I heard this recently in Ted Talk. While clearly it is an unreasonable aspiration, but I find that a life is best lived by having unobtainable aspirations. https://youtu.be/aBc2kw8aHRM?si=v7QTjo2VV8L5XnKj
https://youtu.be/2ShZKR5Uo2I?si=pbNzBbLXnwgM1sD8 Listening to this TED talk, truly reminded me of her advice to me. 1. Don’t be the hero, be the listener
2. Don’t leave, be present
3. Lean back and let them act
I miss Mom so much, some days I wish I could just have one of her Ted talks that she gave me, then I remember, no she gave me enough. She taught me to love bravely. I don’t need her here, because she already gave me everything. For fifty years I know that every day when she woke up I was on her mind when she prayed for me and again every night and every moment in between she lived to love me. She was so brave, I can be too.
Okay so this is a bit awkward but I’m going to do it anyway and please recognize I’m not shaming anyone, we are all at our own place on our journey. But I’m excited because I reached Mya goal I set almost two years ago. I set the goal after a flight attendant asked if I needed a seatbelt extender. I recognized that I needed to get healthy, for me to be able to be the person I wanted to be, specifically to be around to care for my loved ones. So I committed to change. I learned more about myself and began to be mindful of my diet, then I was able to reintroduce exercise and find a way to have it all work. I love food and sharing it with others, but I have found a better balance for a middle aged man. I didn’t use any medicine or surgery but if you need to do it. I did start investing in my mental health. I regularly see a therapist, I am meditating, I’m exercising, I’m trying to improve my personal relationships. I’m not where I want to be with everything, but I’m closer than I have been in the last decade. Thank you everyone who has supported me in my journey. Time to make a new goal.
Happy Birthday Jennie and Sailor! Thank you everyone who celebrated with us, from close friends and family to the strange parking lot lady, arman/domingo the server and captain America who continued to hit on you with the confidence of a Marine with 23 years of service, well maybe he was a liar and his backstory didn’t track but regardless he now is part of our story.
A great reminder of one of the reasons why we have this month. I hope that we all can reflect on what’s wrong and commit to be better. We can’t solve all the problems in the world but we can make the world better by loving one another.
When I was young a teenage boy named Tony came into our family. He and I struggled for years to connect as he had suffered through much of his childhood and I was young, foolish and lacked empathy. He taught me through his example so much about hard work, overcoming adversity and resiliency. I am so proud to call him my brother and I know he sees us celebrating this day. I’m sure he still is downplaying it but I know our Mom is there making a big deal about it with him and our Dad is bragging incessantly about his soldier son. Happy Memorial Day!
Happy international women’s day to all of the mothers, daughters, sisters, wives and friends. I hope this weekend you can feel the joy that you bring to so many others. Thank you for comforting and loving us, oh and tolerating us :)
Happy birthday to my amazing bride, @carterjennie Thank you for being on this journey with me, life isn’t always easy but you always get back up. This has been a tough year, but you are tougher. I love you.
This isn’t me being political, this is me being human and trying to protect the people that I love. Please don’t support those that hate those that I love.
