One thing about me as I continue to heal…
I no longer fear the storms of past traumas or current chaos that comes at me 🤓
Doing ‘the work’ has helped me welcome the storms like a gal from #rexdale come at me, what 🤣
Because each time thunder and lightening strikes, they bring me closer to the truest ME and remove anything or anyone that blocks the blooming version of ME 🙏🏾
God is great
Each time I break, I return more whole, more powerful, more beautiful, more alive, more me, more found 🥰
This summer reminded me that healing in my life will always look like joy, pretty dresses,
travel, love, laughter, staring into my puppies eyes, dancing bare feet in the sand,
and letting myself be loved in all the right ways by all the right people 💕
And the best part is, the best is still to come ✨
Here’s to the next chapter 🤩
“Try not to resist life’s storms.
The cracks are where the light enters you.” – Rumi
#summer #forties #healing #loveyourself #loveotherswell
I wasn’t sure if I wanted to post this…but, my intention to be in this space called ‘social media’ is to share with intention always and so im sharing the heaviness of missing my father #griefduringtheholidays this year is hitting pretty deeply, again? I don’t know, each year is different but I’m feeling a deep emptiness and I know others are as well as we show up with smiles to our blessed gatherings with smiles that aren’t “fake”necessarily but smiles that are also holding back alot of tears which is what they call #grief
I’m grateful to be surrounded by loved ones that let me feel 💕
I do wanna share, my relationship was far from all smiles and pretty moments like the ones in my pictures, actually my relationship with my father was very complicated and dark at times, but he, we, tried in my adult years, and then he suddenly passed…I guess that’s what makes it a bit harder? I don’t know, I’m just sharing and maybe it helps you or someone you know that’s experiencing a loss right now to understand them a bit better and just give them love and more love 💕
In the end I’m saying, to those grieving, let yourself feel what you need to feel, whether that’s sadness, anger, or even moments of peace and don’t count the years since they’ve been gone and think it should be easier, we don’t know, I’m on year 6 and yeah I’ll just leave it there 😔
Oh and, grief isn’t always in the form of a death of a human you love, it’s also about losing a relationship, a future with someone, a job, there are so many ways we experience grief and I’m just touching on one today, so sending love to those and myself experiencing those waves of grief as well 💕
Reach out to others who understand, whether it’s friends, family, or support groups. Talking about your loss can bring comfort and help you feel less alone. It’s also okay to set boundaries — don’t feel pressured to participate in every holiday tradition if it feels overwhelming 🤷🏽♀️
Take things one step at a time, and allow yourself the space to grieve at your own pace. You are not alone, and it’s okay to honor your feelings through this time 🤗
Yours truly,
Grieving with grace
#loss #grief #father #mentalhealth
FULL MUSIC VIDEO with the one and only @karanaujla featuring ME as the main bae 🙋🏽♀️
Song: So Far
No long caption for how this moment feels but here goes…
I’m 40 here, yup, you’re a queen at any age folks!
I started performing, dancing and training classically at the age of 4, started a company and performed worldwide from the age of 20 to 27!
It’s been over ten years since I last performed on a stage and look at me here today, did I mention I’m in my forties hahaha 🤷🏽♀️ never thought I’d b doin a music video with one of the biggest Punjabi music artists currently runnin the game, reppin my culture, my SOUTH ASIAN GAL DEM where you attttttt 😜
so so much love to @harmanssehmbi japi.ca and @babbulicious for the opportunity 💗
shoutout to my cousin @tashac7107 for giving me the most beautiful kids, my niece Sahana and nephew Jahan as my actor kids in the vid haha!!
Lastly, jus wanna say this to ALL my creative little sisters, especially if you’re POC, don’t let anything hold you back, DO YOU and be PROUD of the work you put out and in the words of the great @mslaurynhill ‘don’t be a hard rock when you really are a gem!’ 😘
Artist: @karanaujla
Music: @jstatikmusic
Video: @thearcheryclub
Producer: @sarbjit_saroya
Label: @planetrecordz
MUA: @nishartistry
Lead model: ME 🤓
Vid hubs: s.zirvi 🙏🏾 #artist #newmusic #bollywood #punjabimusic #musicvideo #videoshoot #foreveradancer #fashion #happy #dowhatyoulove #beproudtobeyou #poc #pocartists #punjaban #dancer
A little #throwback to a birthday month full of love, celebration, and quiet healing 🤍
The older I get, the more I realize…
every day, every birthday, every moment of joy, soak it allllllllll in yall, stop and take it in 🙏🏾
Nothing is promised in this beautiful gift we call life, so your girl is here learning to feel it while I’m in it and not fight it anymore, key word, LEARNING, a forever student of life
Hey community 🫶🏾
I turned 46 this year, and as always, my promise here is to keep sharing honestly, what has kept me well, and what hasn’t, so we can walk this path together and learn from our lived experiences
Biggest takeaway from where I am today:
I used to think loving hard would make me loveable
I waited and yearned to be chosen
Now I know CHOOSING myself and loving ME well is the love I was always looking for 🥹
Choosing me in the good, the messy, the imperfectly perfect = peace
Lately, I’m leaning into this:
it’s less about doing everything “right” (what does that even mean lol)
and more about listening
to my body, my energy, my mind, my intuition, my mentors, my loved ones 💕
What I eat
Who I spend time with
What I consume
It all shapes how I feel
And how I feel shapes everything
My therapist asked me to define my non-negotiables, so here’s what I’m practicing:
• Paying attention to my nervous system and fiercely protecting it like I protect my loved ones and paying attention to it like a Netflix show I’m fully invested in, let’s keep it a bit light yall lol
• Noticing when my cup feels full… and when it’s running on empty like I run to charge my iPhone battery
• Choosing peace more often (this one isn’t easy, life is stressful, getting better, I think, still learning this one 🙏🏾)
I still give chances
I just leave quicker
Nothing is really ours
Life is fleeting
So I’m choosing to live it gently, honestly, and well
Just sharing what I’m learning… as I go 🤍
What are you learning?
Yours truly,
Healing Wanderer
THIS IS 46 ✨🎉🎂💋
Thankful and beyond grateful to say - I’m feelin GOOOOOOOOOOD 🙏🏾
Shoutout to my day ones for makin this an epic bday MONTH and for truly seeing ME & loving ME for all that is ME 🥹 ILYSM
#46 #birthdaytrend #birthdayreels #feelingood #thankful
Took my little sister to the The St. Regis Toronto and spoiled her like the Princess she is! Started with lobby drinks, spa treatments then dinner at LOUIX LOUIS on the 31st floor over looking Toronto and birthday high tea at Astor Lounge. The perfect celebration for my day-one, my home, my comfort, my forever ride-or-die……she is HER since the day she was born!!! Happy Birthday Manu aka Iman, you are loved 😘👯♂️🥳👑🎂💋
First post of 2026 🙏🏾
Post storm ❄️
Green represents the color of renewal so it only felt right to share some thoughts with my community today
As always, take what you need 🫶🏾
Therapy looks different for everyone, but some therapeutic practices remain the same for me today in my #forties that have kept me well through the darkness of my teens, twenties and thirties 💕
Traditionally, the word means treatment in a professional setting and for many of us, like me, that kind of support is essential and life-changing.
But #healing doesn’t only live inside an office.
It is also life changing and majorly therapeutic to sit with people who feel safe.
To set fierce boundaries. To move your body. To rest without guilt.
To visit a beautiful place when you’re able to and let yourself feel something other than survival and pain.
None of these cancel each other out. They work together.
As we begin a new year, I know I’m a month in but I’m a new day kinda girl, I focus on the present as much as I can cause well the future gives me anxiety and I want peace which is living on the present moment which is literally a 🎁 each day no? so let’s widen the language around healing and normalize the many ways we care for our mental health, especially in seasons that feel heavy.
My message remains the same this year as always fronds, be gentle with yourself, you are your one true love.
Keep the promises you make to YOU And start again as many times as you need 🤍
#paris #effeltower #mentalhealth #mentalhealthadvocate #greendress #peace
At the start of 2025, I wrote a quiet promise to myself...
Not a goal for the algorithm
Not something I needed to prove to anyone else
Just a reminder meant for me
“I will speak about mental health in beautiful spaces.
I will make it accessible,
I will take this work beyond rooms and onto international stages”
I didn’t know exactly how it would unfold, I’ve just always known this work matters to me more than I can put into words, I guess when something has touched your life so deeply and it continues to, it just becomes a mission for some of us
The year began with intimate workshops and honest conversations in community spaces and beyond
As the months went on, the rooms grew — city partners, cultural institutions, iconic libraries, museums — each one asking me to step more fully into my voice
By the end of the year, I found myself standing in some of the most meaningful spaces I’ve ever taught in, including the Toronto Reference Library, holding conversations about burnout, resilience, and mental health that felt both grounded and expansive 🙏🏾
This year taught me that keeping promises to yourself isn’t about perfection…
It’s about returning to your intention with kindness when life throws you off track, and boy did it throw me waaaaaay off track
I know I needed that reminder this year, thankfully my work keeps me close to the real things that matter in this life for me, our collective health - too many moments to post so I’m sharing my top 5 🫶🏾
Mental health belongs everywhere
Not just in crisis
Not just behind closed doors
As this year comes to a close, all I can say is thank you for this space to share my message with you all community 🫶🏾
Thank you for the rooms that trusted me,
for the people who showed up,
and for the courage it took to keep going
Softness… and a fierce belief in myself can coexist 🥹
If you’re ending this year feeling tender, proud, or somewhere in between — be gentle with yourself 💕The promise you made to yourself still counts
And if you’re a dreamer like me 🙋🏽♀️ keep dreaming
Dream loudly
Dream proudly
Don’t stop dreaming
Ending this year deeply grateful… and just getting
started 💕💕💕
Yours truly,
😊
All I Want For Christmas is uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu 🥰🫶🏾🎄🎅✨👶🏽🎁🙏🏾💕🥳🐶🐾
Wishing you all lots of time to rest and rejuvenate surrounded by loved ones or time with the most important relationship we will all ever have, oneself 🫶🏾
As I get older, I keep reminding myself, be present for these moments, these moments of love and healing surrounded by loved ones today, emphasis today, we don’t know what tomorrow holds, life is a dance, the good the challenging the daily triumphs we all make off our social feeds in those quiet moments we pulled ourselves together this year and maybe we still are today even surrounded by loved ones, take time to remember all that you are my friends, surviving another year is a HUGE accomplishment 😘
Love and light, sending care bear stares (Gen z knows what’s up lol) and lots of kisses from babies and puppies and loving humans oh and lots and lots of sparkles cause you and I my loves are, magic, pure gold glittery beautiful MAGIC 🥰 🙏🏾
#mariahcarey #alliwantforchristmasisyou #family #health #love
This year I started a new tradition, not waiting for birthdays or other societal norm times we’ve been told to spend time celebrating eachother, I started celebrating endings that are beginnings, why don’t we do this more? Because it’s feels AMAZING!
“What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning.” — T.S. Eliot
An essential part of my wellness has always been gathering with the ones who’ve held me, laughed with me, cried with me and walked through some real life lifi-ing with me 🫶🏾🥹💕
There have been so many hard but soft moments this season too like helping a friend pack up their life in a U-Haul after a painful breakup. A reminder that the holidays aren’t easy for everyone, and that love sometimes looks like showing up quietly, without needing a photo for it 🙏🏾
It all made me realize how deeply I value the people and fur babies in my life, and how important it is to check in on your people — especially the ones who live alone
Mental health is a community responsibility
Be kind. Be thoughtful. Be present. 🤍
Here’s to endings that create space for beginnings.
Here’s to grace for what you let go of this year, and compassion for the person you’re still becoming.
And here’s to the friendships that feel like home 🏡
#SoftLife #WomenWhoPourIntoYou #WellnessInYour40s #ConnectionIsMedicine
A little #GRWM #affirmations and some reminders to whoever needs them while I get black tie gala ready 💋
Before and during the glam, I started with affirmations to calm the anxiety + imposter syndrome that loves to show up when I walk into big rooms like the Governance Professional Awards Gala @governanceprofessionals
“You are capable and worthy of a beautiful life.
You are building towards your dreams.
I love you.” —— a little mirror work à la Louise Hay that always brings me back home to myself 🙏🏾
And then… the dress
Okay so this has been sitting in my closet for almost a year cause well, I bought it for something that never ended up happening 🤷🏽♀️ sometimes it was even hard to even look at this beautiful piece of fashion but your girls over it 🤣 and now I know why “that thing” didn’t end up happening
It was meant for this night, a bigger, more meaningful moment surrounded by incredible humans being celebrated for their impact 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
What a time in my career and what a season of stepping into rooms I once prayed for… even when it still feels uncomfortable, your girl pushes through and shows up!
And I felt amazing in this look btw 🤓 shoutout to my big sister for the hairstyle idea 💅🏽✨
This night wasn’t just getting glammed up (which I LOVE), it was about feeling beautiful on the outside and powerful on the inside. Sometimes we sit in therapy rooms and support groups and read all the self help books we think we need but we can only realize the work is working when we step into spaces or face people that we couldn’t see ourselves facing again. For some, it might be just making it to one therapy session this month or this year and for some it’s healing heartbreak and maybe dating again, trusting, all of this comes back to us trusting that tomorrow the sun will rise again and if you’re lucky, you get to wake up and do life for another day 🥹you’re doing great!
Those little affirmations? They’re working 🫶🏾
Little me is proud
Big me is growing
Keep going, healers 🤍
Dress @zara
Shoes @aldo_shoes
Hair oil @moroccanoil
Hair fairies and goddesses @the_fix_hair_lounge@tanyashair2 🫶🏾
#grwm #ootd #fyp #wellness #fortiesstyle #forties
Hey hey community 😀 sliding into your mid week scrolling with a little fashion-as-self-expression reel today and honestly the thing that pulls me out of my funk in these darker days, movin on, keepin strong, it’s a groove thang 🎵🎶#fashionistherapy
But first…I know it’s been a few weeks but I’m beaming still from how our Jays showed up this season 💙⚾️ #GoJaysGo
#throwback to celebrating my bestie boo @chanykay birthday and another dear friend and human, Tdots very own @startingfromscratch 🫶🏾 Mark, thank you for 20 years + of magical nights with my girls and still goin strong, ITS A GROOVE THANG!!!!
I even sacrificed my magnesium, lavender spray, three pillows AND my sound machine for this girls night which are not just bdays, we are out here celebrating life yall… so you know it was love 😂
In all seriousness:
music + movement are essential for my mental health,
and it is for yours too, we are tribal people, we’re meant to connect, dance, hug, laugh, celebrate, and be around our people
And as the darker days get darker ahead, social connection matters more than ever 🤗
A few fun mental-health facts for your week:
🎵 Music boosts serotonin & reduces anxiety
👯♀️ Dancing increases endorphins in under 5 minutes
💙 Friend time improves mood + lowers loneliness
🧠 Social connection is one of the biggest protectors against depression
✨ And yes — getting dressed up, also improves your mood, BIG TIME!
If you live alone like me, what are some ways you make time to connect and be social? Share some tips with your girl 💕
Happy Wednesday peeps! 🤍
@zara@winners@hottopic@hm@bluejays
#getonup #torontolife #birthday #mentalhealth #community #healing
