Hi! We are Sara & Bas — a real couple coaching you in the art of being intimate.
At Being Intimate, we help individuals and couples master the skills most of us were never taught:
authentic relating, conscious communication, and embodied intimacy.
Our work blends lived experience with professional expertise to guide you toward deeper connection with yourself and with others.
We live what we teach, and are here to guide your journey to a more intimate, authentic and resilient relationships.
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Want to know how we can support you? Explore our offerings via the link in bio.
This clip is from our most-watched podcast episode so far “Nothing Off Limites: Relationship Q&A”, where we answered your questions about relationships, intimacy, and our relationship.
This is just one moment from a longer conversation where we reveal much more.
If you haven’t watched the full episode yet, you’ll find it on Spotify and Youtube. Link in bio!
One of the questions we got was about someone secretly dating two people at once.
What would you have answered?
Watch our full Q&A episode on Spotify and YouTube!
The season finale, “Nothing Off Limits: Relationship Q&A,” is live now!
We’re wrapping up this chapter (for now) with a Q&A pulled from the questions you’ve been asking us.
After this episode, we’re taking a break while we move into our new practice space.
We’ll be back next year with the next phase of our work, practice and podcast.
For now, enjoy this honest episode where we answer what you’ve been wanting to know!
🎙️ Episode 10 on Spotify and YouTube. Link in bio
In this next episode of Being Intimate, we talk about 10 common misconceptions about non-monogamy. We break down the things we often hear that just aren’t true for us and talk about what it actually looks like.
🎙️ Now live on Spotify and YouTube. Link in bio!
When we talk about building a village, we don’t mean an idealized commune — we mean a network of humans we can come home to around the world.
For us, non-monogamy isn’t just about freedom in love. It’s about creating a world where both us and our kids get to be surrounded by people who model presence, honesty, and resilience. And where weave a web of support, knowledge, and resources.
It does take a villiage, our village just looks a bit different!
🎙️Listen to the full conversation on Spotity and YouTube “Relationship Check-In: Creating Our Lives Separately Together”. Link in bio
People often say that relationships are about compromise.
But what if they’re not?
When two people are deeply in touch with what they truly want in life and love, alignment becomes possible without compromise.
That doesn’t mean we don’t make sacrifices — we do.
But those choices come from our own individual visions, not from giving up parts of ourselves to keep the other happy.
Because our visions are so aligned, those sacrifices don’t feel like losses, they being us closer to the life we desire.
We don’t shrink to fit each other.
We expand into a shared vision that holds space for both of us as individuals.
🎙️ Full episode of our Relationship Check-In on Spotify and YouTube. Link in bio!
New Podcast Episode Out Now — “Relationship Check-In: Creating Our Lives Separately, Together”
After 3½ weeks apart, across different time zones and separate routines, we sat down for a much-needed relationship check-in.
It’s easy to think that distance or separate lives mean growing apart — but what if it actually helps you grow stronger together?
We talk about how maintaining your own sense of self, passions, and purpose is one of the healthiest things you can do for your relationship.
Love isn’t about losing yourself in someone else — it’s about becoming the fullest version of yourself while choosing to share that growth with them.
If you’ve ever struggled to find balance between togetherness and independence, this conversation is for you.
🎙️ Tune in to our relationship check-in “Creating Our Lives Separately, Together” — now streaming on Spotify & YouTube. Link in Bio!
Compersion can take many forms.
For him, it isn’t about celebrating the act of her being with someone else…it’s about witnessing who she becomes through it.
The beauty isn’t in the act — it’s in her expansion.
It’s love meeting growth with awe instead of fear.
🎙️ Full episode “Jealousy as a Portal” on Spotify and YouTube. Link in bio
Have you ever cried because your partner was free?
Not from pain, but from the beauty of watching them be fully alive.
That’s what I felt.
And that’s what compersion really is — the joy in your partner’s joy, even when it isn’t about you.
It’s not detachment. It’s intimacy with reality itself.
There’s a kind of love that doesn’t cling, it witnesses.
It trusts that connection isn’t proven by control.
Compersion isn’t about being above jealousy.
It’s about letting love grow beyond possession… learning to feel beauty where fear used to live.
🎙️We explore this in Jealousy is a Portal, our latest episode of the Being Intimate podcast. Link in bio.
