If you’re a mom and find yourself saying “I barely recognize myself”… this is for you.
This month’s slow down focuses on how to nourish the parts of you that need watering 🪴 This is a space to exhale, get honest, and learn how to create time for the version of you that you miss.
Because maternal burnout isn’t an expectation, it’s a symptoms of a system that doesn’t support you the way you need. And we can change that.
To RSVP: comment SLOW DOWN and I’ll send you the link.
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POV: you’re rewriting your “about me” after years of performing.
You don’t have to make yourself palatable to be worthy. Took me years to finally accept that and there's no turning back.
What truth are you ready to unleash? Tell me in the comments
#wochealing
A lot of women think something is wrong with them right now.
That they should be more motivated. More productive. More “on it.”
But what I see, over and over again, is something else entirely.
When you’re raised to be emotionally perceptive, responsible, and capable — especially as a woman of color — your energy doesn’t just disappear. It gets spent managing things you were never meant to carry alone.
That kind of depletion isn’t a mindset issue.
It’s a power issue.
Nothing needs to be fixed here.
What needs to change is where your energy is going.
If this landed, save it.
And share it with someone who might need this reminder.
#hersoulsupply #loveandpower #womensempowermentcoach #wocwellness
You can be a devoted mother and a whole person.
Not half-alive.
Not “the mom version” of yourself.
Not a walking to-do list with a heartbeat.
You’re multifaceted.
And every part of you deserves oxygen.
If you’ve been shrinking to be “good,” hear me:
You’re not selfish for wanting more than survival.
What’s one part of you you miss?
Drop it in the comments. I want to witness you.
Meet your guest expert for Slow Down: More Than a Mom.
Because you don’t need more advice.
You need support that actually understands the patterns behind why you’re stuck… and what it takes to change them.
Swipe for a quick intro + why they’re joining us.
Want in?
Comment SLOW DOWN and I’ll send you the invite.
Maternal gatekeeping doesn’t always look like “control.” Sometimes it looks like over-functioning.
If you feel like you’re the only one who can do it “right”… pause.
Because the cost is usually:
- resentment
- burnout
- a partner who stays passive
- kids who learn “Mom runs everything”
This isn’t about blaming you. It’s about naming the pattern so you can stop carrying the whole family system on your back.
If this hit, save it and send it to someone who’s quietly drowning in “I’ll just handle it.”
Want support breaking the cycle (without the guilt spiral)?
Come to Slow Down. Comment SLOW DOWN and I’ll send you the invite.
Let’s name it: maternal gatekeeping.
When motherhood becomes a competition for who’s “doing it right,” it stops being care and starts being control.
Sometimes it looks like:
- “I’m the only one who knows what the baby needs.”
- “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done correctly.”
- “They can help… but not like that.”
And underneath it is usually fear—not superiority:
fear of being judged, fear of losing identity, fear that if someone else does it… you’ll be unnecessary.
You don’t have to clamp down to stay important.
Save this if you’ve felt yourself tightening.
Comment “REAL” if you’ve seen this (or lived it).
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Motherhood has the biggest marketing team on the planet.
With PR fleets of family members telling you how to comport yourself.
Ads telling you how products will optimize your child’s chances (because that’s what a “good mom” would do).
And social norms meant to shame you into staying focused on purpose: to be a selfless woman who would do anything for her kids because the fate of their lives relies on you.
I reject that narrative and everything that shows my daughter that her most important purpose in life is to procreate and make a man happy.
That’s my definition of “good” mothering.
The good news is that version of you is still here, you just need to tap in and create a little more room for her your life. Easier said than done? Join us at The Slow Down: More than a mother where we tap into the versions of us we’ve lost and explore the ways we honor them and place them back in our lives. Comment SLOW DOWN for your invite.
You’re not a bad mom. You just had a bad day.
And that matters, because patriarchy taught you to turn one moment into a character flaw.
A hard day can look like:
- raising your voice
- hiding in the bathroom for 3 minutes
- feeling numb instead of “grateful”
None of that makes you unsafe or unloving. It makes you human.
Save this for the next time guilt shows up like a bully. And if you’ve been there, comment “me too” so someone else feels less alone.
#mommylife
#momvillage
#momsover40
You’re not failing—your nervous system is overloaded.
When you’re running on empty, everything feels louder: the mess, the whining, the “one more thing,” the guilt.
Before you label it “I’m a bad mom,” try this instead:
1) Name what’s real: I’m overstimulated.
2) Take 60 seconds: feet on the floor, slow exhale.
3) Do the next right thing—not the whole day.
What would change if your reset mattered as much as everyone else’s needs?
#motherhoodvillage
#wocwellness
#momwellness
A reminder I come back to often: identity is layered. Motherhood doesn’t have to erase you.
“Mom” and “entrepreneur” can coexist.
“Partner” and “friend” can coexist.
What part of you are you making space for in this season?
