🎉🩷🩵🎉 We’re having a………
blast and celebrating 5 years of love and life together! (Sorry if the first line made your heart stop 😂)
Here’s a few things that
@gavin.wegener and I have learned so far:
1. The only significant work that relationships need is the consistent work that each partner needs to do within themselves. The relationship naturally improves as a byproduct.
2. The 80/20 rule is half true; instead of 80% being the most you can find of what you want in another person, and 20% being an unfulfilled desire…it’s about finding someone with the 80% of what your looking for and then you work on, create, and become the other 20%.
3. There are no relationship rules that work for everyone. The intimacy and adventure of customizing how you go about things and treat each other is sooooo much more fun and fulfilling than placing yourselves in a box that society made up.
4. You’ll never find a better couples therapist than yourselves if you take time to get proficient at understanding yourselves as individuals first, master nervous system regulation, and practice radical honesty.
5. Things take time. Timelines for when and how things should progress in a relationship is born of social programming. Things unfold as they should spiritually, and it’s much more rich to have natural authentic progression than forced evolution.
6. ‘Perfection’ (whatever that means to you) requires a great deal of practice and discipline…UNTIL it becomes so ingrained into your subconscious, that it’s effortless and becomes second nature.
7. Discomfort and triggers (in a healthy sense) are opportunities to grow closer. Don’t shy away from them, keep looking at them, talk about them, and work through them objectively. They can be completely heal.
I have grown into a secure, supported, and emotionally healthy woman because of you. I’ve seen the world with you, you’ve taught me so much, and with all that you are in my life—you’re also a dad to Venus, a friend to my friends, an uncle to my niece, a brother to my sister, and a son to my mother. You are the best thing that has happened to me. Thank you for 5 incredibly fun, patient, gentle, consistent, and intentional years.
