Happy I Choose Me day! 🩵
Have you ever felt like you weren’t good enough when all the evidence says YOU ARE! Do you struggle with self-doubt?
On the podcast this week I open up about my own internal feelings of the occasional imposter syndrome with psychologist Dr. Lisa Orbe-Austin.
Dr. Lisa gives us all some really great tips on how we can move past our own imposter syndrome feelings, and encourages us to talk to the little child inside us all so we can can comfort ourselves in the best way possible.
I also let you in on an incredible new project I’ve been working years on!
Listen to today’s episode and let’s learn how to reframe these feeling in a more positive way.
#IChooseMe #impostersyndrome
I am STILL taking this in! I know how important it is to internalize wins when you struggle with Imposter Syndrome and I have been working very hard to internalize this appearance on The Today Show with Hoda and Jenna, but it’s not been easy.
Over the past few weeks, I have been fighting these Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs):
👉🏽 They are going to cancel the segment because the initial interview didn’t go well.
👉🏽 The segment only went well for a first timer.
👉🏽 I said something that embarrassing.
So, these are the skills from “Own Your Greatness” that I have been using:
💁🏽♀️ I have relied on my “Imposter Syndrome Expert” to challenge me to do what I needed to do
💁🏽♀️ When presented with alternative information to my ANTs I took it in (e.g., when asked to be on the SIRIUSXM show, I reminded myself that if it went that badly, I wouldn’t have been asked)
💁🏽♀️ I meditated every day even when I didn’t want to
💁🏽♀️ I forced myself to watch the segment pretty quickly after it aired and stayed present with the positive and not harp on the negative
I used as many of the skills that I teach as I could and it’s such a great reminder that even a positive and exciting experience can trigger your Imposter Syndrome no matter watching stage you are in your process of recovery.
This is why practicing the skills (or learning the skills if you haven’t) is so important.
If you’re exhausted from “faking it,” it’s time to finally be it.
Drop TOOLKIT below and I’ll send you the OYG toolkit that helps you ditch the performance and build confidence rooted in who are.
But it’s what I love about myself now! I was taught that accomplished psychologists were poised and staid AND that’s just not what I am or have ever been so it made me feel like I would never get there.
But when I came to understand that “being there” meant being me, it became so much easier to reach my own goals.
I am flawed, make mistakes, gesticulate too wildly (so wildly that the cameras freak out). But I think more clearly that way and find my true thoughts coming to the surface.
❓What’s the most stifling piece of career advice that you ever received?
Thanks to @jessiwrites and @linkedinnews team for having me on Flip the Script and letting me be me! 💝
It’s not just mental—it’s deeply emotional.
Imposter syndrome can leave you feeling disconnected, even in rooms full of people who care about you.
Because the hardest part isn’t being unseen…
it’s not letting yourself be seen.
🌿 Want to explore if it’s impostor syndrome?
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Imposter syndrome doesn’t just affect confidence—it affects strategy.
It keeps you reacting to life instead of creating it.
Like playing checkers in a game that actually requires foresight and positioning.
This is why you feel stuck… even when you’re capable of more.
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If you’ve ever thought:
“I’ll do it when I feel more confident…”
That moment might never come.
Imposter Syndrome convinces you that confidence comes before action—when in reality, it’s built through it.
Breaking out of that loop doesn’t require becoming a different person.
It requires understanding the patterns you’ve been stuck in.
And once you see them clearly? Everything starts to shift.
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Healing imposter syndrome isn’t about becoming more confident overnight.
It’s about slowly building safety in being real.
In your voice.
In your needs.
In your presence.
And in relationships where you don’t have to earn your belonging.
✨Comment QUIZ and I’ll send you imposter syndrome quiz to explore your patterns.
When imposter syndrome is running the show, conflict doesn’t feel like a normal part of connection—it feels like a threat to belonging.
So you stay quiet. You keep the peace.
But at the cost of your truth.
Healthy relationships can hold honesty.
🔥 Want to understand if your conflict patterns are imposter syndrome ?
Comment QUIZ and I’ll send you a quick reflection tool in your DMs.
You don’t need more qualifications.
You need freedom from the voice that tells you you’re not enough.
Imposter Syndrome is subtle—it doesn’t always scream. Sometimes it whispers just enough to keep you small, stuck, and overthinking everything.
And the worst part?
It can feel normal.
But it’s not.
There’s a way to interrupt the pattern, understand where it came from, and finally move through your life with confidence that actually feels real.
💬 Comment MINE and I’ll send you the book that helps you start that shift.
Imposter syndrome can make your voice feel unsafe—even in close relationships.
So instead of speaking clearly, you shrink, soften, or silence yourself.
Your voice isn’t the problem. The fear around it is.
🗣️ Are your communication patterns a result of imposter syndrome?
Comment QUIZ and I’ll send you something helpful in your DMs.
Imposter syndrome in relationships can make love feel fragile—even when it’s not.
You might find yourself waiting for the moment it all falls apart… instead of relaxing into being chosen.
But love isn’t something you have to prove you deserve.
❤️ Want clarity on your patterns with imposter syndrome?
Comment QUIZ and I’ll DM you a quick assessment.
Not all self-sabotage looks obvious.
Sometimes it looks like:
• Waiting “just a little longer”
• Over-preparing instead of acting
• Staying comfortable
• Avoiding visibility
• Not negotiating
It feels logical in the moment — but it keeps you stuck long-term.
And often, imposter syndrome is underneath it all.
👉 Want to uncover your patterns? Take the quiz — Write QUIZ in the comments and I’ll send it your way.
