My attention was drawn to a viral clip where an esteemed mother in the faith was advising married women not to befriend female divorcees. It was quite upsetting to say the least, and the public responses reflected this.
Firstly .. I think these media teams in church need to do better. I'm not sure some statements should be posted as short clips.
Now, I am not sure of anyone who went into marriage expecting to be divorced, especially amongst us as believers. However, life happens. And it's quite painful that your church, a family where you have been part of, suddenly sees you as "different" because you are divorced.
One of the things my divorce taught me, is mercy and compassion for others whose state I can't understand at that point. It's one of those deeply painful moments where people should be shown mercy and covered with grace, by their church family. So saying people should avoid them , is literally throwing them to the wolves, and I know people who have lost their way in their faith walk after a divorce. I've seen ministers who preached against divorce, rescue their kids when a spouse wanted to destroy them. While I'm not advocating divorce, but I believe that grace must be extended to believers who have lost their marriages. It's a double whammy to lose a marriage, and also be isolated in church.
I think it's time our faith leaders learn to be more compassionate, and not trivialise a pain you haven't experienced.
"They should remarry" ,like there is a waiting room where they can pick someone.. That statement , was unkind. And much as I'm a church girlie, I think we need to be careful how we make comments on such issues.
My church support group for divorced people gave me succour when life pulled the rug from my feet. I felt seen, loved, and it helped rebuild my self esteem.
I'm at a point in my journey where my self esteem is so high up, that you can't shame me with being divorced. But we still have some of us who struggle with shame .. and if shame comes from your family, then it's tougher to raise your head outside.
I'm grateful for my journey ,and I would not ignore the role my faith played in getting me back up.
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Hey fam! I've been thinking... You know,.I'm really very pleased with the number of young Drs pushing out content, both medical and non medical. Doing other things and expressing their full potentials. Makes me really happy. The average medical doctor, is incredibly brilliant, but medical training is designed to suffocate you😂😂. Takes away your youth as you train, and you think it gets easier when you start working... Lori iro! . It doesn't. Exams after exams, emergency after emergency, and slowly, your life revolves around medicine and hospitals. Your friends even forget you because you're always on call. It's like having jealous partner.
Dear young doctor, chase your dreams. If you're in Nigeria, chase them even harder. You have other expressions of you, that will give you joy and fulfillment as well. And yes, more money too😉😝. Let the world truly see the light you carry. Our lives doesn't begin and end with medicine.
I love my job. But I'm also happy the younger ones are finding more expression in other things.
Dance if you like to. Act. Sew. Get that Tech training. Are you a born comedian like my friend @thenoisynaijapaediatrician , explore it. Fashionista, give it to us!
By all means... Chase your dreams, in your youth. Don't let anyone put your creativity in a box because you're a Dr.
That's part of why I do counselling and divorce recovery coaching. I love it!
Maybe one day una go see me dancing on Tik tok🤣🤣🤣.
There is lot in there... Let's see it. ❤
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One tip for healing after a divorce, is improving your physical fitness. Physical fitness, helps you build resilience, tenacity and mental clarity for the journey ahead. Raising kids largely alone isn't a joke, and the body that carries that weight, must be cared for.
Bodily exercise profiteth little, but that little, please get it. Especially because once we hit 40, our bodies literally start having thier own mind,😁😁.
Start with walks. 30 mins. Increase. Add weights. You may not see the numbers on the scales dropping, but, you feel better and your confidence starts to rise. Consistency helps. 30 mins every day or at least 4 days/week is better than 2hours every other week. My morning walks have me switching from likely a Joshua Selman or Cindy Trimm sermon to prayers. So,Just in case you hear me shouting "fire " on the road, just know it's 7am WAT🤣🤣.
I'm immensely grateful to God for my journey. I count my blessings , and stay in gratitude.
We have gone through the fire , and are coming out as gold. God is in the story, and I've passed the stage of asking "why?". In this phase, we have grown, and asking God how to use this pain to fulfill purpose.
There is life, after divorce!
#familylifepractitioner
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I read of a doctor who is briefly stepping aside from medicine to face content creating, and people had all sorts of opinions. See ehn,we all don't realize how draining being a physician is, especially in a country with a struggling healthcare sector. Medicine is jealous. It literally doesn't allow you much room to do anything else, except you really fight for that hobby.
Anyways .. I plan to be more intentional about exploring other parts of me that give me joy. My colleague, a relocated doctor reminded me yesterday of why I'm a family life practitioner and divorce recovery coach on a random phone call. I had posted something on my status, and he called. He reminded me that families are struggling, especially those of professional women who have relocated. And shared with me how many of our colleagues' marriages are cracking, and how he fears for the family unit.
He reminded me of how important our work in the family life sector is.
So , I would be more intentional about building stronger families, helping divorced people heal, and raising healthy kids even as single parents, and more especially speaking to divorced Christians, who are struggling with church hurt, and feeling like they have failed God.
God hates divorce. I do too. It's HARD!!! But, as a divorced believer, we are still ministers of the gospel. My audience may be more of people who are walking the path,I have walked, and showing them , Jesus is still Lord, and he loves us... Scars and all!!!
DM for your counselling needs.
I honour you!
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This was my song, all through the seasons when I wasn't sure how God will come through for my kids and I. But at every step, he made a way.
God heals. God restores, and God re- writes stories. If you're parenting alone for whatever reason, trust God to make a way. He always comes through. Are you divorced, seperated or widowed, looking at your children and wondering what will become of them? Trust God who gave them. He will make a way.
As always.. I'm very vocal about the need for us to be empowered as women. You never know when you need to ditch the "baby girl" life, and "Man up"... Literally😁! Just keep building yourself, intentionally and strategically.
The "parenting- alone" journey is tough. But we have a God who does exceedingly, abundantly, far above all that we could ever ask or imagine! He's a good father!!
I remain, Dr Amalachukwu Okore, Consultant paediatrician, family life practitioner, and divorce recovery coach. Also, proudly.Mama Dr. Amarachi Okore.😁,(Biko hail me because it didn't easy nwanne😂😂) and I'm here to remind you, that God, can be trusted!!!
If you're navigating a divorce, or in a turbulent marriage, wondering what to do... DM me. I'm your plug for that phase.. I've earned the badge. Ujo adiro. 💪😁. And if you're in a healthy marriage... Fight for it. Keep building it. Not everyone can go the route life took some of us, and come out very sane.. Some marital issues can be resolved.
I honor you. 🙏
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Stepping into a new age with gratitude to El - ROI, for his mercy, his kindness and his unwavering love. Through the darkest nights, his light always shines.
As I grow older I understand more fully that there is no life for me outside Abba, for In Christ alone, my hope is found.
E cheta obi esie m Ike... Nnam daalu. Thank you for everything. I come with a deep sense of gratitude.
My daddy... Carry me, this new year, and beyond. 🙏🙏.
Happy birthday Amalachukwu, A woman helped by God!!
Happy new year!
Greater heights. Greater peace. Great health
and Phenomenal growth!
Last year was different things to each one, but whatever it was for you, gratitude is a great way to start the year!
Count your blessings, and you will be surprised what the. Lord has done!
And the Lord crowned my year with his goodness!
Ladies and Gentlemen... Dr Amara Okore the 2nd!!! 💃. Just negodu nwa!!! 😍😍
You can't imagine my joy. It's been a long, hard road. Single parenting, isn't for the weak. I'm grateful to God, my parents... Ah!! My parents!!!🙌🙌. My siblings. my cousin, Dr Nonso, Oluyole ore mi. And many others who God has used to support my children and I. May the Lord support you. Daalu nu. Daalu! It indeed takes a village!!
Today.. I celebrate faith. Resilience, and the fact that God can be trusted, and he never leaves his own..
The tight budgets that literally left no breathing space for random spending,😁.. The long night conversations with God, asking him what his plan for this weight was.. The times that I had no answers, but just had to trust the process, and trust the burden bearer... The tears. The pain that birthed a warrior woman.
Nnam, " I si na I ga- ebulu m ibu a" And indeed, you have. Bit by bit, the chords of the victory song are coming together. .
For this, and all that I am more confident you will do, I say, THANK YOU Jesus!!!!
Welcome to the fold, Dr Amarachi Okore MBBS{Nig)
Ada ,Dr Amalachukwu Okore. MBBS (Nig) FMCPaed. DAA. Runaway MBA student🤣.
Nwa m, Onye nwe anyi duo gi ije. You will surpass whatever I have achieved, God helping you! I'm a proud nne doc! 🤣🤣🤸♂️🤸♂️
Knock knock!! 😁. Long time no post! 😊.Life has been lifing! Thank you to everyone who checked on me.. God bless you!
So, this week, Pst Bimbo Odukoya's daughter, Pst Tolu came out to day she was separated, and of course.. The comment sections were agog!
"Did you not hear God? ", " What will you teach young women under you? " Your mother taught us about love and marriage, and this is happening? "
Questions!! A lot of questions.
No one ever gets married planning to get divorced. The end of a marriage, is a death in its own way.
Did she not hear God? She did. I did too. 😁. But hearing God doesn't take away the fact that marriage is work, and each partner must take personal responsibility for grooming the relationship. A relationship that isn't nurtured.. Is likely to die.
That said... It's easy for us to throw stones. But one of the lessons I learnt from my divorce journey, is that sometimes.. Life takes detours we never planned. But.. Regardless of the detour, we must keep moving, knowing that the detour is still leading us to our destiny path, especially if we are walking with the Lord.
If life has thrown you a curved ball, keep moving. Don't bow your head in shame. Im a firm believer in building strong marriages, and I counsel couples too. However, sometimes, marriages have to end. If it does.. Just know this.. Your life doesn't have to end with it. There is a beautiful life on the other side of divorce. And if you're a person of faith, Jesus is enough!
"What will people say?" .. People will always have what to say. But let your response, be growth!! Don't let them see you where they left you. You're divorced, okay. Grieve it, then pick up the pieces, and make lemonade out of the lemons. You can live again!
It is my prayer that everyone life has given a wilderness experience, finds grace to rise up, and fight back. Through this fire.. I have become better.. And I do pray that whatever fire you're facing, leaves you better.
And hey.. Jesus is enough!
If you're in a difficult marriage, or navigating divorce,send a DM let's talk about it. Divorce is not the end of the road for you. Reframe the experience, to turn for your good.
I honor you!
