At 40, I am not claiming to know it all. I am simply grateful for how far God has brought me, and I am open to who He is still making me become.
After 40 years, I have learnt that life will change, people will change, seasons will change, but God remains faithful.
I have lived through seasons that looked confusing, painful, delayed, and the silent ones, but looking back, I can see that God used every part of it. The tears, the waiting, the motherhood journey, the battles, the mistakes, the pruning, the obedience, the silence, the rebuilding, none of it was wasted.
Everything I survived, everything I learnt, everything I lost, the MISTAKES, and everything I became was part of God’s making.
I am still here because God is FAITHFUL.
At 40, Iam no longer rushing my process. I now understand that growth, healing, pruning, identity, confidence, and purpose takes time.
So I am learning to love God even when I do not understand the process. I am learning to trust Him even when the answers are not clear. I am learning to keep becoming, even when growth feels uncomfortable.
But one thing I know is this: when you LOVE GOD and TRUST Him, He will use every season for your good and His glory.
So keep becoming.
Keep healing.
Keep growing.
Keep learning.
Thank you for coming on this journey with me 😍
Sharing these lessons with you has been amazing! Thank you for your engagements 🌹
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📅 23rd May 2026
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I am learning that not every situation needs my voice, not every accusation needs my explanation, and not every misunderstanding needs my defence. Sometimes, the wisest thing I can do is to be quiet, step back, and allow time, truth, and God to speak for me.
There were times I felt the need to explain myself so badly. I wanted people to understand my heart, my intentions, and my side of the story. But I have also learned that some people are not listening to understand; they are listening to respond, judge, or prove their own point. In moments like that, silence is key.
I am learning that silence can protect my peace. It can stop me from saying things out of anger, pain, or frustration. It can save me from entering battles that were never assigned to me in the first place. Some arguments only drain your spirit, distract your focus, and pull you away from what truly matters.
I’m learning to choose my battles carefully. Some things deserve a conversation, but some things only need prayer, distance, and silence.
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I am so grateful for the massive love I received yesterday. I feel so blessed to be surrounded by amazing people.
For your calls, texts, gifts and thoughtful gestures, THANK YOU.
Words are not enough to express my gratitude honestly. Thank you so much.
I pray we always have reasons to celebrate one another.
I love you all 😍
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Today, I stand with a heart full of gratitude to God.
It is not by my strength, wisdom, beauty, effort, or ability. It is purely by the mercy and grace of God. When I look back over my journey, I can see His hand in every season: the seasons of joy, the seasons of waiting, the seasons of pain, the seasons of growth, and the seasons I did not fully understand.
God has kept me.
God has carried me.
God has corrected me.
God has strengthened me.
God has loved me even when I felt weak, tired, uncertain, or undeserving.
Thank You Jesus😍😍😍😍😍
I used to feel guilty whenever I tried to rest. I would feel as though I was being lazy, falling behind, or becoming weak. There were times I pushed myself beyond what my body, mind, and spirit could carry, simply because I thought strength meant always being available, always doing something, and never stopping.
If God made room for rest, then I must also learn to honour it. Rest does not mean I have given up. It does not mean I am unproductive. It means I understand that I cannot pour from an empty cup.
Sometimes, the most spiritual thing you can do is pause. Breathe. Sleep. Be still. Allow your body to recover. Allow your mind to be quiet. Allow your soul to be refreshed in God’s presence.
I have learned that constantly running without rest can make you tired, irritable, overwhelmed, and disconnected from yourself. But when you rest, you return stronger, clearer, and more present for the people and assignments God has placed in your hands.
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Protecting your peace does not mean you do not love people. It does not mean you are proud or selfish. It means you have learned to recognise what drains you, what distracts you, and what damages your spirit. It means you are learning when to speak, when to be silent, when to stay, and when to step back.
Even Jesus withdrew from the crowd to pray. He loved people deeply, but He also understood the importance of solitude, rest, and connection with the Father. That teaches me that boundaries are not a lack of love; sometimes, boundaries are what help us love from a healthy place.
I am learning that not every conversation deserves my energy. Not every battle requires my response. Not every invitation needs my yes. And not every environment is healthy for my growth.
Protecting my peace is part of protecting my purpose. Because when my heart is settled, I can see clearly. When my mind is calm, I can make better decisions. When my spirit is at rest, I can hear God more clearly.
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Growth does not always feel beautiful at the beginning. Sometimes it can be painful, confusing, lonely, and stretching.
We always pray for growth, but when God begins to put us through the process, we forget that we asked for it.
Growth will challenge the old version of you. It will confront habits, mindsets, relationships, fears, and comfort zones that can no longer go with you into the next season. THE NEW YOU.
But I understand now that there’s always a need for pruning so we can see new fruits. Pruning is a painful process.
John 15 reminds us that every branch that bears fruit, God prunes so that it can bear more fruit. That means pruning is not only for the broken; it is also for the fruitful. Sometimes God prunes you not because you are failing, but because He knows there is more in you.
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There have been times in my life when I did not even know how to pray properly. All I had were tears, questions, silence, and a heart full of emotions I could not explain. Sometimes i want to pray and I go to God with absolutely no words coming out of my mouth, but my heart is full.
I used to think I had to package my words before coming to God, but I am learning that God does not need performance from me. He wants truth.
I can tell Him, “Lord, I am tired.”
I can say, “God, I don’t understand what You are doing.”
I can say, “This hurts.”
I can say, “I am struggling, but I still want You.”
That kind of honesty is not weakness; it is intimacy.
Vulnerability with God shows that I trust Him enough to bring my real self, not just the version of me that looks strong to people.
A song writter says, “With you Lord, I can be naked and unashamed”. Say it the way it is, He KNOWS anyways. He is OUR FATHER.
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There have been times when I allowed situations, people, words, delays, and expectations to steal my joy. I would carry things in my heart for too long, overthink situations, and allow one small issue to affect my whole mood. But I am learning that my joy is too valuable to be left in the hands of circumstances or people.
Joy must be protected.
I have come to understand that maintaining joy is not pretending that life is easy. It is not ignoring pain, stress, or challenges. It is choosing not to let those things take over my heart. It is reminding myself that even when everything is not yet how I want it to be, God is still good, I am still blessed, and there is still something to be thankful for.
Prioritising my joy means knowing what drains me and learning to step back when necessary. It means creating healthy boundaries, choosing peace, surrounding myself with the right people, and refusing to give every situation access to my emotions.
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There were seasons when I looked at my life and felt like I was behind. I saw other people celebrating milestones, sharing testimonies, moving forward, and achieving things that made their lives look successful. And sometimes, without even realising it, I started comparing my journey to theirs.
I began to feel like I had nothing to show. No big achievement. No loud success. No visible evidence that I was doing well.
That feeling can be painful, especially when you know you are trying, praying, serving, working, and still waiting for certain things to happen.
I am learning that raising my children, staying faithful, surviving difficult seasons, growing in wisdom, serving people, choosing God when life was hard, and becoming a better version of myself are also achievements. They may not always come with applause, certificates, or public recognition, but they matter deeply.
I have also learned that before I achieved anything, I was already valuable to God. My worth was never waiting for a title, a job, a degree, a business, or people’s approval. My worth was already settled in Christ.
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A man of God once said, “You need to forget even the success and the victory of the past.”
That statement stayed with me because many times, when we talk about forgetting the past, we only think about pain, failure, disappointment, or mistakes. But I am learning that sometimes, even past success can hold you back if you are not careful.
There are victories God gave us yesterday that were beautiful for that season, but we cannot build our whole life around them. We must be grateful for what God has done, but still remain open to what He is doing now. Yesterday’s testimony should strengthen our faith, not stop our movement.
Sometimes, people remain stuck not because they failed, but because they succeeded. They keep referring to what God did before, how they were used before, what they achieved before, and the doors that opened before. But God is always calling us deeper. There is more to learn, more to become, and more to surrender.
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