Iāve been feeling really uninspired with my closet recently, so I made it a point to document some recent outfits I felt good in. Iāve been feeling super out of touch with my personal style this past year and want to work toward loving getting dressed again. Can anyone relate? Sometimes I just wish I had a uniform I could throw on every day. š Whatās helped you get out of a rut like this?
Procrastination is a coping mechanism where we are choosing short-term comfort over long-term comfort.
Understanding this can shift our approach to tasks. The work is less about squeezing more out of your schedule and more about learning to stay with discomfort long enough to take the first step to get started.
Here are three things that help me when Iām procrastinating:
First, identify the emotion attached to the task. Naming the feeling reduces its intensity and brings the task back to its real size.
Second, reduce the scale. Instead of thinking about the finished outcome, think about the smallest meaningful step you can take. First, open the document. Next, write one sentence. Action builds momentum, and momentum makes the next step easier.
Third, practice self-compassion when I procrastinate. I acknowledge that procrastination is a normal, human behavior that most people do.
āI think what I love most about the process of creating it every month is that it feels like play for me. I get to share about topics Iām interested in, choose fun paper and envelopes, and experiment with stickers, stamps, and other extra touches. I get in a flow at my dining room table, folding, stamping, and sealing the envelopes. Iām definitely not the first person to come up with the idea of sending out snail mail. There are so many amazing artists sending out their art, poetry, photography, etc, but I love being able to add my own spin to it.ā
We caught up with compassion educator and coach @claggie for a conversation that spans heartfelt storytelling, snail mail traditions, and the art of a great thrift score. Trust us, this oneās worth slowing down for! #justblackdenim
The February letter may have been my favorite letter to design yet for my snail mail project, proud of you. Iām having sooo much fun with this. If you receive these letters, know Iām so thankful for you! If you have any topics youād like me to cover next, please let me know! I love hearing from you. š #snailmailrevolution #snailmail
I couldnāt decide which color I liked best so Iām just sharing them all š
Self-compassion is one of the most important skills, I think, someone can learn. Before I learned about it, I thought self-criticism was the only option. It really opened up my world to realize there was another way to treat ourselves. Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the care and concern you would give a friend when going through a challenging time, making a mistake, or experiencing something painful. It consists of three components:
- Self-kindness instead of self-judgment
- A sense of common humanity instead of feeling isolated
- Mindfulness instead of ruminating
Would you be interested in a short lesson and practice in self-compassion? Something free on zoom? I havenāt done one in awhile, but itās so fun being together and talking about this stuff.
Research on self-efficacy shows that when we believe weāre capable of change, weāre more likely to initiate effort, persist when things get hard, and adapt when our first try doesnāt work. When we donāt believe in our capacity to change, we tend to give up or not start at all.
Thereās also a cognitive bias at play here. Our brains are very good at looking for evidence that confirms what we already believe. If you believe āI never stick with things,ā youāll notice every time you struggle or fall off. If you believe āI can figure this out and stick with it,ā youāre more likely to notice progress and small wins.
Change doesnāt happen through goals and habits alone. Change is also about shaping the belief youāre collecting evidence for.
1. First book finished in 2026. Iāve seen mixed reviews, but I really loved it. Iām starting volume II next. If youāve read it, what did you think?
2. Last book finished in 2025. Patti Smithās writing is some of my favorite out there. I love getting sucked into her world. I devoured and need to read again at a slower pace.
Whatās the first book youāre reading this year?
Iām also reading multiple nonfiction books that are more for research purposes, but those arenāt quite as fun to share. :)
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