Most of us were taught to wear the mask before we were ever taught how to be honest.
To smile. To look okay. To act like everything’s under control even when it isn’t.
And after a while, you stop knowing where the mask ends and you begin.
In Episode 8 of The Shift, sex therapist Amanda Adili and I talk about what happens when we suppress the parts of ourselves we’re afraid to show and how those unspoken things eventually start running the show.
Because what we refuse to face doesn’t disappear. It waits, often impatiently.
Episode 8 is now live.
There’s a certain kind of addiction we don’t talk about enough.
The addiction to being liked. To being validated. To controlling how people see us.
In Episode 8 of The Shift, sex therapist Amanda Adili and I talk about the fear that can come with showing up authentically and what happens when your worth becomes tied to other people’s reactions.
Because eventually, you realize no amount of approval can give you peace if you’re disconnected from yourself.
This conversation is honest and deeply human.
Episode 8 is now live.
“There’s a part of me that’s afraid that with one wrong move… it’s all gone.”
In Episode 8 of The Shift, I sit down with sex therapist Amanda Adili for a conversation about intimacy, self sabotage, and the fear that growth is somehow fragile. Like one impulsive decision could erase all the work.
We talk about what it means to actually become the version of yourself you’ve been working toward and the fear that can come with trying not to lose it.
This one got real. Episode 8 with sex therapist Amanda Adili goes live tomorrow, May 13.
FACE IT. SHIFT. GROW. REPEAT.
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I used to think if I just took everything away… my life would get better.
But it doesn’t work like that. If you don’t replace it with something that actually excites you, you’ll always feel like you’re missing something.
For me, I realized I still needed that intensity. Just from a different place.
Something healthy. Something creative. Something that actually lights me up.
Because if not… the old life will always look more appealing.
Episode 7 of The Shift is now live.
This one stayed with me.
It’s easy to hear something like God or faith and immediately tune out.
But what if you didn’t?
What if you just took what resonates and left the rest?
Maybe there is something for you, even if it’s not all for you.
Episode 7 of The Shift is now live.
Dane gets honest about the moment where the discipline fades… and the “f*ck-its” kick in.
And for a second, it feels like freedom.
But it’s the same cycle. Over and over again.
New episode of The Shift is live. Listen now.
That voice doesn’t just disappear.
It still shows up. Still pulls. Still tries to convince me it deserves the wheel.
And today, I heard it loud. But today, I’m not negotiating with it.
I can acknowledge it. I can understand where it comes from. I can even have compassion for it. But it doesn’t get to drive.
Not today.
And god willing, not ever.
That’s the work.
That’s the shift.
My brother Dane on what happens when you don’t have something to work toward.
There’s this vacuum inside of you… and if you’re not intentional, it’ll pull in whatever it wants.
For him, The Shift wasn’t just about stopping old habits.
It was about replacing them with something better. Something that actually builds you.
Episode 7 of The Shift drops Wednesday, May 6th.
Holding onto resentment felt justified for a long time. It felt like protection. Like if I let it go, I was saying what happened was okay.
But the truth is, it wasn’t protecting me. It was weighing me down. Keeping me stuck.
This isn’t about them. It’s about your growth. And as long as you hold on to that resentment, you’re carrying something that’s only going to hold you back.
Episode 6, Daddy Issues, Anyone? is now live. Link in bio.
There were men in my life who gave me something I didn’t even realize I needed. They gave their time, their attention, their presence. They listened to me, really listened, and for the first time in a long time, I felt seen and heard.
They weren’t just talking. They were showing me. Modeling what it looks like to be accountable, to be present, to be a good man.
And somewhere along the way, something clicked. Because once it was given to me, I could give it to someone else. That’s how this works.
Episode 6, Daddy Issues, Anyone? is now live. Link in bio.
Episode 6, Daddy Issues, Anyone? is now live.
“My side of the street? Are you kidding me? I’m the victim.” That’s exactly where I was.
All I could see was what he did, how it affected me, and all the reasons I felt justified in my anger.
But recovery asked me a different question… what was my role in how I showed up? And how do I want to show up moving forward?
Not to blame myself but to take my power back. Because as long as I stayed focused on his “wrongs”, I stayed stuck.
Face it. Shift. Grow. Repeat.
