"Yvah comes from the word Eve. Yvah is for women. I decided my biggest goal first was to build a community. And I didn't want to just share other people's stories. I wanted to share mine. I wanted to start with myself because people already have this opinion of who I am. People judge each other off of appearances, off of social media, or what they see." - @darmorer
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Coming from a Caribbean background, I was taught manners, respect and obedience very early.
But as I’ve grown and healed, I’ve realized something difficult:
Sometimes what we called “respect” was actually fear, control, emotional suppression and survival.
Many of us were raised in environments where emotional regulation didn’t exist. People exploded, shut down, lashed out or stayed silent to avoid conflict and without realizing it, we carried those patterns into adulthood.
Therapy taught me that healing isn’t about blaming our parents. It’s about becoming aware enough to break cycles that harmed us.
So now I choose differently.
I choose boundaries.
I choose stillness.
I choose emotional safety.
I choose healing.
To be honest, that decision changed my life.
For those raised in strict or emotionally reactive households, what’s one thing you’ve had to unlearn as an adult?
"When I talk about being uncaged I always want to know what the specific cage was for people. Because for a lot of us the cage was not ugly. Sometimes it was a career people envied, or a version of you that people celebrated and applauded. What was the version of Dominique the world decided you were, and when did you first feel it start to not fit?"
A delightfully destined #creatorconvo between @darmorer and @nikkastar an offering of the @birdsuncaged movement and community.
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"Being alone and feeling my way into decisions is something that defines my season right now." - @nikkastar
An excerpt from what can only be described as a delightfully destined conversation between @darmorer and I for our @birdsuncaged #creatorconvos inside #thenest
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Part 2.
For thirteen years I lived inside a blended family dynamic that stretched me in ways I never expected.
I loved deeply, I made mistakes, I carried resentment and eventually I learned something powerful: parenting is not about perfection. It’s about humility, growth and something shaving the courage to apologize to the children we are trying to guide.
Now life had shifted. The divorce is in motion, my healing continues and the question everyone keeps asking is:
“Are you ready to date?”
The truth is… dating isn’t what scares me. Well, maybe it does a little.
Blending families again is, because when you have children, love is never just about two people. It is about worlds colliding,hearts adjusting and protecting the peace you have fought hard to create.
So I am curious:
For those who have dated with children, how did you protect your kids and your peace while opening your heart again?
Part one….
Blended families don’t come with manuals.
They come with emotions,layers, distance,judgement and opinions.
And sometimes…. Resentment you don’t want to admit out loud.
Loving a child who isn’t biologically yours is a sacred kind of love, but navigating the dynamics around that love can be heavy.
If you have ever felt stretched thin in a co-parenting situation or questioned yourself or felt guilty for being overwhelmed….
You’re not failing.
You’re human.
At Yvah, we believe you can love deeply and still need boundaries because both can exist.
To every woman doing her best in a blended family, your heart sees more than anyone knows.
