It’s a long road, and it isn’t always predictable, or smooth, or pleasant. Lots of things happen that will never be okay … but you can endure, you can persevere, you can find a way to be okay even when nothing is okay. Find the people who are important to you, do things that make you feel happier. And I say happier, not happy; because sometimes the goal is to make today more tolerable. And hopefully find an easier stretch of road!!
Photo credit: @chronicpaininyour20s
#selfcare #life #wellness #hope #strength
I wanted to write 70/30, but that made me laugh.
At 60/40 I felt like it was getting closer, but still a bit of a reach.
55/45 seemed like a more realistic split.
But in all honesty, this is obviously not a “get if right” vs “fuck it up” scenario. There is a lot of room in between, and these are not the only two options. But if you think the goal is to get it right 100% if the time, then you’re headed for a lot of guilt, shame, and feelings of failure.
Redefine what success means. Sometimes, the biggest success is letting your kids see that when you mess up … you own it, can apologize, and can make adjustments. So by that definition, imperfect BECOMES perfect.
I reposted this from a while ago … it’s true, but also I hope it’s good for a laugh.
#parenting #stress #growth #truth #humor
We often think of loneliness as a symptom of being by ourselves, being alone, or solitude. But often, the deepest forms of loneliness come when you are surrounded by people, but feel they don’t know who you are, don’t understand you, or make you feel unsettled or tense. Being separated from the people who are most important, whether it is by geography or loss … feels terrible. But we underestimate the impact of being surrounded by people and feeling alone.
Make time for the people who make you feel at peace, who know you, and make you feel like the most genuine version of yourself.
#lonely #depression #selfcare #mentalhealth #wellness
The notion of perfect … is a recipe for misery. Goals should be set for inspiration and motivation, not for self-criticism and marking failure. When you strive for perfect, then if you achieve that goal … the brain simply labels it as less than perfect and pushes the target farther out; until the goal itself is impossible. But that means something is only “perfect” if it’s unachievable! Set goals that are achievable, celebrate that achievement, and then set a new attainable goal. You’ll feel so much better!
This is a snippet from a group session with @syattfitness as part of their inner circle. It’s an amazing community that provides fitness and nutrition programming along with an amazing supportive community!
#growth #selfcare #wellness #perfect #goals
🤣🤣🤣 hope this is good for a laugh. The Ring team is working hard to make their alerts more and more specific (for an upcharge of course). I’ve seen, “someone in a yellow jacket is delivering a package,” or “a red car just pulled into your driveway.” But this one surprised me 🤣
#humor #funny #smile #laugh #happy
Your happiness and peace, should not be dependent on keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself. If sharing your feelings creates conflict, people stop sharing. And it can build resentment. If you can’t talk openly, and productively … then as communication breaks down, so does connection, and the relationship will suffer.
#growth #selfcare #relationships #wellness #mentalhealth
A toxic individual, or someone with narcissistic traits, is angered by someone being angry at them. They are so confident that they are right, or that they don’t make mistakes, or that the mistake they made was only because of your behavior that forced them to do whatever it is they did. So when you express frustration or anger, their reply will often be anger towards you. And that will become the new argument/discussion. I should also revise, I shouldn’t say NOTHING makes them more angry … but it’s a near guarantee that it will piss them off.
#narcissist #toxic #selflove #growth #mentalhealth
The choices you make today, will always be more important than the choices you made or didn’t make yesterday or any day prior to that. If you keep saying you’re going to do something, and decide to do it today … then it’s a success. It does not matter if you’ve been saying you’re going to start every day for the last year! Choosing to make a different choice today, is more important than anything else. It’s your path to feeling better today, and making sure your future is what you want it to be.
#growth #growthmindset #selfcare #change #mentalhealth
What you see or how someone appears, does not represent how they may feel. Emotional and physical pain are not always apparent. I share this not to provide shame or criticize in any way, only to hope explain why “you LOOK great,” may not always be the compliment you think it is. If someone is struggling, you can say, “you look great, I hope you’re feeling okay also.” Or simply to say, “it’s great to see you.” But a lot of people put on a mask, and when the mask fools people … it can feel lonely. If you ask someone how they’re doing … make sure you mean it.
#pain #chronicillness #mentalhealth #health #wellness
Here are some of my relationship/marriage tips, and a brief explanation …
1. Marriage is not a requirement. Period. Try not to let life’s pressures push you into a relationship because you’re afraid, you’re “running out of time.”
2. Self-sufficiency. If you want to have a quality relationship, make sure you are capable of living completely and totally independently. If you end up in a relationship where someone else pays all the bills, and manages the finances, then if you want to leave, you’ll feel stuck because they control a bit part of YOUR life. Too many people go from having family or parents who are “taking care of you,” to being in a relationship where they are taken care of. Feeling scared to be on your own will keep you in a relationship that isn’t what you want. So, make sure you are with someone because you WANT to be; and also, make sure they are with you because THEY want to be. There is something very alluring about being needed. But be careful, because at some point it may feel like a burden that you are taking care of a basic need for your partner, and knowing they would be in trouble without you is a lot of pressure.
3. The gameshow test. Would you want to be on a gameshow with this person. How do they handle stress, how do they communicate, do they bring out the best in you … do you bring out the best in them. If the answer is “absolutely not!” … then it may not be the best match.
4. Intimacy needs. We don’t typically talk about this because it can be a taboo subject. But intimacy is an important part of a romantic relationship. And it’s important to make sure that your needs and wants are similar or it can create tension.
5. Adaptability. The ability to adapt and accept change and be flexible in life … is so important. Work on this for yourself, and look for a partner that has this trait.
6. Relationships end. Sometimes people grow and change together and sometimes they grow apart. Staying in a relationship that makes you unhappy … that is a failed relationship.
#marriage #relationships #growth #selfcare #mentalhealth
We live in a world of constant judgement. People are criticized for being too strong, too fit, for being too skinny, for being overweight, for clothing choice … well, for just about everything. So if you can be judged harshly no matter WHAT you look like. Then it’s safe to say that anyone who makes you feel that way … is an idiot.
#selfcare#selflove #wellness #mentalhealth #growth
