Its amazing to be how this beautiful Queen has been such an important part of my life even years before we met in person.
💞
We got connected through a mastermind and became besties digitally.
She knows more about me than almost anyone on the planet!
We share insane amounts of voice clips about every detail of our lives.
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I feel so connected to her as a deep soul sister even though we only spent time together in person one 1 trip I had to San Diego and have been deeply apart of each other's lives for... well basically for probably all of our past lives throughout history.
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I have gotten to know her beautiful heart, the way she processes information, the way she walks through life heart WIDE open.
She is obsessed with animals even more than I am, which take a LOT.
😻😹😺🐈🐶🐕🐒🐆 🐧🐠🐲
She is SO wise beyond her years it truly blows my mind.
She has inspired me to take actions that are outside of my comfort zone more times than I can count.
We are in many ways complimentary opposites, and I LOVE seeing how she handles things so beautifully different than I do.
She is able to recognize patterns and call me up and out of my shit in such helpful ways.
🔮
There are few people on earth as committed to personal growth and this beautiful specimen of truth, embodied.
I am truly obsessed with you @hannahspanke !
On days that feel dark, just knowing the Universe made a sparkle itself in human form as bright and shiny as you brings all the light I need.
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Having you in my life is a gift I could never properly express my gratitude for.
On behalf of humanity, thank you so much for coming to Earth.
May this lap around the sun be your very best yet!
🌎💫🌞💖
I love you so much.
Happy Belated Birthday you beautiful Queen!
I am endlessly grateful for you!!!
🙏💖🙏
What I’m learning in love right now...
It’s a choice.
We’ve all heard that line - “love is a choice”
But until now, it was an idea in my head
One of those things I’d say “I know”, but in hindsight, the wisdom of it hadn’t landed in my body
Lately I’ve been having THE most embodied experience of love being a choice
The level of lucidity is both alarming and exciting
To realize how much control and power I actually have, to keep my heart open in any given moment
Again, a nice idea I had heard and repeated for years, but only now can say I really understand how it feels
The subtle, visceral cascade that happens when something hurts
It hurts
I contract
I see it happening in real time
I breathe
I feel it
And I reopen
The speed that this can happen, depends entirely on my state in the moment
Am I grounded?
Do I have unprocessed emotions hanging around?
Am I willing to see my part in this?
This is where the pieces of the pattern start to add up
If I’m taking care of myself - food, water, sleep, movement, connection - outside of the relationship, I am resourced enough to stay in my heart through anything
If I’m depleting myself - food, water, sleep, movement, connection - outside of the relationship, I am running on fumes and fighting my lowest baseline of conditioning when things feel tough
This awareness has me wondering..
How often do we project our own lack of responsibility onto a relationship dynamic and call it true?
Is your partnership actually bad?
Or are you under resourced?
Are you giving from empty?
Are you reacting instead of connecting?
The relationship is a by-product of two individuals - it is secondary. NOT a primary source of your pain, ever.
So I invite you into deeper discernment..
Can you sharpen how YOU are showing up, and let that improve the relationship?
Or are you doing your part, and need to be honest about what you’re tolerating from your PARTNER?
Take home: when you find yourself casting blame on the connection itself, ask more questions. Look at yourself more honestly. Take appropriate responsibility for the co-creation, and enjoy feeling your capacity for love expand beyond the limitation.
THIS is what men doing “the work” looks like, with real life results.
Every man on earth deserves this type of freedom.
In 90 seconds, they talked about gaining..
🔥 better connections with loved ones
🔥 easier time making new connections
🔥 more confidence
🔥 real self-love and acceptance
🔥 being authentic without self-doubt
🔥 emotional intelligence
🔥 clarity on their path
This is just the short list of what they’ve accomplished in less than 4 months, and you can do it too.
If your comfort zone is killing you…
And you know it’s time to be brave & change…
Better Man might be your saving grace - a practice arena to become the man you’re here to be.
The next round starts soon.
Book a free 20min call to see if Better Man is the next best step for you. If it isn’t, I’ll point you in the right direction. Link is on my profile.
Group size is capped to stay SMALL (because I personally hate joining a group program for my own goals and listening to 69 people tell stories each week 🥲) so don’t worry about that - there’s only a couple spots left.
Talk to you soon 💪🏼
#men #formen #betterman #menhealing #menswork #menshealing #consciousrelating #selflove #confidence #healing #transformation
🤖 In a world full of AI.. be a real man
I’m the first to admit that it can be helpful
✖️ But what’s the line where it starts to mess with relationships?
✖️ At what point is it not just a tool, but a shortcut that makes you worse?
✖️At what point does it become mental-emotional p 0 r n you can’t quit?
☯️ The perks of ChatGPT - ease, input vs output ratio, availability, immediacy - are also the things that make it destructive
All things that don’t (can’t) exist in a healthy romantic relationship
It’s just a nifty piece of tech, but the conditioning is real
👎🏼 Diminishing your capacity for relational accountability & patience..
👎🏼 Regressing your communication skills by outsourcing critical thought & emotional maturity..
👎🏼 Excusing yourself from the responsibility of empathy as a practice..
👎🏼 Distorting your expectations of real relationships until they look like:
- Expecting your partner to be available 24/7 for your thoughts & emotions the way your chat app is
- Thinking that merging your life with another whole human should be easy, the way you barely have to lift a finger for AI
- Expecting to get 10x more than you put in yourself, the way you say “hi” to chat & get a paragraph back
🤯 All the ways you’re unconsciously groomed to “connect” with the bot, when applied to a real connection, describe ultimate dysfunction & toxic-waste relationships
Freaky concept huh?
👁️ The gift of AI could be the fall of your own human intimacy if you don’t keep your eyes open & use it well
So how do you use it well?
❤️🩹 Short answer, become so WELL inside yourself first, that the dark side of AI is no longer a threat
Learning to have a healthy relationship with yourself as the foundation, is immunity for becoming relationship-retarded & dependent on a robot
💪🏼 Get so internally strong, you can’t be controlled without knowing it
🤍 Love yourself so much, that loving another person is 2nd nature
That’s what I help men do in Better Man, my men’s group program. Doors for enrollment are open now for a short time
📆 We start soon, if this is catching your attention, book a free call to talk (link in b !o)
#chatgpt #formen #healing
Recent thoughts on why men shy away from love
There is something to be said about the parallel between heartbreak & new love
They both require an expansion of our emotional capacity
They both require vulnerability with ourselves & others
They both take us into uncharted territory
They present an equal opportunity for fear to arise
Although our connotations of the two are very different..
Heartbreak is thought of as dreadful, something to avoid, it does damage & makes life hard
New love is thought of as shiny and romantic and hopeful, promising on the surface at least
But I would argue that our deepest fears around rejection, abandonment, or feeling unlovable, all come up with new love the same exact way they do with grief
The people pleasing, self-abandonment, avoidance, anxiety etc. come knocking when we are faced with new love, because it poses the same threat of getting your heart broken - the unknown.
So I get why men shy away from the love they want so badly
It reminds them of a familiar ache from the past that could come back, and in a world where boys don’t cry.. that risk is too big
I also get why men don’t recognize themselves when something “good” is happening, and they can’t stop burning it to the ground - the shame is all consuming
I’m an expert at helping people see where they set their own fires, understand why, and walk the road back home to a way of operating that feels strong, safe, and is no longer driven by fear
It’s the greatest gift of my life to witness men reclaim their own desire for love, and have the inner strength to actually go for it
When you build yourself up enough, you can still get your heartbroken.. but you’ll never again opt-out of the full experience just because you’re scared. Eliminating the fear that robs you of your life
Don’t you want to live like that?
Bravely, with conviction that you deserve what you want & you can handle anything that happens on the way? (i do)
That’s what we do in Better Man - my men’s program that serves as a practice field for you to do this inner work, so you can return to the world with your power & open-heart in tact. Next round starts in June, comment “BM” for the info
My life has been difficult, and exquisitely beautiful.
The way that I love is rare.
Unapologetically brave.
And not being met in those deep waters is crushing.
But with every crush,
every contraction,
I see my options clearly.
I can shrink,
hide,
retract the love within me.
Or I can expand,
unfurl through grief,
and allow myself to rise.
Each time I meet this choice,
I choose the second.
Because of this,
the constant reflection
from everyone in my life,
is amazement.
People are awestruck
at my ability to
keep opening.
I often hear how
I make people feel
more loved than ever before.
But the truth is,
it’s not me.
At least it’s not me
*doing* anything
on purpose
to make them feel that way.
It’s simply the reflection
of my own
committment
to believing in love,
especially when it’s
the hardest option.
Being forged in the fire
time and time again
allows me to
hold the line,
to be a walking reflection,
of the universal truth,
that You Are Loved.
Whether I am in
someone’s life
long term,
or not,
I take pride
in my embodiment.
I take pride in it,
but I don’t take credit.
Because it’s never really
about me.
It’s about the
collective choice
we all experience
individually,
to be brave in our hearts
or not.
With bravery as my creed,
I am gifted
with the experience
of reminding others
of the power of love.
Hopeful that my example
impacts those who
have been hurt,
who are on the fence
about re-opening,
who believe that
pain and love
are mutually exclusive things.
They aren’t.
Keep opening,
lead with your heart,
and know that
no matter how it goes,
you win.
Someone,
somewhere,
will meet you
in those depths.
And when they do,
you won’t have to
teach them
how to
be brave.
With a faithful heart,
it will all be worth it.
I celebrate that moment
for you,
for me,
and for our
collective remembrace
of unconditional love.
#love #bravery #divinity #godslove #power
Alignment is your best protection ⭐️
We’ve all heard it -
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”
I personally believe that applies not just to other people, but to aspects of ourselves
If you spend time with the aspect of yourself that’s stuck in self-doubt, fear, anxiety, depression, etc.. expect more of it
If you spend time with higher vibrational aspects of yourself like your higher self, your gratitude, love.. you can expect more of it
We attract our own frequency
This is why when you get out of bed, stub your toe, and curse the world, the rest of the day follows suit with struggle and resistance
When you’re on a high, things are going your way, good days easily get even better as they go on
That’s the magic of being conscious - you get to choose your own frequency and the quality of your life is no longer a mystery, for better or worse
Investing in your frequency on a daily basis through intentional thought, emotion, and connection to spirit, makes you untouchable to denser, darker things
Think about a merry-go-round at a playground. When it gets spinning so fast, no one else can jump on with you or slow it down
That’s the goal
Align your energy with such a high frequency that unwanted things can’t easily cling on
This doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t feel denser things, quite the opposite
If you’re sad, grieving, rageful.. it’s in service to your highest self to feel it fully, but with a commitment to letting it go once its felt
If you don’t, it’ll become the thing that slows you down - the team is only as strong as its weakest link
Have the perspective that you are letting it come out of you, making room for more lightness to fill the space, & let it happen. Not attaching to the darkness as an unconscious way to identify with your pain & let it define you
Feel it all, do it like it’s your only job, and bravely keep your eye on the bigger point - to rise
With a higher vibration, you’ll attract more positive things, be more resilient to the rest, and you’ll become the catalyst for others to rise as well
Protecting yourself with your own light is empowerment at the deepest level
You deserve that ⭐️🪽
We have to be able to hold the nuance of two truths together.
1) nobody owes you anything, ever
2) you are infinitely worthy of everything
With the first, we can stay in gratitude for every part of our life, particularly anything to do with other people, and see their attention, time, effort, love, lessons etc as the gift that it is.
With the second, we are secure in our ability to receive and can uphold a deep sense of gratitude without adopting a disempowered consciousness.
Gratitude without worthiness is a black hole that can’t be filled.
Worthiness without gratitude is entitlement and repels the best that life has to offer.
Self worth married to appreciation is your safeguard around slipping into victimhood and a recipe for reliable connection to the power in you - the power of creation.
#power #gratitude #selfworth #alignment #god #creation #consciousness #empowerment
Your open heart deserves a safe container. 💖 If you desire a man who embodies integrity, presence, and devotion, honour yourself by waiting for a committed space of mutual love. Intimacy isn’t just physical—it’s emotional, spiritual, and deeply connected. When you open your heart without the safety of commitment, it can lead to unnecessary pain and confusion.
In this powerful conversation, Hannah Spanke and I dive deep into the importance of emotional safety, commitment, and why protecting your heart is an act of self-love. Don’t miss Episode 54 of Love Stories—now streaming!
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LIVE NOW: Love Stories Episode 54 with Hannah Spanke! 🔴
Join us for a powerful conversation with Hannah Spanke, a relationship coach who helps people navigate dark nights of the soul and heal from deep childhood and relationship trauma. Using a unique blend of psychic insight, modern therapy, and ancient wisdom, Hannah empowers clients to create authentic, healthy love and spiritual growth.
Drawing from a taboo past, she has a rare ability to pinpoint subtle areas of disempowerment, offering profound insights that facilitate true healing. Known for her deep yet playful approach, Hannah makes growth both effective and fun, ensuring sustainable results that break old patterns for good. She believes our body and soul already hold everything we need—and that conscious relationships and sex are powerful tools for enlightenment and profound healing.
✨ Don’t miss this transformative episode—Tune in now! ✨
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