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He said yes 13 years ago; I said yes today.

Snowy alpaca feeding time.🦙🥰❄️

@iamraynbow and I bought a country home! It may be from the 1780’s but it’s new to us! The property also came with 4 alpacas and a 17 year-old cat named Fiona. More updates in 2025!

So proud to be her grandson. So thankful for a childhood and life filled with cherished memories. Wishing more than anything I could walk in her front door for tea and a chat. Thoughts of her kitchen, her company, and her laugh will always bring me comfort. I'll be home soon Nanny and pay you a visit first thing.

This past year has been one of my most emotionally challenging years. In this moment all I feel is gratitude for my husband @bretttheintern who has been by my side the whole way. Without Brett’s drive to move forward and make something new, I might have spent a lot longer in dark places. How can I be happy right now? That is a question I probably wouldn’t ask myself without you, Brett. Your joy, your creativity, and yes even your impatience are gifts. I will always be grateful to April 5th 1986 for bringing them into this world. I love you. Happy Birthday.

Me and Pip. Swipe to rewind. Today is my first-ever friend Pip’s birthday. When I say first-ever, I mean that literally. Pip was less than 60 days old when he visited the hospital to meet baby Ray, all “long and dark-haired” as Mammy described me. Though I have gotten proportionally shorter and pinker, my friendship with Pip has only grown deeper. Ever since the moment we first met, gravity has connected us. Even as we moved apart from one another—different schools, different countries—we always returned. We phase in and out of each other’s lives as reliably as the moon. It really can’t be stated enough how wild it is that two Irish folks from a village with a population of less than 1,500 both met an American significant other and moved to LA. The timing wasn’t exact, yet here we are, within spitting distance of one another once again. He won’t like me saying it, but Pip is without a doubt the kindest, most selfless person I know. He has saved me countless times, mostly without even knowing it. When I try to calculate the likelihood of our friendship, from beginning to destination, the numbers get too big and I’m far too 💅 to be doing that kind of maths. I wish there was some way I could articulate my gratitude and love for my friend. One thing I know for sure is there will be many more opportunities to try. Happy Pip day. x

queer•veelutions, part of my #pogaymon series that i’ve been sitting on for ✨two years✨ ⠀ this eeveelutions series just covers sexuality, gender identity is incoming. ⠀ • queer•vee [queer + eevee] • les•peon [lesbian + espeon] • gay•reon [gay + flareon] • um•bi•reon [bisexual + umbreon] • ace•on [asexual/ace + glaceon] • va•pan•reon [pansexual + vaporeon] • abro•feon [abrosexual + leafeon] • poly•veon [polysexual + sylveon] • j•omni•eon [omnisexual + jolteon] ⠀ image description available via screenreader. ⠀ #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer #lgbtqart #lgbtart

Today is @ruthmccormack ’s birthday! ⠀ If you didn’t know any better you might assume that I ran away with @ruthmccormack on my wedding day. ⠀ You might assume that because, one, I am at any minute moments away from deciding to do just that, and two, these photos really make it look like exactly that happened. So, in honour of your birthday, let’s imagine that we did run away together! ⠀ By now I’m sure we would be living in a seaside cottage with a 10 tonne collection of seashells. Every weekend we would go to the local pub, singing shanties and flirting with the way-fairing sailers that blow in from time to time. We would be permanently wine drunk—but in a cute way, where we’re both pretty—and wear sweaters all year round. Over the years as I age, and you mysteriously stay the same, I would have to come to terms with the reality that you are in fact a mermaid and will one day return to the sea (to once again be reunited with your tooth). ⠀ I will spend the remainder of my years leaving bottles of Rosé and cookie dough down by the local cove, endlessly singing ’Óró, sé do bheatha ‘bhaile.’ Unless of course you decide to take me with you like Tom Hanks in Splash…but the mechanics of that never quite made sense to me so we’ll have to work out the details. ⠀ Until then, know that I love you. I think of you all the time. I can’t wait to see you very soon. Happy Ruth Day everyone!

Today is my older-younger brother Adam's (@ciubfoot ’s) birthday! In the cocktail that is my family, Adam and I together make up exactly one middle child. When Rónán was born, of course, we had a very serious meeting about how we should divvy up the middle-child issues. I took the flair for dramatics and the constant attention-seeking. Adam took the people-pleasing and the rebelliousness. Pictured here wedged between his two older brothers, Keith (laughing uncontrollably) and me (playing it up for the camera), there is Adam. Wide-eyed, blushing cheeks, adorable and loving. Luckily for the world, Adam has in spite of himself retained a lot of this wonder and capacity to love. He has so much love in his heart, I think it might be a medical issue. Plus he's even goofier now—which is a huge plus! When I think back to this time, I remember the laughter. Punctured with my not-so-infrequent dramatic episodes of course, but one must do what one can to keep things interesting. But most of all I miss my brother. I miss the craic. I miss the drama. I miss hanging out without a going-away flight looming over everything. Endless hours of games, music, and really REALLY dumb inside jokes. I'll spare you the details. Until I get that back, I'll just have to keep reminiscing. I LOVE MY BROTHER. 𝙃𝘼𝙋𝙋𝙔 𝘼𝘿𝘼𝙈 𝘿𝘼𝙔!

Said goodbye to this beautiful boy today. My heart is breaking. Thank you for everything you gave us, Murphy.

It's that time of year again! For those of you who can't stand lovey-dovey posts between spouses — I hear you, I see you, you have my permission to ignore this post entirely. ⠀ Today is my husband @bretttheintern 's birthday. I can't NOT mark the day by once again confirming that I am still deeply in love with him. I'm still in awe of his drive to constantly move forward. I still consider myself lucky to have his constant support. He still makes me laugh uncontrollably every single day. His smile still melts my little Irish heart. I’ve got such a crush on him. ⠀ Brett told me last night that I'm eventually going to run out of nice things to publicly declare to him on his birthday. Challenge accepted. Any challenge that means I get to keep being married to you while shoving it in everyone’s face sounds pretty dope to me, ngl. You're about to EAT YOUR WORDS, you dummy. Nyah nyah. ⠀ So here's to decades of nauseatingly adorable posts. I'm not even sorry about it. ⠀ Image description: Brett and Ray are pictured at sunset at a harbour in San Diego. Brett squeezes Ray from behind like they’re a stuffed animal. Judging by their scrunched up smile, Ray is 100% okay wait that. Or that’s how they express pain. I guess we’ll never know. Brett is super handsome and cute here, trust me.

Today marks seven years since myself and @bretttheintern got engaged. ⠀ Being in a long distance relationship for 3 years meant that we didn’t get many surprises. We talked about marriage and what our future might look like very early on, mostly because we had no choice. We didn’t have the freedom to see where our relationship took us because we always had our eyes on the prize. Being together, full time. The moment DOMA was struck down we submitted our visa application. We were among the first 10 same-sex couples to be accepted for a fiancé visa in CA and among the first three in Ireland. Without federal marriage equality, I couldn’t have come to the United States, and Brett and I wouldn’t be together today. ⠀ Today, on the Supreme Court’s first day back without Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Justices Alito and Thomas took direct aim at Obergefell suggesting that SCOTUS might overturn the right to marriage equality. Their opinions are consistent with the Republican platform on same-sex marriage. ⠀ I have no love for Joe Biden. A vote for him wont lead to any meaningful change for Black folks, especially as it pertains to police brutality in the United States. One vote will not put an end to systemic racism. What is clear is that a vote for Trump is a vote in opposition to the kind of environmental action the world so desperately needs right now. A vote for Trump is a vote in opposition to women’s reproductive rights. A vote for Trump is a vote in opposition to my marriage and the marriages of those like mine. ⠀ Thank you for asking me to marry you, Brett. Thank you to all the queer people who helped make that a reality. We can’t let their sacrifices go to waste.