parenting wasn’t something that i ever put on my list of goals. if you know me for a while now, you know that since i was seventeen, being childless has been my stance. (and after a brief career stint in the early childhood industry as a kinder teacher, this didn’t change at all 😂 patience isn’t one of my virtue)
changing my mind wasn’t instant - it took us years: to discuss, to weigh out the pros and cons, and to finally settle on a timeline that could work. changing my mind wasn’t easy, and my husband will echo the sentiment, i’m sure.
i still honestly think that i wouldn’t become an award winning mum whatsoever — but i wholeheartedly believe that my husband will be a super great dad, so we’ll be okay.
happy 2nd anniversary — i’m glad both of us forgot about this and it’s not just my pregnancy brain 😂
photo by @lukasatmaja@kitapunyaceritera
makeup & hair by @imfionayauw
styling by @nat.alvr
assisted by @valinasinka
happy one year of parenthood.
the days are long, the year is also long (less long but also not that short) - some days are filled with tears, most days are filled with laughter, every day is filled with compromise and strategic planning (even taking showers need planning).
but everyday i’m grateful that you’re my chosen partner - thank you for the past year, and i look forward for the years ahead (and may we survive toddlerhood).
2025: the year we become parents. it’s insane, exhausting, rewarding, humbling, stressful, fun - basically a ball of mixed shit pressed together.
being parents is a job for life - can’t resign, can’t retire from it - and i’m still learning on how to do it well enough so my kid won’t hate me when he’s older. i lost myself (still), i lost my work-life balance, i lost time, and i’m dead tired 99% of the time.
at the same time, sometimes i find myself enjoying the same routine everyday, i find myself getting excited at all the little things - the little joys in life, and just having fun with my little family - there are more laughter in the house now.
i still cry alone from time to time (stress omg parenting is hard guys) - not those girls who are born to be a mother - but i guess that’s just what motherhood (for me) is. a learning curve. me and the bub learning together.
hopefully there’s less tears in 2026 (me & the bb) so my husband won’t worry about us when he’s off on work travels, & more laughter and more fun adventures (cos he’ll be able to walk soon and try more food!!!)
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had to delete the ‘day one’ in 2015 bcs i forgot to censor his bank account number & i am too lazy to post this whole thing again — but basically both our day ones were just transactions (ko aku transfer ya (2015) & aku sdh beli tiket ya (2018). so romantic. he replies with ‘ok’ three times. dying to love me wow. 🤪
it’s okay, all forgiven. this is a classic story of she fell first, he fell harder aka suami bucin maksimal 🫰🏼(though now i have been replaced by his mini me…)
to the one who encourages me whenever i’m close to giving up; the one who holds colin for hours and hours whenever i’m exhausted; the only one that can make colin laughs for 15 minutes straight; the one who works hard to make sure we get what we need, even just what we wants, sometimes; the one who shows his love every second of every day - we see you, we appreciate you, we love you. happy birthday 🤎
hi, i’m colin. i took a while to get here (& then i made sure i escalated things very quickly for my mum & dad) & i weighed like 500gr more than what the ultrasound said. i’m all cheeks and cuteness but too bad you can’t see it cos my mum said i can’t be on instagram 🤪
now i understand why people say “we’re pregnant.”
I always thought that’s weird - why would it be a ‘we’ when I’d be the one carrying?
but without him, i don’t think i’d survive, or even enjoy, this rollercoaster ride pregnancy has put us on. everything helpful a husband could do - he’s done it, still does, and honestly, will always do ❤️ to say that the baby & i are lucky to have him, is quite the understatement of the century.
beautiful video by @fffidelia@kitapunyaceritera
photo by @lukasatmaja
makeup by @imfionayauw
styling by @nat.alvr
dress by @satoobykitakami
assisted by @valinasinka
