before and after marriage, using the film to highlight where love can either strengthen or erode a person’s sense of self. Courtship and gender roles are shaped by cultural scripts and early influences. Traditional norms suggest men should pursue women, and that what is easily gained is often undervalued, a belief reflected in Yoruba idioms. When men don’t have to work for a relationship, they may label a woman negatively, a pattern explained by social labeling, nature vs. nurture, and Person-In-Environment theory. Mothers, as the first agents of socialization, are especially powerful in modeling self-respect, independence, and integrity. Daughters who inherit these values set higher standards and avoid mistreatment, while those who don’t may attract partners who devalue them. Even false narratives about relationships can take root, as explained by narrative theory. The article warns that red flags during courtship rarely disappear in marriage. Inconsistency, lies, secrecy, and harshness are signs to heed, not to excuse with hope for change. As the Yoruba saying goes, a sheep never changes its wool. When a woman is devalued or threatened, she risks Intimate Partner Violence, loss of personal interests, isolation, and a diminished role at home. These outcomes reflect social exchange, rational choice, and conflict theory. The solution lies in self-worth and compatibility: ignore partners who withdraw, pursue your goals, and value yourself first. True relationships function as systems of mutual support, not as units competing for power. Choosing someone who aligns with your values, communication, and respect ensures love becomes partnership, not sacrifice.

This film analysis of HUSBAND OF MY DREAM examines marriage and family through Sociology, Psychology, and other social sciences. Written by a Social and Behavioral Science graduate @inuadeabiola , the article explores three central issues: Domestic Violence and Intimate Partner Violence [IPV], forced marriages, and parents using children as leverage. Drawing on theories of conflict, role, cultural transmission, and social exchange, it illustrates how personal choices and societal expectations shape relationships both before and after marriage. The foundation of a healthy union lies in recognizing red flags before they harden into deal breakers. Red flags are warning signs during courtship, while deal breakers are qualities that dismantle marriages, including irresponsibility, arrogance, narcissism, and violence. Many enter marriage hoping their partner will change, yet character often emerges once commitment is made. As the Yoruba adage goes, tẹyan o bayi lọwọ, iwa oniwa lo ma wu — once someone is in your hands, their true nature reveals itself. Of all deal breakers, IPV is the most severe, covering physical, emotional, financial, mental, and verbal abuse. Though victims often stay due to financial dependence, children, stigma, or isolation, the article insists that life and well-being outweigh reputation, and urges parents not to pressure daughters to endure violence. The piece also confronts forced marriages and the use of children as bargaining tools. In African societies, women are frequently expected to marry by age 30 for social standing, while Western cultures allow for personal choice and later unions. Some parents arrange marriages for status or gain, ignoring their children’s wishes. Through Nneka’s story, the article shows how parental IPV can breed fear of marriage, gender-role resistance, and learned behavior. Ultimately, it advocates for voluntary unions built on good character and mutual respect, suggesting that, as seen in the Islamic ideal of Emeka and Nneka, love and stability flourish when marriage is chosen, not imposed. @ikogbonna @chinenyennebe @alejayofficial @alfredido @ifunanya.henry @smile_property_consult @inyangvictor_ @ije_awele @

Marriage is presented as a union grounded in love, care, respect, communication, and unwavering commitment, where both partners nurture one another through compassion and understanding. Drawing from Qur’anic teachings, particularly the concept of qawwamun, the husband is described as a caretaker and protector, responsible for providing stability and safeguarding his wife from harm. This role requires diligence, sacrifice, and accountability, and failing to uphold it represents a neglect of a central marital responsibility. The film Behind the Smile vividly illustrates this principle through the character of Mr. Tunde Adeyẹmi played by @ichie_fuego , who embodies devotion and sacrifice in his marriage. Despite being disrespected and wrongly accused by his wife, Amaka, he remains steadfast, even taking the fall for her and symbolically “dying her death.” His actions highlight a profound sense of duty and love, reinforcing the idea of protection and commitment as essential elements of marriage. The narrative further emphasizes the importance of honoring marital vows—standing by one another “for better or for worse”—and encourages wives to regard their husbands with respect and dignity, just as husbands are expected to lead with responsibility and care. It acknowledges that marriage is not without challenges, but stresses that the way couples handle conflicts determines the strength of their union. Additionally, it warns against the dangers of third-party interference, as external influences can escalate misunderstandings and damage relationships, as seen through the character of Kẹmi in the film who was as well the architect of the couple’s dilemma. @ichie_fuego @nashapnollytv @matthewajallys @happy_omenka @edmunduru

The passage begins by presenting marriage as a sacred union rooted in Islamic teachings, where love, mercy, and mutual support form its foundation. It emphasizes that spouses are meant to complement and uplift one another, not dominate or diminish each other. While factors such as beauty, wealth, and lineage may influence marital decisions, religious devotion is portrayed as the most essential quality, as it nurtures strong character, promotes harmony, and ensures the moral upbringing of children. It then explores the concept of parenthood as a vital responsibility that requires care, guidance, and emotional presence. Drawing on psychological perspectives, it outlines different parenting styles, with particular attention to permissive, uninvolved, and authoritarian approaches. Each of these styles, marked by either neglect, excessive leniency, or rigid control, can hinder a child’s emotional and behavioral development, highlighting the importance of balanced and attentive parenting. The discussion is ultimately illustrated through the character of Mama Monica played by @blessingonwukwe , whose harsh and neglectful behavior creates a toxic family environment. Her actions not only harm her daughter Monica played by @uchemontana but also influence her other children to adopt similar cruelty through learned behavior. By forcing Monica into adult responsibilities prematurely and making unjust decisions, she exemplifies destructive parenting. The narrative concludes with her eventual humbling, reinforcing the idea that negative actions within the family often lead to lasting consequences. @uchemontana @johnekanem1 @uchennambunabotv @princebuchii @chrisbiyibi8369 @karynudeh @official_nancypeters @blessingonwukwe @cup_ids @ekeneofficial_ @ellaokorieworkprofile @deardinma @legionofwallz @_josephmomodu @dorcasnnam @symply__ay @ariannatamba @ekeneofficial_

The essay explores whether a woman should disclose her past to her husband, beginning with the idea that one’s past often shapes the present. It contrasts courting and dating, emphasizing that while courting focuses on understanding character without intimacy, modern dating frequently involves sexual relationships that may lead to emotional harm, exploitation, and difficult consequences such as heartbreak or abortion. Within this framework, the writer highlights how past choices—especially in intimate relationships—can carry lasting implications into marriage. It further examines the realities women may face after past relationships, noting the social and emotional imbalance between men and women in moving on. The central argument is situational: disclosure may be necessary if there is a risk the husband could learn the truth from another source, particularly if the past involves someone within his social circle. Similarly, issues that could affect the marriage directly—such as reproductive health complications—should be honestly communicated. However, if the past has no bearing on the present and poses no foreseeable risk, the writer suggests that silence may sometimes be the wiser choice. Ultimately, the essay concludes that not all past actions need to be revealed, especially if one has sincerely repented and changed. It underscores the value of privacy, cautioning that sharing sensitive history can expose individuals to judgment, betrayal, or harm. Rooted in both cultural wisdom and religious belief, the piece advocates for discretion, personal accountability, and trust in divine forgiveness, presenting secrecy in certain matters as a means of protecting one’s peace and preserving the stability of marriage. @godwinthecreator_

This post is aimed at appreciating first children who role reverse and parent their younger siblings which these two movies talked about through the character of Monica played by @uchemontana and a minor character in the second movie played by @man_liketega . Life is like cards that are shuffled which means not everyone has life easy for them, and what is being said here is that some individuals have been used to role reversal or the parentified nature since the beginning of their life, and because of this, unfortunately, they had no life of their own. Because of this role reversal and parentification, the youngsters who they were responsible for would have some kind of attachment with the former which should be because the parents were a. Working to put food on the table b. Uninvolved c. Neglectful and d. Heartless. Parents, don’t bite more than you can chew, please because your first children have their own lives to live too. The writer of this article sees children having the roles of parents as wickedness and harshness because these kids should still be babied, educated, loved, and cared for by their parents too. Yes, these children learn from the parenting experiences, but we should understand that they are not the bringers of their younger siblings at all. Seeing a first child being helpful should not mean the parents need to take them for granted and believe that the first child’s role is parenting their younger ones. Younger ones, if you have an elder sibling who parentified you, appreciate them as reward because they are not your parents because nobody can and would question or beat them if they had decided to allow you rot or become uncared for. @uchemontana @johnekanem1 @uchennambunabotv @princebuchii @chrisbiyibi8369 @karynudeh @official_nancypeters @blessingonwukwe @cup_ids @ekeneofficial_ @ellaokorieworkprofile @deardinma @legionofwallz @_josephmomodu @dorcasnnam @symply__ay @ariannatamba @ekeneofficial_ @man_liketega @chris_okagbue @miwaolorunfemi @bdanielstv_ @nancy_otto1 @diamondcj8888 @realkingsleyfresh

This post would be addressed poetically, and the poem is written by @inuadeabiola Women seeing value and self-worth in themselves Poetess-AAS, Umm Firdaus Women, don’t because of clocking a certain age Become synonymous to trash by your men With the sets of behavior and actions done to you Don’t allow anyone devalue, condescend, Disregard and disrespect you because you are Someone of value and substance and composure I am above thirty years old or all my friends are Married should not bother you because you’re not Your creator, God. That is how some women Regret their marriages because the men would Have shown or be showing them the red flags Before marriage but they didn’t see it because Of materialistic things or wanting to satisfy Others but themselves. Before saying yes to a man, Ask him many questions which would help you Value alignment should be one of the first Because if your values don’t align with each other, You are in for doom. Do you wish that for yourself? @miwaolorunfemi @officialmichaeldappa @mrjaja_ @preciousgifteyo_ @jogbems2020 @officalgraceoboms @bensonbenaiah @tundepsalmist @theteenslens @alexandra_hul