Raising her to remember what I rediscovered in my late 20’s ❤️
Sometimes the world teaches us to seek validation, to compare, to compete. But what if our children grew up knowing their worth is internal. That beauty is spirit, success is shared, and someone else’s greatness is an invitation rather than a threat.
We call this our home school curriculum for the real world! It’s how we’re raising her to stay rooted in self-respect, empathy, & inner safety. And TBH!! she’s teaching me just as much. 🤍
Reparenting is a journey that opens healing up to the present moment. And it’s also about rewriting what the next generation remembers as normal. Sacred beings on a sacred earth sharing sacred experiences! ✍🏽❤️
Walk this talk with me. Raise Liberated Littles in bio 🤍
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A few days ago, we left one of my daughter’s favorite stores (Barnes & noble) & she had a complete meltdown because she didn’t want to leave. She worked herself up into a frenzied state & it reminded me when I used to do the same (at a much older age than her).
When we got home, we took a bath & this song came to me. Now we sing this song when we’re playing to plant this knowing in her awareness as she grows. It’s just a reminder that our emotions will stay in motion & process through when we focus on our breath going in & out of our body as they come through.
Even as an adult, it’s helpful to remember we can befriend our emotions as messengers instead of threats. That we’re safe to feel a range of emotions when we stay connected to our breath🤍
This is what we practice inside Raise Liberated Littles. Link in bio.
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A few nights ago, my daughter got upset because I told her it was time to wash her favorite pants. She’s worn them nonstop for a week & didn’t want to take them off. When I asked her to please take them off & get ready for her bath, she started screaming at me, working herself up to the point where she shouted “I don’t like you mommy!” and it reminded me when I used to do the same (at a much older age than her).
When conversations with people I cared about turned into a fire I couldn’t control making me say things I didn’t mean & hurting the feelings of myself & the other person. A time before I knew that I could connect to my breath and move my body instead of disrespectfully lashing out. It was all about defending, proving, burning, winning instead of connecting & getting to the root of the matter.
Later that evening as our family took a walk after dinner, this song came to us:
“we can speak with respect, when we’re mad, take a breath, safe to cry and let out a sigh, pat the ground, spin your hands around, don’t be mean, just let off your steam and always remember, we’re on the same team.”
Now we have this song to sing when we’re playing to plant an awareness within her as she grows. It’s a reminder that emotions are energy and when we move, breathe, and express with respect, we don’t have to let them take us under.
Even as adults, it’s powerful to remember: we can still teach our bodies a new way to feel safe with intensity, and we can express rather than explode. 🤍
This is what we practice inside Raise Liberated Littles. Link in bio.
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The future is now. Our future is now.
Our dreams don’t require external validation when we have a conscious relationship to the moment by moment breath moving in and out of our body. Getting to guide my daughter’s attention to the source within is a reclamation of all my experiences of outsourcing my dreams and future. The only future coming to us is the one we step into through our bodies right now. Feel your feet. Stand your ground. Living our dreams begins with an internal decision that doesn’t need anyone else’s permission!
Mother Earth, moms, the feminine energy in us all, we celebrate you today & always ❤️
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I love the dance of guiding her and letting her lead me 🧡
When children are only forced to follow and never given space to lead, they can grow afraid to trust themselves, be unsure of their authentic needs & preferences, & carry patterns of submission or control into adulthood.
Children who grow up without boundaries don’t have an understanding of how to live with others while staying true to themselves.
Children raised only to follow, or without real guidance, can develop patterns of submission, fear-driven compliance, or control-based behavior. All of which can lead to adults who dominate or suppress rather than inspire and collaborate.
We are raising the next generation of leaders. We are in a monumental position 🧡 Leaders rooted in heart-centered authenticity, not suppression or domination.
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Our children aren’t born to be our people-pleasers. They first learn how to use their voice at home. I loveee exploring all these facets of being a mother.
My early contemplations that molded how I show up for my daughter today:
When I’m busy with life, do I still value her voice or do I rush her through her thoughts or wish she would be quiet? When I’m tired, am I still open to hear her or do I shut the talking down? Am I able to meet her voice with curiosity even when she’s speaking things that I don’t agree with? Am I patient when I don’t understand? Is she safe to speak up during stress? Is her voice given space or subtly adapting to my pace? Are her ideas + perspectives celebrated? Are my follow up inquiries into her inner world raw + present or automatic + distracted? Do I allow her voice to lead our adventures some days? Do I honor her yes and no within safe limits? When she asks for something, are my responses automatic or attuned? Can I stay breathing into my body when her voice is loud or whiny? Mila, I promise to always hear you 🤍
I’m guiding my daughter to stay connected to her authentic voice early, so her voice isn’t unconsciously shaped by another’s trauma or unresolved emotions. She doesn’t have to fear losing love for speaking from her heart. She’ll grow knowing that her voice doesn’t cause disconnection. It creates alignment. It magnetizes the right people & the right opportunities. It keeps her heart free to talk its own language.
What starts at home gifts authenticity to the world.
Walk this talk with me. Raise Liberated Littles in bio 🤍
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This song was born from my experience of growing up scared to tell the truth & how that fear guided my life in adulthood and relationships as a result of habitually hiding.
I didn’t learn how to talk things through as a child. I learned how to brace for consequences. When truth is met with punishment, shame, or spiritual condemnation, the nervous system learns to hide. Hiding the truth becomes protection.
My nervous system learned it was safer to hide & hold the truth on my own… even when I needed guidance or help understanding and navigating it.
I carried that pattern until 27, when I chose to end the cycle and live from a new blueprint.
We Can Always Tell The Truth is a reclamation of my own energy & the conscious seed I’m planting into my daughter’s life:
You can tell me. Even when it’s hard. Even if you don’t understand it yet. Your truth is met with care, guidance, and support. I’m here.
I know my daughter will face her own challenges in life. What she will always know is that I am a safe place to come to with anything. This is how we dissolve the blueprint that hiding equals safety.
We can each choose to embody being a safe space for another to tell their truth. We can set each other free 🤍
Walk this talk with me. Raise Liberated Littles in bio.
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I wrote this song because so much of my life was shaped by fear of getting it wrong, the fear of being seen “failing”, the fear that my worth depended on how well I performed, the fear that I’d be less than in the eyes of God if I wasn’t “perfectly good”.
Perfectionism & an overly harsh inner critic ran my life until 28 and underneath it was a nervous system that believed mistakes meant danger.
So here’s what I’m teaching my daughter:
🤍Safety isn’t something you earn by being perfect. Most of us grew up believing love + safety = getting it right, not messing up, performing what our parents needed. I want her to know: mistakes are still safe. Trying is still safe. Being imperfect is still safe.
🤍Home is a sanctuary. It’s not somewhere to be scared to make mistakes. I didn’t grow up feeling safe to own up to my mistakes or talk about them. So I’m teaching her: our home is where you can learn about yourself, return to yourself, not hide from yourself.
🤍Curiosity is divine. “Try new things and explore your mind” is the opposite of the shame some of us carried as kids that muted our inner curiosities. Her inner world is worth exploring, not something to silence.
🤍Her identity is a spiritual being having a physical experience. “You are an extension of the divine.” I want her to know she’s inherently worthy, even when she messes up.
🤍 Growth matters more than perfection. “Do your best and shake off the rest.” Keep showing up. Keep staying true. Sometimes our best is messy and that’s part of the beauty.
🤍Every challenge carries wisdom. “There’s big beauty and wisdom in every test.” When mistakes are embraced, they are massive opportunities to learn & expand. Meet them with curiosity, courage, and breath.
Walk this talk with me. Raise Liberated Littles in bio.
#mindfulmotherhood #somaticparenting #emotionalsafety #gentleparenting #cyclebreaker #healingmotherhood #innerchildhealing #nervoussystemregulation #reparenting
Now THIS song is for the moms who are sometimes open to meeting frustration, overstimulation, rage, and sadness with a somatic groove 💃🏽🪩
I say sometimes because in reality, some moments call for stillness, some call for crying, and some call for shaking your hips and lips so the rage or overstimulation doesn’t act out in ways that aren’t your style.
She asked me to get her a different marker like 14 times in a row while I was finishing up folding clothes across the room. Each time telling her “the markers are right beside you Mila. Mommy is finishing this.” On the 15th Mommy, can you get it?, my whole nervous system lit up like: ohhh this is the moment where I lose it. I genuinely got the urge to throw the market box across the room. And when I felt into how aggressive & scary that would be to throw the box across the room, I paused, took a deep breath and started shaking my lips like a horse on the exhale. I got up, gave her the marker, and told her the next time she has to get it because I’m finishing folding the clothes.
That night as we took our bath, this little emotional freedom song was born. We talked about how mommy is learning with her. And songs like this remind me, I have options in my response to the heated moments ❤️🔥
Walk this talk with me. Raise Liberated Littles in bio.
We’re learning & growing, together. Imperfection is part of the beauty 🤍
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Sooooo many times in the past have I let lack & focusing on what is not there, what is not working guide the script & dialogue of my life. “I’ll be grateful when xyz happens” was a frequent equation. When Owen & I decided to use our relationship as a container to fuel our souls (rather than our egos), the embodiment of intimacy & connection between us took on a whole new meaning. I mean you can really evolve in wild ways when you’re not wasting your energy on BS in relationships.
We realized the intimacy bridged and anchored from simple, co-regulation practices like looking into each other eyes & breathing in & out together then expressing what we truly honor and love about one another as a way to recognize & honor the individual who holds the other half of partnership.
When that frequently starts to happen, it becomes part of your frequency. And it’s completely altered the way we can have more challenging conversations in our relationship. Because we enter them from an overflow of energy that the appreciation gives us, rather than attempting to communicate when there’s no bridge between the nervous systems in that moment. Still doesn’t always make it easy, but there’s a standard of respect embodied.
We invite you to experience this with someone you’re growing in truth with.
1. Eye gaze + sync breaths for 60 seconds
2. Share what you appreciate about the other person
3. End with an inhale in and a long hummm together
If you’re ready to activate a relationship (spouse, partner, friend, family, business) to be an evolutionary container to expand in truth & presence, this is exactly what I guide you through in Week 2 of the Reparenting Self Journey. Link in bio 🫶
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