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Everything they say about lesbians and uhauling is true 😂 no regrets for any minute of my life i spend in extreme lesbian behaviors w @coatsiepie (for almost two decades whoa) and we are getting excited to make some changes 👷‍♂️ to the house ✨

This spring I am so excited to be convening online and teaching creative practice. Enrollment is open for Make it Better. Registration closes March 15. link to infinitegrowth.rocks in bio. Make it Better is an 8-week live and self-guided virtual experience focused on vision, voice, and creativity.
You get: * 24/7 access to the self-guided Holistic Vision, Daily Muse, and Voice curricula * Weekly live meditations and course instructions, recorded for replay on your own time * Real-time co-working sessions, and support videos for solo concentrated work * Group coaching (live only) * 1:1 inquiry coaching sessions (live & a-synchronous options available) Come get wind in your sails.
Excavate what is underneath the hesitation.
Be of service by listening to others.
Say the things you have been afraid to say.
Begin the projects some people might call impossible. This is a two-month, wrap-around virtual universe of creative support.

NYC get your Crush Life Manifestos at The LGBTQ Community Center @bgsqd . Thank you for putting us on your shelves. So many cool books by queer people in this shop! The Bureau of General Services—Queer Division is an independent, all-volunteer queer bookstore, cultural center, and event space founded in 2012. Congrats to my old friend @tihi_rizh (s/o @storybasedstrategy ) for the forthcoming novel and incredible reading tonight. Tihi’s hot new fiction book Orbital Beebop will be out this month with @rizepress everybody buy the book!

Hey Valentines. How do you relate to arousal? What if it’s a doorway to freedom? Crush Life is the audacity to be turned on. Why? Because this is a form of power that has been systematically taken from us. This piece explores the context and reasons why the empire has caused us to fear joy, and how we might expand our options. One reader said: “This is politically rigorous. It’s like poison is raining down on us, and Crush Life Manifesto is giving us an amulet of antidote. This is life-saving work.” Check in out on Crush Life Substack or get the print edition! ❤️

IT’S HAPPENING! We are printing shipping labels for all subscribers, presale buyers, and contributors! Crush Life Manifesto Mossy Space is printed and begins its journeys into the hands of people who want and need it THIS WEEK. There’s still time to get your order in this batch of shipments if you ORDER NOW! One for yourself, perhaps a few to have on hand as gifts … Thank you to everyone supporting and contributing to this project! It is an enormous effort and great delight to share. Who else needs this? Let’s find them.

Welcome to the world, Crush Life Manifesto: Mossy Space. This edition moves through erotic awakening and attachment, sex work and consent, queer lineage and family, grief and humor, generational trauma and cultural memory, collective care, practices for arousal and discernment, and visions for how we survive and create together in collapse. I am Danielle, and this publication is my dream. This edition draws from my work in social change, combined with contributor’s voices, to conjure why working directly with sexuality and voice is a necessary and high leverage response to fascism and societal collapse. Thank you to every contributor: the writers, team, artists, practitioners. I hope everyone will help us get this edition into the hands of people who need it. Brooklyn launch! Come out Wed. Jan 28 @ 7PM to celebrate these births with @suciascholar STORIES, a storytelling and study group series.

This year I explore the verb satiate, the process of satiation. How do people do this? So curious. Mirriam Webster says: The time has come at last to share the “sad” history of satiate, by which we mean that the two words—sad and satiate—are etymologically connected, not that the details will have you reaching for the tissue box. Both satiate and sad are related to the Latin adjective satis, meaning “enough.” When we say our desire, thirst, curiosity, etc. has been satiated, we mean it has been fully satisfied (satisfy being another satis descendant)—in other words, we’ve had enough. Satiate and sate (believed to be an alteration and shortening of satiate) sometimes imply simple contentment, but often suggest that having enough has dulled interest or desire for more, as in “Years of globe-trotting satiated their interest in travel.” Sad, which in its earliest use could describe someone who was weary or tired of something, traces back to the Old English adjective sæd, meaning “sated,” and sæd shares an ancient root with Latin satis.

2025 the word of the year was home. I barely took any photos, which was refreshing. home is my house with erin, which i love. it is the places i visit frequently like the river and the beach and new york (i am in an escalated affair with new york). and so much of it is the people. home for me is my relationships. so grateful to have so much love in my life. And the thing I am most proud of from the year is @crushlifemanifesto - the work i am doing in my voice, and in the voices i admire, and the ideas that excite me, towards a world where more people feel at home in themselves.

PRE-SALE! {link in bio} Crush Life Manifesto: Mossy Space is a 100+ page, full-color, small-batch publication exploring intimacy at the level of society. This edition asks a brave question: how do we change sexual norms when fear, abuse, and silence still run the show? Inside are essays, conversations, rituals, jokes, and world-building from top-tier thinkers, artists, and practitioners working with arousal, s&x magic, communal secure attachment, queer s@x parties, and relationships as social infrastructure. You will find apocalypse alongside pleasure, mossy space alongside rigor, and desire treated as a source of intelligence rather than scandal. Contributors include Lama Rod Owens, Ariel Szabo, Jungwon Kim, Logina Mostafa, Ash Lee, Tia Marie, Marla Renee Stewart, Caffyn Jesse, and more. From solarpunk imagination to K-pop Demon Hunters, from low-arousal connection to explicit conversations about consent, touch, and substances, this book goes where others refuse. Flamboyant, fierce, compassionate, and exquisitely informed, saying what is not allowed to be spoken. Pre-order now and enter the mossy space where creativity, healing, and social change grow.

Hey Brooklyn! Get your copies of Ancient Luxuries while they last at the Nonbinarian Bookstore @nonbinarianbike ! Check out their amazing community events and wow what a collection. Honored to be among the shelves and grateful for the volunteers who make it go. This bookstore is a mutual aid project. We love it!

Spent the day frolicking in Cape Ann with my sweet love @coatsiepie to celebrate our marriage 13 years ago today. By some miracle we continue to love each other more with every passage, and I feel grateful for every moment it exists.

Grateful for the time on Martha’s Vineyard w these beloveds of so many years. I love walking through the forest to the beach, bad bunny morning rides, long dinners and many hours of music, jokes, spontaneous performances, games. 🎲🎲🎲🎲🎲🎲🎲🎲🎲🎲